Šukafe (Coffee date that ends up in bed)
Combining the Czech slang for intercourse, šukat, with the Czech word for coffee (kafé).

I’m wondering if I’m overthinking this but my apartment host suddenly asked me if I wanted to come over to have some coffee or something while he was in my room setting it up. I think I heard someone say that in czechia, this is a code word for…offering sex ?? Does anyone know if this is true or I am overthinking it ? I kind of got uncomfortable as he also has a girlfriend and suddenly asked me that and felt a bit weird after lol. I saw czechia has one of the highest infidelity rate in europe also so I’m not surprised…maybe.

Edit: only posting some links as some asked

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2606757/amp/Like-sex-Head-Czech-Republic-Survey-finds-morally-accepting-country-world-maybe-THATS-stag-parties-head-there.html

Czech Republic most accepting of extra marital affairs closely followed by France

https://www.expats.cz/czech-news/article/czechs-find-infidelity-relaxing-say-experts

https://www.first4lawyers.com/news-and-resources/the-top-10-countries-in-the-world-that-accept-infidelity/
Married couples in Czech Republic accept affairs the most, but also have the fourth highest divorce rate in the world

30 comments

  1. Never heard of šukafe, but if anybody offered it to me, I might consider (pls date me).

    All joking aside, I’m really sorry he made you feel uncomfortable. Is it possible, that you misunderstood him? Maybe he asked you “dáš si kafe?” and you kinda connected the “š” of dáš with the word “kafe”.

  2. This an amusing perception.

    Yes, you are probably overthinking it. Coffee is had and offered in a perfectly chaste way most usually. Coffee is not a code word. Šukafe isn’t a term most people would recognise, but is a situation that arises in a fitting context and isn’t something that happens every time a man offers a coffee to a woman. He in all likelyhood just wants to get to know you better. Maybe make a counteroffer to have a coffee with his girlfriend as well, to get to know them both at once.

  3. Well, I also live in Prague and have a GF and the amount of married women in our building who invite me to have coffee or lunch is pretty insane. They almost always have their children with them as well. I never thought maybe they wanted a quickie or something. Strange, this semi happened to me in the UK as well. I think maybe they are just more forward I guess.

  4. Ehhhhh….. Where did you find we have the highest infidelity rate? Tried to Google it, but that one research that keeps coming up and everyone seem to cite form doesn’t put us even in the top 10…

  5. Inviting someone over to have some coffee is a common expression of how to invite someone over. A friend, a family member, a one night stand. It’s not exclusively sex related.

    If you feel comfortable sure go visit him, you might have a lovely chat and become friends. If you get the vibe he wants something more then don’t. “Easy” as that.

    I know guys who would be just genuinely nice, but I met my fair share of others who view simple things as being nice and friedly as an invitation for sex. And this doesn’t have to do anything with nationality, it’s just how some people are.

  8. In my social bubble, invitation for a coffee has no sexual connotation. If you want sex, you invite the person to see your “sbírka motýlů”.

  11. Well, looking at the profile/ comment history, seems like someone is surely overthinking about sex.

    Also how the hell you keep statistics of who cheat more in the world? It does not even make sense.

  12. “Prijd na kafe” can be translated basically as “come (to) visit”.

    I’ve never heard of sukafe. Fair enough, I am male, but now I understand why some girls that I asked, if they wanted to grab a coffee, politely denied.

    I would like to believe that grabbing a coffee is a respectful way to either show someone is interested in you, or at least interested in talking to you for any reason.

    It doesn’t really need to have a sexual overtone.

  14. The coffee invitation is for date end, or after meeting in a club (wanna get coffee at my place to sober up, etc.)

    Outside of those 2, it’s just invitation to hang out, or in case of host, courtesy.

  15. Wait, what was he setting up? I’ve read the sentence multiple times and I still can’t figure it out lol. Anyways, it’s normal for Czechs to invite others for coffee, doesn’t have to be an invitation to the bed. Also I’ve never heard or that word.

  17. Hmm… Wanna grab some coffee?

    Hmm… Dáme šukafe?

    Are the same, and there is nothing wrong with that.

  20. Když to řekne Závíš, může to znamenat cokoliv.
    Doufám že příjmete na kafíčko pozvání…

  21. I am not czech but I can easily say that you are overthinking it just by looking at your question backed up with news articles 😄 just chilax 😄 sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.

  22. Okay, let’s exchange tickets, shall we:

    [https://www.pewresearch.org/global/interactives/global-morality/](https://www.pewresearch.org/global/interactives/global-morality/)

    “Do you personally believe that married people having an affair is morally acceptable, morally unacceptable, or is it not a moral issue?”

    The third option messes a bit with the numbers, so while yes 37% of people straight up said it’s acceptable, 66% said it’s unacceptable – which is more than in 6 other countries.

    And as for divorce rates:

    [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce_demography](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce_demography)

    When you look at how many per cent of marriages ended in a divorce, we’re the 20th in the whole world.

    And for infidelity, can’t find any decent research on that, just “experts” saying those things, but none of them put us even in the top 10: https://hackspirit.com/infidelity-statistics/
    https://outragemag.com/countries-with-most-least-cheaters-identified/

  23. IMO, you’re absolutely overthinking it and possibly also making some really odd judgement about Czech people. This isn’t a word I’ve ever heard used – honestly, it sounds like something someone just randomly saw on Čeština 2.0, which does sometimes has interesting stuff, but anyone, literally anyone can contribute, co it’s in no way a reflection of actual Czech vocabulary.

  25. It’s a very common custom to offer coffee to guests here, sometimes even if it’s just a plumber or office worker or whatever. Some people would offer it every time whoever the guest is, it just depends of how they’ve been raised.

    Actually never heard of šukafe and never thought of coffee being any more sexual than any other date offer

  27. By the way, did you find “šukafe” on cestina20.cz? That’s a site that collects such “new Czech words” but most of the words there are just funny jokes and not something we would use in a conversation (or even commonly understand).

  28. Never heard of it. Inviting someone for coffee is a common way to invite them to come over and visit you. I’m not saying some people aren’t using it like that, but I’ve never seen it, nor have any of my friends (I asked).

    The one time it ever occured to me was after an exchange student from the US invited me to grab a coffee and then immediately panicked and went “don’t worry, not as a date”, which I found funny because I hadn’t assumed it would have been a date in the first place.

    By the way, the studies you posted seem suspicious as hell and I would wager they either misinterpreted the data, or asked the questions in weird ways that people didn’t get. You would be surprised how many bullshit studies there are, bad on purpose and not.

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