What do Belgian men and women think of men who having a limb lengthening surgery?

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1. TIL this exists. I imagine it is quite a risky surgery?

2. this seeking of validation doesn’t sound healthy

3. When I was in China I learned that there is a dedicated hospital for this.
   Chinese chicks that want to be taller.
   It is very painful, slow and bones are not as strong as before.
   The whole dimension of the human body is shifted and weird looking. But you are taller indeed.
   As far as I know they brake the bones and right before the bone is healed they pull your leg apart so the bone needs to ‘grow’ towards the other pieces.

4. If it’s any consolation I can tell you that being tall will get you laid exactly never in Belgium. Don’t ask me how I know.

5. It seems that the main reason you want to do this is because you believe your height is a disadvantage in your dating life. I don’t believe going from 1.71m to 1.80m will be any significant advantage. And personally I really don’t find it worth the risk to justify the surgery.

   I’m 1.63m and happily married to a beautifully wife.

6. lemme tell ya, literally no one cares about what you look like. as a short guy to another, don’t waste your time and money

7. I can not say how life is for people shorter than me, but from what I’ve seen around me, women in Belgium seem to be not that shallow about height.

   Hell, one of the guys that had the most success with the ladies that I know is way shorter than me and shorter than most women he seduced, just by being confident, smart and funny!

   So what do I think of that surgery? Almost the same as all cosmetic surgery: except if you’re disfigured in life, or need it for medical reasons, stay away.

   Btw, 1m71? That’s a decent height!

8. I can not say how life is for people shorter than me, but from what I’ve seen around me, women in Belgium seem to be not that shallow about height.

   Hell, one of the guys that had the most success with the ladies that I know is way shorter than me and shorter than most women he seduced, just by being confident, smart and funny!

   So what do I think of that surgery? Almost the same as all cosmetic surgery: except if you’re disfigured in life, or need it for medical reasons, stay away.

   Btw, 1m71? That’s a decent height!

9. If you think the reason you are not lucky with the ladies is your height, becoming 10cm taller is not going to help you.

   Spend the time/effort into working on other parts of yourself, find a therapist to speak about your issues.

10. The best kind of surgery is no surgery!

11. If you are 1m70 and are considering a limb extension surgery, it would be better to invest your money/time on therapy to fix you lack of self confidence. Height is not your issue.

12. I’m a 1m72 Belgian and I feel fine about my height.

    People don’t really care about it all that much. And besides, I have more legroom in busses and planes.

13. Really would not advise it. 171cm is a totally normal height, if you think it will prevent you from being able to date a woman, you couldn’t be more wrong. I think the fact that you are willing to suffer through such a surgery to fit some societal criteria you think exists, and this seeking of validation, will only push women away from you.

14. Is this you again?

    https://www.reddit.com/r/brussels/comments/tom8sv/where_can_i_find_a_good_leg_lengthening_surgery/

15. I think it’s ridiculous and it would be a turn off for me. Why go through such a risky surgery just to gain a few extra cm.. (And I’m a tall woman, most of my boyfriends were shorter than me)

16. Nooo. That seems like an extremely painful and unnecessary operation with a long recovery. I don’t think 1m71 is short and I’m pretty sure women prefer short guys over cripple guys.

17. I’m 1m70, had plenty of gf both shorter & taller than me, it’s not about height.

18. 1.71 isn’t even that short. Limb lengthening seems like it’s painful as hell as well.

19. Most women I know would prefer tall men (rarely a dealbreaker though), but more than that they would prefer someone who doesn’t spend too much money on vanity. It gives off weird vibes. I know you’re between a rock and a hard place, but I think it’s better to invest in feeling comfortable with yourself than some extra centimeters, because it will pay off way more. And of course, you’re not even that short. Most straight guys your height that I know, have no real issues with dating.

20. Why on earth would someone go through that massive a surgery with so many risks (nerve and muscle damage, dislocations, arthritis…) just to get in relationship with shallow people ?

    I understand being self cautious about one’s height but 1m71 isn’t the worst that could happen to you. I have 3 friends around that height and they found loving partners without any issue (the average female height in belgium is still under 170 cm btw).

21. The women who care about height are not worth to date in the first place, why would you ever want to destroy your body for them?

