Someone has noticed that the vigils are more about being seen at vigils and supporting some kinda cause than the actual death of the poor teacher.
I feel like the whole thing has become a circus the last few days. I understand the anger and the vigils have been amazing, but there’s an air that people have forgotten about what the family are going through. Yes there needs to be change. But let the family mourn and bury their daughter .
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Not to be cynical but welcome to social media. It’s got very little to do with pushing a cause, and more about talking about doing it. It’s like the men who say they’ll ‘step up’ in their posts online; why does a grown man need to be told to look after the more vulnerable?
This happens everytime there’s an incident that causes outrage in the community. Social media trends are started by someone on twitter or Instagram, looking to be the first to get the ball rolling so everyone is sharing their post. That’s all people like that care about. More traffic onto their Instagram and twitter accounts, more likes and followers.
Same thing happened a year ago. Remember George Nkencho? Remember everyone was a BLM activist for the day, making those black square posts on their social media channels? People protested. Everyone was outraged. People were demanding things to change. Two weeks later and no one cared anymore. You ask most of those people now who Nkencho is and most of them wouldn’t have a clue.
Ashling Murphy wasn’t dead 24 hours before the social media trends started. Everyone on twitter and Instagram and Facebook trying to give their two cents. Making their own statements, their own vigils. Trying to one up everyone else, to stand out amongst the crowd. Quickly it becomes less about the victim and more about who can get the most shares. Give it a year and they won’t remember her name.
Never underestimate narcissists when there’s an opportunity for attention. I went to my local vigil and it was extremely sad and came very close to crying. The idea that someone would be worried about the perfect lighting, filters and captions for their own social media following is very distasteful and contrived. But again, narcissism will always poke its head out.
Can’t remember what disaster it was, maybe the explosion in Beirut.
But someone complied a large volume of people smiling taking selfies using #PrayForBeiruit.
Some people see these moments purely as an opportunity for self promotion. It would make you sick.
People really have made this all about themselves and attention seeking, exploiting this tragic death for likes
How come the woman murdered at the ifsc didn’t get the same love? Was she not insta friendly enough for that tribe?
Edit to add one of that tribe will be along soon to ask why I hadn’t organized vigils then as an attempt to defend the current circus.
Edit again as I expected a pathetic deflection attack for not using the name of the woman murdered in the isfc. Do people who want safer streets need to know the name of every victim to make their case?
I think it’s a much wider problem. The social media age is one of complete self absorption and narcissism. Yeah posing for a photo at a vigil is insane. But think about this underlying tweet, what’s the point. At least some of the motivation behind this tweet was appear as the ethical griever. As opposed to those self absorbed grievers.
A teacher gets murdered and half of Irish Twitter makes it about themselves.
The space age
The digital age
The self-obsessed age
“I’m not posting on Social Media today out of respect for Ashling Murphy”
Apart from that post, which gained lots of internet points.
The amount of businesses hopping on the tragedy in order to promote their services is sick. But what is more sickening is all the comments on their posts saying well done
Two women were murdered in Belfast within days of Sarah Everard’s murder. Social media (Irish and Northern Irish) was all abuzz with anger over Sarah Everard and not a peep about Karen Mclean or Stacey Knell who were both murdered by the same man; Ken Flanagan.
Irish women held vigils in Dublin and Belfast for Everard either the day of, or the day before the double murder in North Belfast but there wasn’t a mention about McLean or Knell. Even after their brutal murders Sarah Everard was still all over Irish / Northern Irish twitter.
Doing it just for performative reasons like social media clout is just pure narcissism. They don’t really care for the actual issue, and in fact will just drop it soon after. I seen this a lot over the years, notably Kony 2012, a completely fabricated “issue” made by a greasy cunt who loved milking money from idiots and doing a bit of public masturbation.
Or another example, people clapping for the NHS during the pandemic – holy fuck that one irritated the balls out of me! You’d think they’d push for giving them better pay instead or something, rather than that useless performative muck.
That said, people discussing issues they care about on social media, even stating it, isn’t really a bad thing. It does increase visibility to others. I have no issues bringing up issues various people face today on any social media. I don’t do it for me, I do it to increase visibility. If they don’t interact with it, no biggy. No wanky online petitions or anything needed.
Sadly you get certain idiots who mix the two up as being the same, under “virtue signalling”. Someone holding a genuine view and wants to share that with others does not make them a virtue signaller.
