I saw this documentary where (starting at 33:00) Icelandic girls directly approach guys in a bar, ask their names, ask them questions, and then get one guy’s number, and after the phone conversation they decide which one goes home with him: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oS4j74eHZs0](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oS4j74eHZs0)

Is this something typical for Iceland? Is such a direct approach something Icelandic people often do? Is this what dating (at least casual) often starts from in Iceland?

Or is these girls’ confidence extreme and not typical?

UPD: I should have known that Icelanders would think I’m asking this question because I want to go to Iceland to meet Icelandic women or something like that. But that’s not what I had in mind. I don’t have plans to go to Iceland to meet women. My reasons for asking this question are related to my social anxiety and lack of confidence. I want to understand if these girls’ behaviour is an ideal I should strive for if I want to be successful in dating.

UPD 2: Could you explain why you downvote my post?

by Prudent_Medicine_857

5 comments

  1. Yeah right, also we will pay if you come here to marry women /s

  3. This documentary is very misleading in a lot of ways and makes many broad and incorrect statements.

    Here are just a few I picked up while watching parts here and there

    – It frames the trip to the hot spring with a glass of wine like it is a daily/weekly thing in Iceland, but it isn’t. They were likely going there because of the film crew.

    – “Even the education system is trying to abolish the difference between male and female”. This is a very bold statement to make about the entire education system in Iceland and is also very inaccurate description of the work the kindergarten does. The kindergarten in the documentary is privately run and a vast majority of Icelandic children go to government run kindergartens. This particular privately owned kindergarten aims to allow the genders to figure out who they are without any gendered social expectations and actively encourages kids to explore the parts of themselves that society neglects outside of the kindergarten due to gendered stereotypes. So it is a place where kids can really figure out “am I strong” or “am I quiet” etc without being pigeonholed in to one category or the other.

    – “On the schedule no textbooks but an obstacle course with rock music in the background”. this makes it seems like the school actively shifts focus off learning and instead focuses on the activities, but kindergarteners don’t have any text books to begin with. These are 3-5 year old kindergarteners that haven’t started school yet and don’t know how to read because they are, in fact, in kindergarten…

    – The translation is often wrong. For example one kid says “you have beautiful eyes” but the translation says “you have a beautiful soul”. In another scene the women are talking about a guy stating his favorite sex position as “love”, clearly meant as a joke but the translation says “love position”. Then the subtitles read “I want a guy like that” when in reality they all scoffed and said the equivalent of “kill me now haha”

    – It connects female independence in Iceland with a lack of male confidence in some guys in Sweden.

    Also, in the end they did not decide who should go home with him but where they are going after this to continue the night all three of them.

    I could go on, but I wont. Do not use this in any way as reliable information.

  5. Some girls are forward like that, but most aren’t. I’d like to think of this as a good sign. Not just because of women sharing the burden of breaking the ice but I think it’s also a sign of them feeling more safe and in control of what is going to happen next (less worried that they may be talking to a rapist for example).

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