On a post about the Astronomer executives, this person is saying that nobody in the EU would care about two married coworkers cheating on their spouses together? Is there any truth to this…? I find it hard to believe
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On a post about the Astronomer executives, this person is saying that nobody in the EU would care about two married coworkers cheating on their spouses together? Is there any truth to this…? I find it hard to believe
by hellonameismyname
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Not true. At least in the part of Europe where I live. Adultery extremely frowned upon, regardless of setting or situation.
This person has no idea what they’re talking about. They’re being very confidently wrong. I’ve seen divorces because people cheated with colleagues, and the cheaters were very frowned upon.
Tbh, I find the outrage weird and would not care. Its their private life, I’m not cheated on. I would very likely gossip, sure, but that gives no judgement on their work.
In my company you do not have to disclose any relationships.
Cheating is a big no-no everywhere in the world.
I do find the outrage about this weird. If you’re not the partner, close family member or maybe someone who works closely with them, not sure why it’s any of your business. Cheating is bad but it’s not really relevant to someone’s work IMO. As long as they’re not making professional decisions influenced by their personal relationships.
only in france
Depends on the angle from which the accepting party is looking at it.
Professionally (at work), people might frown upon it but not care much.
Personally, it’s really a big no-no.
In Norway it is a super no no.
If you can do it in a way that really, truly doesn’t affect anyone at work it’s not a huge deal I guess but I honestly don’t see how that’s possible… At my old job the cheater’s husband would stop by and we’d all have to pretend nothing was wrong in front of him, it was very uncomfortable.
I personally would not care if two married cowerkers sleep with each other. Maybe there’d be some gossip. I don’t see what the company legally could even do, even if it’s boss and employee. As long as there is no abuse, coercion, sex in the workplace or blatant favouritism going on, I don’t think the company has any legal leg to stand on to discipline them for what they do in their free time. And they rightfully shouldn’t, that’s their business
Professionally, unless you have a high visibility, public facing role, the company isn’t going to care if you cheat. Socially it’s definitely frowned upon, though. And at least in my company, you do have to disclose relationships if you are in a direct superior/subordinate role, but otherwise fraternizing is fine. We have a married couple on our team, and my boyfriend and I work under the same B-1.
No. The culture isn’t the same in every country in Europe, so I can only tell you about France but I suspect it isn’t so different in several other European countries. Cheating on your partner when you’re in a monogamous relationship (which is the implied default) is a major breach of trust in a couple and can easily lead to the couple breaking up.
However, the thing that may be a little different from more puritan influenced countries is that it’s a private thing between the two halves of the couple, and they are the ones who have to work it out to resolve the issue. This is not something for your colleagues to intrude upon or care about. If it’s something like the boss having an affair with their subordinate, that might be a little different, not so much because of the cheating but because of the power imbalance in the couple and the fact that it’s directly related to the workplace dynamics.
That’s why, for example, when François Hollande cheated on his spouse when he was president, it didn’t reflect on his political credibility in France. He wasn’t elected for his relationship with his wife. If anything, the way he escaped his mistress place (alone by night one a moped) elicited more comments than him cheating on his wife.
It’s nobody’s business if people are cheating in the workplace with a few exceptions: there should not be a difference in rank (no managers with subordinates), possible corporate confidentiality should be safe and it should always be consenting adults.
I work at a university and there have been several cheating collegues. Yes, it is gossiped over/frowned on and considered stupid because affairs never last and the private fallout is inevitable, but hey, it’s nobody’s business. As long as it is not with students, it’s a private matter.
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