I have lost count of the amount of people trying to make this about themselves. It’s not about you, you fucking clown. Fuck off.
People take selfies at Auschwitz – never underestimate narcissism.
No vigils for Sharon Bennett who was beaten to death in the middle of Ennis in broad daylight last year. RIP to all those who have lost their lives.
Delete your social media.
There was a little girl here stabbed to death in Liverpool before Christmas. I am friends with a parent who’s daughter went to school with the little girl (14) and the parent posted pictures of her own daughter duck pouting with the peace sign infront of the vigil, arse bent sidewards full on poses with ‘She hasnt stopped crying, RIP’. I was fuckin HORRIFIED. Absolutely horrified, all for the gram !!
Social media is a cancer which encourages this narcissistic behaviour
The flash in the pan social justice warriors have always irked me they’ll completely change their personality every few weeks depending on the context. BLM In then out, something about the environment maybe then they’re bored of that then something womens rights.
It’s hard to call out this fake support because it may seem you’re calling out the actual subject which is not the case.
This would be the definition of Virtue Signaling wouldn’t it? Posing in front of a memorial to show off how much you “care” about something?
This kind of stuff is an appalling example of narcissistic virtue signalling. It’s like a more nefarious form of the ice bucket challenge whereby many joined in to specifically promote themselves on social media rather than have any genuine empathy for the cause.
The lack of self awareness and empathy these people have is disgusting.
But what’s the point in showing empathy if your followers can’t like it and tell you how amazing a person you are.
That is disgusting. Sadly it’s the world we now live it. Young people (as in under 20) seem to be incapable of doing anything without documenting it for strangers online. This is a new low though. Instagram is a fucking plague on society.
Modern society is suffering from endemic Narcissism. Weird direction we are all going.
People have agendas. I was at a vigil yesterday where Ruth Coppinger spoke. She name checked the Minister for Equality when mentioning lack of funding for certain services.
Possibly legitimate… until I saw she had also criticised him on Twitter for taking so long to post anything about this tragedy.
I believe she genuinely cares about gender-based violence. But I also think she’s cynically using this tragedy to have a go at her biggest rival for a seat in Dublin West.
People literally exploit their young children for likes so this doesnt surprise me.
Imagine when youre a young teenager and really start to grasp the concepts of social media and things online being permanent and maybe you’re a bit awkward and shy and then at school all the kids are pulling up old photos of you and your mom in matching pajamas from when you were 2? Nightmare fuel. The absolute desperate need some people have for likes and validation online today should be looked into as a mental illness, if you can take photos like this at a vigil for this girl and feel like its alright/justified then you need to get your head checked
There was definitely a PR firm or focus group behind most of those posts. Every influencer had the same post within minutes of each other and then it exaggerated from there.
I was at the vigil in galway and 2 girls in front of me were taking selfies with the candles they brought and talking about how cute they both looked. I thought it was prettiest disgusting.
I don’t like it tbh.
And I’ll prob be flamed for saying it. But there is an awful lot of grief vamipires online and it is stomach churning.
She was going for a run hashtags, people tweeting that THEY don’t feel safe running, ciara Kelly crying over it. The tweets saying isn’t it AWFUL, I’ve been thinking of the kids in her class, I sent my kid off to school and I was CRYING thinking it could have been their teacher. Let’s talk to her friends, isn’t it SAD, think of her boyfriend, he must be sad, I’ve been crying, I’ve been shaking all day, I’m so upset etc etc etc.
Leave the family mourn in peace. Stop making it about you. That’s what I want to say when I see the posts.
We’re obsessed with optics based ethics these days and caring is an ~a e s t h e t i c~ many people partake in for social capital.
It’s the same with some of these “musical tributes”. People capitalising on tiktok etc. Once the hashtag linked to this tragedy starts to fade, so will the attention unfortunately. I give it another week before it’s all forgotten about.
Twitters full of them. They’re cashing virtue cheques off the tragedy.
We have no one to blame but ourselves. We validate these types everyday with your “yas qween slay” comments on asenine pictures and worship the cult of insta. We made being a freeloader.. sorry “influencer” an actual job so this is the result, people using tragdy for clout. this only stops when we stop giving these imbiciles like molly mae and that other irish one attention and oxygen. The youth emulate what is popular
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Someone has noticed that the vigils are more about being seen at vigils and supporting some kinda cause than the actual death of the poor teacher.
