For the record, the alarm isn’t mine.
This note was left in the entrance to my apartment building. We’re all assuming this comes from our neighbors downstairs, who I might add continually complains about noise. Even though we live next to nightclubs and bars, whereas you’d expect, gives a lot of noise daily. This is something we’re all aware of, and was before moving here. My other neighbors have been complaining to us, about the downstairs neighbors (international) having an odd behavior towards other residents in the building.
Not saying hi, closing the main entrance door in our face, knocking on the door in the middle of the night – asking if noise is coming from our place even though it is not.
A situation recently occurred whilst we, were having guests where suddenly the neighbor mentioned stood in my living room and asked us to turn down the volume of our voices (01:00 am Friday-Saturday night).
I am simply tired of the drama, and the non-verbal type of hate towards us and other residents.
How should I reply?
I was thinking of putting up a note in the entrance, as a reply to the person who wrote this short letter. How should I proceed?
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If the alarm isn’t yours just move on and don’t get involved.
No matter the previous conflicts, this is a very sound complaint.
If my neighbour/spouse snoozed for an hour with one alarm after the other, I would tabe småkagerne.
My family members do the same: set their alarm for 6am and snooze like 3 or 4 times before getting up at 6:45 or something. Why not just set the alarm for 6:45 and get up then?
In the case of the note – leave it, not your noise, not your problem. If they keep coming to your apartment looking for where the noise is coming from, I’d maybe as politely yet dismissively as possible tell them that they can obviously hear it’s not coming from your apartment, you keep the sound level at what is allowed (assuming that you do) and would strongly appreciate if they would stop coming to your apartment at odd hours of the night and instead try to file a formal complaint if they keep feeling disturbed (again, in the case that you have nothing to worry about. You *are* allowed to live in your own apartment, with all the sounds that come from normal living creatures after all lol). If they keep knocking or letting themselves in for next to no reason, maybe tell them that you’re getting closer to have to complain about them yourself🤷♀️ at what point is that kind of stuff chicanery, anyone know???
Don’t do anything(show normal respect towards neighbours and refrain from making noises between 11pm to 7 am, friday and Saturday can be later but close windows and if it’s a party move out to town bars then it’s late), but i understand this problem, it’s annoying if people have their alarm making noise for a very long time.
Lowering the voice/television, etc after 23 pm is also a total normal thing.
Some of the behaviour sounds weird but you are also being unreasonable.
If you read your apartment complex rules you’ll probably see that you should keep noise down after 22-23 ISH, it’s just that a lot of us don’t do it. But those are unspoken gentleman rules. If someone actually has a problem with it, the rules are on their side.
If the alarm isn’t yours, then don’t do anything. If the alarm is yours but you won’t admit it, then you are the problem.
Snoozers are loosers, set your alarm to later and get up.
I feel like this must be my old neighbourhood. His alarm would sound for half an hour every damn day
Så flertallet synes, at det er ok, at en nabo med tynde vægge har en alarm kørende i halvanden time i stret. Ikke snooze, konstant kørende. Og at man ikke meget pænt må bede om hensyn?
(Humlen ligger i en høflig forespørgsel for mig, og at alarmmanden sikkert ikke frostår hvor lydt, der er.)
The note is obviously not for you then, so no reason to respond.
Also, weird of your neighbor to turn up in the middle of the apartment – get mad if it happens again. HOWEVER, shut the fuck up at 1 am.
The rare note and eye test combined.
I like how the text size starts really big, and then by the last line becomes almost unreadably tiny
Is there a noise ordinance for the building and/or the city? The person who wrote the note may have a legitimate complaint here, even if there are no laws to back them up. On the other hand, maybe they need to buy some quality earplugs.
Don’t write a reply, don’t engage with them. If they keep coming to your door set a firm verbal boundary with them. Do it respectfully but firmly.
If you’re tired of the drama then don’t get involved. Don’t reply to the note, don’t gossip about your neighbor, don’t make more noise than you’re allowed to and refer your neighbor to the landlord if he keeps complaining.
Get yourself a (metaphorical) “pyt-knap” and use it. Set boundaries with your neighbor as needed.
I have a neighbour like this. The idiots alarm is going off for like 5 to 15 minutes before he wakes up. It pisses me off.
Thankfully as it’s getting colder our windows will be closed in the mornings so the alarm noise won’t be as loud.
Snoozing is annoying AF.
Why would you even reply? The compliant is legit and it’s understandable that no one wants to hear an alarm going off for an hour in the morning.
In my apartment I can hear the person upstairs conversations very clear word for word and voices at night would piss me off too (especially if it’s more than just one or two times) You probably speak louder than you think.
Leave the person alone and don’t get involved. it’s not about you.
Maybe the alarm clock noise is coming from the building next if the houses are adjoining?
You don’t reply. This is you being overly nosey.
If it ain’t you, you move on. Anything else is just petty as hell.
TL:DR; You should reply by turning off your god damn alarm (if it’s actually you).
My first reaction is that this is an extremely reasonable complaint. What kind of douchebag leaves an alarm going for 1+ hour, instead of turning it off? That would piss me off to no end.
Also (without knowing why he/she would just enter your home!) a noise complaint at 1 am is completely reasonable, including fridays and saturdays. at least IF you are being unreasonably loud.
That you think it is okay to be nuisance to your neighbours during the night doesn’t mean that they will accept it.
But you likely have regulations on the subject, else you might suggest that they take the initiative to set it up instead of bothering you.
My upstairs neighbor seemingly left his phone on the floor and had it ringing for an hour. The vibrations and sounds would sound like my own alarm going off.
Just get up when the alarm rings. Or don’t set the alarm of you don’t want it to sound anyway. Maybe try going to bed earlier if you’re that tired – then everyone can get some needed sleep.
I’m so happy to live in a house now. I love my house.
I had an upstairs neighbor that had a son every other week. The kid had a racing car alarm clock which went of at 7am. I never noticed this because I was already on my way to work at 7, but when I had days off or was sick it would go off those weeks where she didn’t have her son.
Apparently, she was either at work at 7 too or not home because that fucking racing car sound at 7am would keep playing for an entire hour!
I’m with the neighbours downstairs. What idiot keeps the alarm on for an hour at 6.20 in the morning? That note is very much in order.
But it’s obviously not meant for you, so you just leave it be and hope the recipient gets the point.
If you’re tired of the drama, why would you reply to the one reasonable complaint that doesn’t even involve you?
There is nothing worse than a Neighbors alarm blasting or constantly going off early in the morning.
Back when our upstairs neighbor were still working, she got up at 04:00 and i woke to her alarm as well.
We talked it out and i bought a new cheap alarm for her where she could control the volume and that solved it without any issues.
I would also be annoyed if you were talking that loud. I don’t care if it’s Saturday. At 1 a.m you should be to the club or out if want those activities
To be brutally honest here, this sounds like a you problem.
If you make so much noise that you cannot hear your front door open until your downstairs neighbours are standing in your living room, asking you to keep the noise down in the middle of the night, then that is definitely a you problem.
You should not reply, you should mind your own business if it is not you with the alarm. the note is pretty polite
Not translating it to Danish, too? That’s lazy.
If someone was in your livingroom at 1am and you didn’t hear them come it, I’d wager you didn’t hear their knocking over the music and loud conversation…
Also, people who leave on alarms for an hour shouldn’t be allowed to live among normal people, that’s just hateful! :p
Has anyone checked whether the person whose alarm this is is okay? Sounds to me like they’re not available to turn off their alarm, which just automatically gives up after an hour.
If the note is correct about an alarm being on for a hour constantly, I would also complain. So stop having your alarm on for an hour straight.
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