I dont know if this is the right place to post this, but I need help from someone who knows Estonian. My boyfriend is Estonian and I’m not, and he is often texting these two girls and I think he might be cheating. The messages are from a group chat. I have tried translating some of it and I know it is flirting or something like that. Really hoping someone can explain to me what they are actually saying in their texts..
I have tried asking him what they are saying but he doesn’t want to tell me.

by Esol12

26 comments

  1. I feel ashamed being the same species as the people in the chat. Human garbage.

  3. A fellow Estonian here, the text messsges are basically saying “leave her, tell her you got two estonian girls waiting for you” and so on honestly disgusting what i just read, you shouldn’t talk to him.. Bad infulence

  5. Last screenshot he says that she(you?) will get mad when he has videocalls with them. They say that leave her and that he should tell her that he has 2 women in Estonia. Also that he brough you to Estonia just to show you his women etc.

  6. Please leave that person immediadely, he is using you.
    I’m sorry, you unfortunatley met a bad person.

    This conversation is incredbly disgusting, insane, juvenile in language and also potentially criminal (tahtsin eile talle korki joota sisse means the pink person tried to use a date rape drug on someone).

  7. bro this is crazy those people are rapists and most likely pedophiles and he is def cheating on you

  9. this person is calling women whores also, but not the men who sleep with them. run

  10. Also mentioned in this chat is a (failed) attempt at spiking someone’s drink with GHB. Miserable fucks, run and don’t look back.

  11. Is he also older than you? He seems to like the idea of “growing” a younger woman to his preferences

  12. Contact the police, your boyfriend and his friend are drugging teenagers and talking about raping them!!!

  13. Still crazy that people like this just exist and dont just paint their ceilings with their brains

  14. Leave that person, they see you as another “tool”, conversation is quite vile talking about attempted drugging a person and raping them.

    You can also try filing a police report over this but I’m not too sure how far it’ll go

  17. Based on this chat, you do NOT have a boyfriend. You have someone, who brags about training you for his wishes as you are so young. He also says he doesn’t want to video chat because you would be offended as you were last weekend and the other parties suggest dumping you and say out that you were brought to estonia to see his other girls. He then says that he doesn’t want to stop fcking someone as young, because it is hard to replace on short notice. The other parties brag about trying to drug someone during yesterday.

    I cannot imagine a context, but this is not flirting. What this is, is a huge red flag and i do hope that you are not stuck with this guy in estonia while being just 18 years old. If you are in trouble, do reach out:
    [https://sotsiaalkindlustusamet.ee/en/child-and-adult-need-help/support-victims/victim-support-crisis-helpline](https://sotsiaalkindlustusamet.ee/en/child-and-adult-need-help/support-victims/victim-support-crisis-helpline)

  18. WTF did I just read.

    Yeah, report this to police and stay very far away from those creeps

  19. Forward these screens to police. No, seriously- they discuss roofying people and doing 16 year olds.

  20. Are you in Estonia right now? Try to call the shelter, they can at least give you a good advice, this should be 24/7 +372 55 949 496 https://naistetugi.ee/en/
    Emergency number is 112

  21. Without context it’s a bit difficult to understand the gravity of this, but it’s either bad, really bad or criminal bad. 

    1st screen: somebody they’re talking about has to repeat 5th grade at school. I’m assuming this is a 6th-grader who failed several subjects and has to repeat 5th grade. So about a 11-12 years old child. If they continue to talk about the same person, they’re saying it’s easy to groom women so young according to your own preferences.

    2nd screen: pink person appears to have been having sex with Silja (to word it politely) and someone else who was born in 2007.

    Now it gets a bit difficult to understand but “ampull”, I’m guessing refers to a treatment that alcoholics get that is implanted under your skin to prevent you from drinking. Pink person tried to get this person to drink GHB, but it didn’t work (I suppose because they can’t drink alcohol any more.)

    (I could be wrong about the ampull thing, because this is not my generation’s language, possibly it could mean something else, but the GHB is definite). 

    3rd screen: blue person doesn’t want to video chat because someone is going to take offence just like the previous weekend. Pink person says dump her/him and tell them the truth, you have two women in Estonia and you brought her/him (?) here to see them. 

    The bottom line is a bit blocked by the arrow, but if the word under there is “uut”, he is saying, I can’t find a new young one so quickly. (meaning, I guess, he can’t dump the girlfriend, because finding a new underage girlfriend is not so easy). 

    4th screen: lots of insults about Silja and her being a whore who has slept with the whole county. 

    PLEASE PLEASE tell me you are not the person having to repeat 5th grade or Silja! How old is your boyfriend and the other people in this chat? How old are you? Is there a grown-up you can talk to about this?

    Regardless of your age, you do not want to have a boyfriend that has conversations like this or who is friends with people who talk like this! Are you currently visiting Estonia together with this guy? Or are these conversations from earlier? This honestly looks like the police need to be involved. 

  25. So I just saw the other post you made, I don’t know how to get this through to you, but break all contact with this creature now! Are you in touch with your parents, do they know that at 19 you are dating a 39yo man? This is absurd, destructive, abusive, just plain WRONG in every possible way. You need to get away!

  26. Important safety consideration, Estonia is incredibly small and there’s a very high chance either someone in the chat or someone who knows someone in the chat will see this post. Please put as much physical space between yourself and all of this as soon as possible, you are not safe.

Comments are closed.