I feel like the whole thing has become a circus the last few days. I understand the anger and the vigils have been amazing, but there’s an air that people have forgotten about what the family are going through. Yes there needs to be change. But let the family mourn and bury their daughter .
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Not to be cynical but welcome to social media. It’s got very little to do with pushing a cause, and more about talking about doing it. It’s like the men who say they’ll ‘step up’ in their posts online; why does a grown man need to be told to look after the more vulnerable?
This happens everytime there’s an incident that causes outrage in the community. Social media trends are started by someone on twitter or Instagram, looking to be the first to get the ball rolling so everyone is sharing their post. That’s all people like that care about. More traffic onto their Instagram and twitter accounts, more likes and followers.
Same thing happened a year ago. Remember George Nkencho? Remember everyone was a BLM activist for the day, making those black square posts on their social media channels? People protested. Everyone was outraged. People were demanding things to change. Two weeks later and no one cared anymore. You ask most of those people now who Nkencho is and most of them wouldn’t have a clue.
Ashling Murphy wasn’t dead 24 hours before the social media trends started. Everyone on twitter and Instagram and Facebook trying to give their two cents. Making their own statements, their own vigils. Trying to one up everyone else, to stand out amongst the crowd. Quickly it becomes less about the victim and more about who can get the most shares. Give it a year and they won’t remember her name.
Never underestimate narcissists when there’s an opportunity for attention. I went to my local vigil and it was extremely sad and came very close to crying. The idea that someone would be worried about the perfect lighting, filters and captions for their own social media following is very distasteful and contrived. But again, narcissism will always poke its head out.
Can’t remember what disaster it was, maybe the explosion in Beirut.
But someone complied a large volume of people smiling taking selfies using #PrayForBeiruit.
Some people see these moments purely as an opportunity for self promotion. It would make you sick.
People really have made this all about themselves and attention seeking, exploiting this tragic death for likes
How come the woman murdered at the ifsc didn’t get the same love? Was she not insta friendly enough for that tribe?
Edit to add one of that tribe will be along soon to ask why I hadn’t organized vigils then as an attempt to defend the current circus.
Edit again as I expected a pathetic deflection attack for not using the name of the woman murdered in the isfc. Do people who want safer streets need to know the name of every victim to make their case?
Because this https://youtu.be/PTmCxbcRXs4
I think it’s a much wider problem. The social media age is one of complete self absorption and narcissism. Yeah posing for a photo at a vigil is insane. But think about this underlying tweet, what’s the point. At least some of the motivation behind this tweet was appear as the ethical griever. As opposed to those self absorbed grievers.
A teacher gets murdered and half of Irish Twitter makes it about themselves.
The space age
The digital age
The self-obsessed age
“I’m not posting on Social Media today out of respect for Ashling Murphy”
Apart from that post, which gained lots of internet points.
The amount of businesses hopping on the tragedy in order to promote their services is sick. But what is more sickening is all the comments on their posts saying well done
Two women were murdered in Belfast within days of Sarah Everard’s murder. Social media (Irish and Northern Irish) was all abuzz with anger over Sarah Everard and not a peep about Karen Mclean or Stacey Knell who were both murdered by the same man; Ken Flanagan.
Irish women held vigils in Dublin and Belfast for Everard either the day of, or the day before the double murder in North Belfast but there wasn’t a mention about McLean or Knell. Even after their brutal murders Sarah Everard was still all over Irish / Northern Irish twitter.
Doing it just for performative reasons like social media clout is just pure narcissism. They don’t really care for the actual issue, and in fact will just drop it soon after. I seen this a lot over the years, notably Kony 2012, a completely fabricated “issue” made by a greasy cunt who loved milking money from idiots and doing a bit of public masturbation.
Or another example, people clapping for the NHS during the pandemic – holy fuck that one irritated the balls out of me! You’d think they’d push for giving them better pay instead or something, rather than that useless performative muck.
That said, people discussing issues they care about on social media, even stating it, isn’t really a bad thing. It does increase visibility to others. I have no issues bringing up issues various people face today on any social media. I don’t do it for me, I do it to increase visibility. If they don’t interact with it, no biggy. No wanky online petitions or anything needed.
Sadly you get certain idiots who mix the two up as being the same, under “virtue signalling”. Someone holding a genuine view and wants to share that with others does not make them a virtue signaller.
