Valerie Bertinelli tells Drew Barrymore not to apologize for being touchy on talk show: ‘You are doing your job’

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1. > But Bertinelli wasn’t having a single second of Barrymore’s negative self-talk. “Do not apologize for being so authentic,” she declared, reaching out and grabbing the host’s hand. “I mean, touch is what keeps us connected. Communication is what keeps us in. You are communicating and touching. You are doing your job. That’s what you’re here on this Earth to do.”

   > Mathews agreed that there was no need for Barrymore to feel sorry for expressing herself in a way that feels comfortable. “It’s so authentically you,” he added. “This is how you are. You couldn’t change you if you tried.”

2. Of course she does, she’s Italian! Light touches during conversation are often a sign of camaraderie and affection. (The English like to use phrases like “Shutup” to respond to some absurd thing spoken by a friend or family). But being touchy-feely with a relative stranger? Some might not take to it.

3. Yeah I’m sorry but this is a double standard if I’ve ever heard one.

4. She needs to learn personal space. I would have issues with someone touching my leg/arm or grabbing my hand. I like drew but some ppl like me are not touchy feely

5. If you don’t want to be touched, have your agent/manager/publicist set that boundary beforehand. You know what show you’re on and what the interviewing style is.

   This is like going on Jimmy Fallon and being offended that he’s overdoing it on the fake laughing at your lame story

6. Personally I don’t like people touching me

7. Just get two chairs instead of the couch.

8. It seems like a lost opportunity to talk about consent.

   Yes, human contact has well-known benefits, but contact without consent can cause harm. What’s wrong with asking guests for consent before giving hugs or holding hands? It’d be great behavior to model, something we as a society could benefit from normalizing.

9. Has anyone ever said her touching them makes them feel uncomfortable? Has a guest ever complained? Everyone here is talking about consent, how do we know she isn’t asking for consent before the show even starts?

   If people are legitimately uncomfortable she should stop, but this seems like an Internet thing. It’s really harmless and I don’t think her guests care. She’s not grabbing their genitals, she’s lightly placing her hand on their arm or whatever.

10. Speak for yourself there Val

11. Or…. how about doing some research into how the show operates before saying yes to going on her show. There’s thousands and thousands of celebrities, if 15%, for example, don’t like hugging or body contact, they can go on other shows. You can’t visit some person’s house and complain on how they do things, people have lost their manners these days.

    Some celebrities won’t go on other’s shows cause it’s not their comfort level/cup of tea, why single Drew out???

12. Being touchy is fine as long as the touchee is cool with it.

13. Folks don’t understand she is good friends with a lot of the guests on here and they know who she is. If you watch closely she is different with certain people.
    The projection from folks here who don’t ever have to hug anyone on a show is so funny.

14. Valerie Bertinelli yelled at my mom lol. Back in the late 80’s, my mom worked at a Hilton in Boulder CO doing housekeeping. Valerie and Eddie Van Halen were in the room next door and my mom’s cleaning was “too loud” for Valerie.

15. Drew Berrymore sold out and worked during the writers strike. I hope hers is the first show completely replaced by AI

16. It’s gross and off putting. She gets too close, is too intense, and too touchy feely. You can see some guests get very uncomfortable. Chris Hemsworth is one, Martha Stewart literally took Drew’s hand off her…

17. Actors are mostly very touchy feely people. Many probably are okay with it or don’t care. But what happens if you are not?? Can you get her to back off and give you some reasonable amount of space???

    I’d be super uncomfortable if someone sat that close to me. I don’t do that with my family. I certainly don’t want some woman interviewing me for work to do it.

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