We need to break taboo around death, end-of-life carer says

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1. Death is something that every single human being on this Earth has to go through whether young old or middle aged its part of life. No one will live on this Earth for eternity we all have to understand that this life is short and that death can strike anywhere or at anytime.

2. Losing my Dad earlier this year really put in perspective just how fucking weird our attitude towards death is. It’s treated as something shameful, something that needs to be pushed out of sight and talked about in hushed whispers.

3. I grew up in a family that openly discussed death.

   Not in a morbid way, but as both a matter of fact and also in a slightly joking way too.

   We are all going to die. Talk about it before it is a real thing.

   I was at the death of both of both my father in law and mother in law. Hospital for FIL at home for MIL.

   Both were prolonged and and not pretty by any means.

   The same was the case for both my parents, although I was not there when they died.

   I have had long discussions with my children and husband and made my wishes very clear.

   If I qualify for Dignitas then that is where I want to go.

4. I think where intervention keeps happening to prevent nature taking its course, to the point where there’s no quality of life but we still keep bringing them back, is something that should be discussed more.

   Sometimes (and speaking from personal experience as it’s happening right now to someone in my family) I wish they’d just let them go. It feels almost perverse, and definitely not what they (or I) would want.