I have lost count of the amount of people trying to make this about themselves. It’s not about you, you fucking clown. Fuck off.
People take selfies at Auschwitz – never underestimate narcissism.
No vigils for Sharon Bennett who was beaten to death in the middle of Ennis in broad daylight last year. RIP to all those who have lost their lives.
Delete your social media.
There was a little girl here stabbed to death in Liverpool before Christmas. I am friends with a parent who’s daughter went to school with the little girl (14) and the parent posted pictures of her own daughter duck pouting with the peace sign infront of the vigil, arse bent sidewards full on poses with ‘She hasnt stopped crying, RIP’. I was fuckin HORRIFIED. Absolutely horrified, all for the gram !!
Social media is a cancer which encourages this narcissistic behaviour
The flash in the pan social justice warriors have always irked me they’ll completely change their personality every few weeks depending on the context. BLM In then out, something about the environment maybe then they’re bored of that then something womens rights.
It’s hard to call out this fake support because it may seem you’re calling out the actual subject which is not the case.
This would be the definition of Virtue Signaling wouldn’t it? Posing in front of a memorial to show off how much you “care” about something?
This kind of stuff is an appalling example of narcissistic virtue signalling. It’s like a more nefarious form of the ice bucket challenge whereby many joined in to specifically promote themselves on social media rather than have any genuine empathy for the cause.
The lack of self awareness and empathy these people have is disgusting.
But what’s the point in showing empathy if your followers can’t like it and tell you how amazing a person you are.
That is disgusting. Sadly it’s the world we now live it. Young people (as in under 20) seem to be incapable of doing anything without documenting it for strangers online. This is a new low though. Instagram is a fucking plague on society.
Modern society is suffering from endemic Narcissism. Weird direction we are all going.
People have agendas. I was at a vigil yesterday where Ruth Coppinger spoke. She name checked the Minister for Equality when mentioning lack of funding for certain services.
Possibly legitimate… until I saw she had also criticised him on Twitter for taking so long to post anything about this tragedy.
I believe she genuinely cares about gender-based violence. But I also think she’s cynically using this tragedy to have a go at her biggest rival for a seat in Dublin West.
People literally exploit their young children for likes so this doesnt surprise me.
Imagine when youre a young teenager and really start to grasp the concepts of social media and things online being permanent and maybe you’re a bit awkward and shy and then at school all the kids are pulling up old photos of you and your mom in matching pajamas from when you were 2? Nightmare fuel. The absolute desperate need some people have for likes and validation online today should be looked into as a mental illness, if you can take photos like this at a vigil for this girl and feel like its alright/justified then you need to get your head checked
Reminds me of [this](https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.extra.ie/2020/02/09/news/irish-news/irish-famine-memorial-photos-influencers)
There was definitely a PR firm or focus group behind most of those posts. Every influencer had the same post within minutes of each other and then it exaggerated from there.
I was at the vigil in galway and 2 girls in front of me were taking selfies with the candles they brought and talking about how cute they both looked. I thought it was prettiest disgusting.
I don’t like it tbh.
And I’ll prob be flamed for saying it. But there is an awful lot of grief vamipires online and it is stomach churning.
She was going for a run hashtags, people tweeting that THEY don’t feel safe running, ciara Kelly crying over it. The tweets saying isn’t it AWFUL, I’ve been thinking of the kids in her class, I sent my kid off to school and I was CRYING thinking it could have been their teacher. Let’s talk to her friends, isn’t it SAD, think of her boyfriend, he must be sad, I’ve been crying, I’ve been shaking all day, I’m so upset etc etc etc.
Leave the family mourn in peace. Stop making it about you. That’s what I want to say when I see the posts.
We’re obsessed with optics based ethics these days and caring is an ~a e s t h e t i c~ many people partake in for social capital.
It’s the same with some of these “musical tributes”. People capitalising on tiktok etc. Once the hashtag linked to this tragedy starts to fade, so will the attention unfortunately. I give it another week before it’s all forgotten about.
Twitters full of them. They’re cashing virtue cheques off the tragedy.
We have no one to blame but ourselves. We validate these types everyday with your “yas qween slay” comments on asenine pictures and worship the cult of insta. We made being a freeloader.. sorry “influencer” an actual job so this is the result, people using tragdy for clout. this only stops when we stop giving these imbiciles like molly mae and that other irish one attention and oxygen. The youth emulate what is popular