In Sweden, equality in relationships isn’t just theoretical—it’s a given. There’s no “default parent,” and no one keeping score about who does more because, well, both parties are sharing the load (whether it’s parenting, housework, finances or work). For couples with kids, it helps of course that parental leave is generous in Sweden (they even have official policies for taking time off work when they have to look after a sick kid!)
But there’s something deeper at play, too: jantelagen. Translated as “Jantes Law,” this cultural code discourages anyone from thinking they’re more important than anyone else. That includes your partner. So no one’s the hero, and no one’s the martyr. Just two people doing the unglamorous, everyday work of building a life together, without ego or applause.