Eminem’s Brother Nathan Mathers Says He Feels ‘Hatred and Mixed Emotions’ Following Death of Mom Debbie Nelson

https://people.com/eminem-brother-nathan-mathers-feels-hatred-mixed-emotions-following-mom-debbie-nelson-death-8754991

21 comments

  2. I was today years old when I found out that Eminem has a brother

  4. Always a lot of mixed emotions when a parent dies. And when there’s abuse in the mix it’s just complicated grief. It would be much simpler if once they treated you awful, you could just shut off the love or hope or expectations. Or that, honestly peaceful, indifference that can come about sometimes. But even when you achieve that, death makes a lot of old shit come back up.

  5. Can only imagine. My father left me when I was young and wasn’t part of my life. He was heavy into his addiction and to this day I can remember all the bad times even only being 5/6yrs old. I tried to reconnect after college but even then it didn’t hold. Unfortunately he committed suicide couple years ago and I go through many thoughts on a daily basis. If I should have done more to reach out to him…if I should remain mad or forgive…tons of things. I am lucky enough to have a loving family that has been there for me and same for Nathan with having Em and being removed from a bad situation. It’s tough though.

  12. Why do they have such a *Just For Men* look to them? SUCH brown hair

  15. Never saw my dad past age 2, had one phone call on my tenth birthday, he was a stranger to me but I still cried and had a very bad week when I found out he died. Even if I never got answers or any closure all this time… now I’ll never have the opportunity to even ask why he didn’t want me.

  20. I’m so sorry for what you’ve experienced and thank you for sharing your story with us. I think there is only so much that we can do as a child. Beyond being a negligent parent (whether intentional or not), it was his responsibility as an individual to seek support and do better to the best of his ability — not only for his family but for himself.

    I’ve been in your shoes where I’ve had to try and be the parent to my father as well by reaching out first and trying to reconcile after he disappeared during my childhood (not addiction, a separate issue). It didn’t repair the damage done but we settled on a mutual arrangement which was good enough for me. I was still pretty angry at the time but I made peace for me because I couldn’t envision bottling up what I had to say for the rest of my life.

    To this day things are better but he still keeps us all at an arm’s length. That’s okay. I’m not responsible for his actions and neither are you. It’s perfectly natural to feel anger, grief etc over what you’ve gone through because it was bloody hard and unfair. And everything you feel is perfectly valid. Also something to think about is, even if parents are present they can still be emotionally absent which is its own kind of hell.

    My gentle advice to you is: acknowledge each emotion you’re feeling and let them pass through, just like leaves being carried down a river stream. You can feel everything you’re feeling without having to decide on one emotion, they’re all valid and life tends to operate in the gray, not in black and white as many like to think.

    While we can’t control or change our past, we can gradually learn to manage our reaction to it — and I’m inclined to believe you will get there in time and find acceptance and peace. And take it easy on yourself. You are doing the best you can, and if that is good enough for you, that’s all that matters. Sometimes things will be one step back and that’s normal too. Keep going forward when you feel ready 🙂

    I wish you all the very best especially during this holiday season, sending lots of love and hugs! Take care of yourself and take things one day at a time 🙂

Comments are closed.