22. i mean…that’s a rather extensive procedure, it’s not like getting a facelift i imagine. You’d have to learn to walk again, no? If it means that much to you would it not be easier to move somwhere the women are generally shorter? i would relocate before i let someone cut into my bone, but that’s just me…

23. Whaaaaaaaat? Mate, I’m 1m73 and sure, I’m a bit of a shorty, but I never had any trouble with it. My best friends growing up are all freaks who grew to be 1m92, 1m89 and 1m86, so I spent all of my youth literally looking up. Trust me, they didn’t get any luckier than me because of their height.

    So yeah, don’t go changing your height, that’s weird.

24. It’s the ilizarov procedure right? I’ve had it a few times since I have osteogenesis imperfecta and it was used on some fractures and to straighten deformities and also to add 4 cm to one leg since I had an 8cm difference.

    They have to break your leg for this and you’ll get some pins in your leg hooked to these circular things and every day you have to turn a few bolts a quarter about 4 times this stretches the leg a few millimeters.

    It’s slightly painful but you’ll be able to walk and shower with it but I’m not sure about driving. You’ll also need to either buy clothes that have buttons on the sides or cut open a few pants and sow buttons in. Since no existing pants will fit over the contraption.

    Due to the pins in your leg you’ll need to regularly disinfect and clean the wounds where these pins enter your flesh. You can have a nurse come over to do this. It’s slightly painful but not as painful as infection so don’t take wound care lightly.

    As for the rest, I’m really short, my daughter is 12 and taller than I am. My wife is about 3 heads taller than I am and she still fell for me. Don’t fall for charlatans telling you shortness is a reason for not getting into relationships. Personality is the biggest factor.

25. I’m Belgian, 173cm, married.

    Would never in a million years consider doing that garbage to my body, not even if it was free.

26. bad idea, the risks aren’t worth the advantage, trust me, i’m 6’3 and it isn’t all sunshine and rainbows either. I often wish i was an average size so i could actually find stuff that is made for my height. most things are designed for the average height so if you are taller than that you fuck up your back, and your body from using stuff that’s too small for you.

    As for dating, the only girls ive seen put height as a requirement into heir bio online are marginal poor people anyway. they’re not in the pool for tall guys either as half of them just want to promote their shitty ig account.

27. Why is everyone commenting on how he should not do it because he should not care about what other people think? I think the same applies to this surgery, if he wants to do it, just do it, don’t let your decision depend on what we say. If you think it will make you feel better, just do it. (Inform yourself properly about the risks tough, when you end up in a wheelchair, you will be even smaller ;p)

28. The only way I would ever consider this was to “fix” the length difference between my legs. But its not bad enough as I can fix it with perscrition insoles

29. Just stop trying to find a partner. There is no benefit to it anymore anyway. Just a massive liability.

30. This sounds more like a mental thing to me … Being tall isn’t sunshine and roses either though… Trust me ! (2m02cm over here) … But thinking height gives you an advantage is the wrong thing frame of thinking here. Your height is not the issue. Your mindset is… Please get help asap!

31. Well, you asked Belgians but I’m an American. I’ll give you some answers based on some universal concepts here.

    – The surgery requires multiple breakings of bones. Multiple. The recovery time for this is weeks and months. I don’t know if femur fractures are a part of this surgery. If they are, RUN AWAY. My girlfriend broke her femur in a motor vehicle accident and recovery time to walking “somewhat” normally was 6 months. Two years later and she still isn’t 100%. She still has the occasional issues and that was just on one leg! I couldn’t imagine how painful and awful two legs would be.
    – Being a relatively new surgery, they don’t know the lasting long term effects and if they do it wrong, you could end up with life long pain and/or disfigurement.
    – Your employer who offered you that job would have to be cool with you being unable to do things for literal months, they probably don’t want that.
    – Someone who cares that much about your height is not someone who you want to pursue, if it is, you need to rethink your priorities.
    – You’ve been offered a job in Belgium and would be doing this surgery based on hearsay and rumour and “what you’ve been told”. Why on earth would you subject yourself to that kind of pain based on something you’ve not experienced firsthand?
    – Let’s say you find the “right” girl and they’re actually short. Are you going to hide that surgery from them the rest of your life? What if they find out? Now you’re the asshole who only cares about height.

    Doing this would most likely be the worst decision you’ve made. Be yourself and be confident. Height will not give you confidence.

32. You do know that belgian women aren’t as tall as dutch women. Average height of belgian women is 167cm. I even have a group of friends that are mostly around 160cm.

33. Not sure if speaking for all Belgians, but that is entirely your business and I hope it helps you. Godspeed!

34. This is like the third time this year you’ve asked this. People keep telling you the same things every time.

35. Spend the money on a psychologist, you need it. Sincerely, a man smaller than you.