Triggered about the rape in Leuven, but not in the way you might expect

Okay, let me start by saying that rape is disgusting and should be punished. Nobody deserves to be abused, ever. No female, no male.

I read the comments on some instagram posts showing the general disgust in the justice system after a male 24 year old Gynaecology student was found guilty for rape, is left without punishment so he can continue his studies.
This made me angry to read, but I always try to inform myself a bit more before jumping on a hate-train without knowing the story. I read a few more articles, and it became clear that there is a big difference between writers and news outlets and how subjective they are.

What stuck to me was the story from De Morgen ( https://www.demorgen.be/snelnieuws/uz-leuven-zet-student-gynaecologie-die-veroordeeld-is-voor-verkrachting-op-non-actief~b043b987/?referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fduckduckgo.com%2F )
Which went a bit like this ;

The girl got really drunk at a party op kot. Then they left to continue partying in a bar in Leuven. Outside that bar at 4:45am she met and started talking to a student doctor who was also going out and was on his way home. He tried calling a friend of the girl who didn't reply. (The judge could verify this call) – and waited with the girl at the door of her friend but could not enter. Without place to sleep he told her she could stay at his place. According to Camera footage, they kissed/made out multiple times on the street.
They apparantly had a sexual encounter of which the girl didn't remember anything the next day except for some pain. He apparantly asked if it was okay to proceed multiple times and stopped at a certain point.
I guess most of this info came from the guy, as she claims to no longer remember anything after getting a beer in the fakbar.

A female judge, female lawyer ruled over this case that she was not able to give consent in her condition. However the things that happened had enough nuance that he did not get punished. The victim, was happy with the result and the guy showed remorse and paid nearly 4000 eur to the victim. She did not want his future to be hurt by this event, so everything was arranged in court.

Now the story became a headline and everyone is out to nearly lynch this guy, releasing his real name and demanding justice for the victim and otger rape victims.

What is my point of this post?

Where do we draw a line? When does a night out in leuven combined with beers become rape? When a subject doesn't remember undressing? What happens when a guy is drunk, or if he was equally wasted during this encounter? What happens when the girl appears to be into it, says it is okay, and afterwards claims she wasn't? Why is everyone so easily jumping to conclusions without knowing what was said in court? When does a semi drunk student suddenly become a predator after flirting with a girl? When is a drunk girl flirting with a guy something all men should be afraid of? Why is there no expected responsability from the girls side? If she doesn't remember anything after getting her last beer, she couldn't remember giving or not giving consent at his place? Should a guy (who is maybe also drunk) know a certain procedure to verify the validity of consent if a girl literally says it is ok to proceed? Should he have taken a blood sample to test before continuing?

I'm just a bit triggered by the mob mentality I see here, when there are nuances to stories like this. His life is probably ruined while he might have meant to do a good thing, was being chatted up by a girl, and then now is getting completely steamrolled by a crazy mad crowd while the victim herself is apparantly happy with the outcome in court. I wasn't there when it happened, so my sources are limited, just like 99% of the mob on social media. If he had ill intentions or took advantage, I agree he should be punished. But not by a mob mentality who want to create their own truths.