Having just read T.J. Voboril’s column “Nuclear Family Bonds,” it was as if he read my mind. Just swap his Violet for my Stefan, and the story was identical. I, too, at least in my mind, “Failed to secure the same background for him with which I was blessed” and saw him “tossed into a whirlpool” that he did not create but was forced to swim.
I am not sure of the age of Violet now, but rest assure,d as a father who often has no say in these situations. If you are patient, be there, do the right thing and be the bigger person, you will surely still lose all he battles, but yet may still win the war, such as it is. At least I think I did 32 years later. Yet, hoping to overcome the heartache at all the loss, sacrifice and time may yet still take another 32 years.
Barry Levinson
Vail