‘Lazy’ daughter left her ‘skeletal’ mother in poo-stained jumper for a year
‘Lazy’ daughter left her ‘skeletal’ mother in poo-stained jumper for a year
by TheBallerina1997
‘Lazy’ daughter left her ‘skeletal’ mother in poo-stained jumper for a year
‘Lazy’ daughter left her ‘skeletal’ mother in poo-stained jumper for a year
by TheBallerina1997
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Some people are unreal. I particularly like the woman’s partner who blamed everyone else (health service, social services, etc) and claimed the daughter was lazy.. what, like you couldn’t show an ounce of humanity and help that poor woman out either? What a weak man.
Women’s fart smells when they’re farting while holding their poop in.
I have to wonder about the gene pool sometimes. The apple does not fall far from the tree.
I cared for both my parents… I couldn’t think of an alternative, saddens me that someone can leave the people that raised and gave birth to them in such a situation 🙁
Or: “traumatised, unsupported, desperate woman is unable to cope”.
This is just a very sad case. Not at all excusing them not asking for thr outside help that this woman clearly needed, but when most likely all parties involved had significant mental health and social problems, they may not have had perspective on how bad things had got. Assuming this lady had such significant needs that at 58 she could not feed and toilet herself or leave the house, perhaps some sort of professional or in community support should have been in place to safeguard her.
This can only happen in post Christian, secular individualistic western countries. One advantage of when Islam eventually takes over here in the UK is that family and taking care of children and elders will be emphasised. Roll on sharia.
Surprise if you don’t raise your kids well and don’t send them to school clean they might not do the same for you when you’re old
Morally her daughter has failed but she clearly wasn’t mentally equipped to care for her mother. But most of us are not.
We are mentally equipped to deal with babies who are incapable of doing anything but sitting there and pissing and shitting themselves. Not adults.
We seemed to have cured diseases that kill us as kids and now seem to be a championing a societal drive to keep people alive as long as possible long after there’s any quality of life with no real progress in solving aging related illness.
So we are heaving with old people who are really shit to deal with. Literally. My wife and I tried to care for her MIL at her home as long as we could with some help from carers before having to accept with full time jobs, a mortgage to pay and kids to raise, it wasn’t going to happen. I’ve seen some shit. And I’ll say it again. Literally. Caring for the elderly who can’t get up to go to the toilet is absolutely disgusting. The permanent smell of shit really gets to you after a while. You never get used to it. It doesn’t matter that they’re being cared for properly, between the adult nappy that is constantly filling and the accidents and the toilet chair in the living room. It pervades.
Have you seen flappy old tits? I have, too many times. It doesn’t matter how much you try to avoid it, you walk in on it all the time. I was going crazy, and I wasn’t the one physically wiping shit out of her ass and fanny.
Why are we not pushing for euthanasia and a proper legal process for it? Well care homes are a nice way to ensure that any of the wealth in the boomers pockets not scooped up by the rich can be shovelled into care homes with their exorbitant fees and not being inherited by the proletariat. £7000 it costs to house my MIL in a mid level care home. We could put her in cheaper and people have questioned why my wife and I don’t. Told we’ll be likely to get a bit some inheritance than way. Maybe. But I’ve had experiences with a relative who had no house to sell who was put in the basic one. I’ve never seen such a horrible place.
If we’re going to force my MIL to keep living, we’re not going to force her to live in a hellhole so that maybe in 5 years time when she’s statistically expected to go, my wife and I might have 100k in our pockets. That’s the kind of shit they do. I won’t sink that low.
Back to this woman. I can’t read enough in the article to know her situation fully. But it seems like the daughter was financially relying on the mum but not mentally equipped to care for her. The proper morale thing to do was to sell up the house and move mum into a care home. Why she didn’t I can’t know, but I know the whole process is incredibly difficult. My wife and I are mentally proficient and it completely broke us. The endless paperwork. Sorting out and selling a home, the endless threatening letters from the care home threatening to send the bailiffs to our house despite the fact we had told them they would be paid once the house was sold (which took 2 years to sort and sell while doing full time jobs), something they’d accepted but there wasn’t a process to connect the financial part of the care home group with the management part of the individual home.
I’ve lost count of the number of tears I’ve watched my wife shed over all this and think this whole process would have broken me if my wife wasn’t so damn organised and good with paperwork.
The daughter failed to do the right thing but for me she was far from the first person in the chain to fail this poor old lady. I can’t bring myself to be angry at the daughter because she’s me in a slightly alternate reality. If 2 years ago my wife had turned round and said to me. I’m sorry I’m broken, we’re just going to have leave my mum in her own shit in the living room and try and pretend all this isn’t happening. I’d have understood even if I couldn’t quite bring myself to leave it all like that.
I’m gonna go against the grain here. With the way my mum treated me I would probably not be too concerned to see her laying in her own shit