Sorry, everyone. I know this is ‘casual uk’ not ‘depressing uk’ but I just thought I’d post this on the off chance someone might know some more appropriate subreddits.

My life fell apart recently, and I’ve tried to kill myself a few times. Does anyone know of any groups on Reddit that might be good for me to go and have a talk? Like in safety and that? I’m getting some professional help, and I’m really grateful and lucky that I’ve been referred to the at-home mental health team through the NHS. I’m going to be able to see a psychiatrist on a regular basis and that’s amazing. It’s what I’ve needed for a long time.

Again I’m sorry. Mods, if you need to delete this, maybe you might know of some better outlets for me?

Thanks everyone. One day at a time xxx

by Piccadil_io

41 comments

  1. Also: if anyone here lives in Ashton-Under-Lyne and found some purple Vans shoes on the bank of a river, they’re mine and I’d like them back if possible 😅

  2. r/depression is the best one, second probably r/mentalhealth (and r/MentalHealthUK for more localised advice). Sending good vibes

  3. Get yourself to Andy’s Man Club on a Monday and go every week. There’s def a couple in Manchester and if you fancy a trip to Bradford I’ll go with you.

  5. Well done for seeking help buddy and I wish you all the best! I’ve never been in the same position as you but one thing someone told me who was going through something similar

    They kept telling themselves that the darkest part of the night was just before dawn and I’ve always loved it! When you feel like you’ve hit rock bottom you’re now on the way back!

    I hope you get the help needed….

  6. Glad you’re still here mate. Hope you get your shoes back

  8. I don’t know of any subs sorry. Just wanted to wish you well and I’m glad you’re getting some support. One foot in front of the other, pal!

  11. Brother. Do not do this. You’ve survived every bad day you’ve had so far. Don’t give up. You got this man!

  12. I don’t know of any but I just wanted to say that I’m glad you’re here!

    I’ve heard Andy’s Man Club is great for mental health and making new friends. I hope you find what you’re looking for and you continue to get the support you need.

  13. Hey man, glad to see you smiling and still here with us.

    I’m suffering a lot recently, too. Everyday is a struggle

  14. r/SuicideWatch

    r/depression

    It’s rough out there, hope you’re able to find something that brings you joy in the midst of all the garbage

  15. While it’s not necessarily the right place, as you say, I think you’ve chosen the right people.

    We’re happy to leave this up while the community offer you better suggestions than we probably could.

  16. Nice to meet you. Hearing that someone who wasn’t going to be, but is still here, isn’t depressing. I’m sorry you felt/feel like that but I’m uplifted by the fact that you didn’t. Keep asking for help, but don’t apologise for doing so.

    Hope the advice in here helps ❤️

  17. Glad you’re still here buddy. 

    I’ve had similar issues and one thing that really helped me was peer led support groups. Speaking to people who have been where I have but have pulled through and found other ways of living. You tend to bond really quickly too because when you have things like this in common you really get to know and trust each other. I would still really recommend you go to the professionals too, but it’s nice to have the more casual support from people who’ve got the firsthand experience of these things and are managing them in their day to day lives. 

    The fact you’re reaching out for help is massive mate, well done. You’d be surprised how many people have either thought about suicide or attempted it, I love seeing people talk about it. 

    All the best to you man, sounds like you’re doing a load of stuff that will help you in the long term and you can then use that to help other people too 🙂 

  18. I like your sunglasses! I hope tomorrow is better than today.

  19. Good going speaking up OP.
    you are not alone buddy

  20. Stay strong brother. My relationship broke down yesterday and I’ve gone from a flat full of love and safety to an empty one overnight. My whole worlds fallen apart but I know my family and friends love me and I know I have the strength to keep going. And so do you.

  21. Glad that you’re still with us friend – people have suggested some great resources, and I’d like to add a huge +1 to Andy’s Man Club. I work in construction and we have a rep on site every week – they’ve saved plenty of my lads, and I’m sure they can help you too.

    Take each day as it comes, and try and find one positive in each and every day, no matter how small. My positive thing from today is that you survived and that you’re reaching out! (Also because I love purple Vans)

  23. In my area they have two men’s mental health walking groups which sound lovely. Search in your town’s ‘what’s on’ Facebook group to see if they have that sort of thing. Your GP surgery’s social prescriber might know some useful things plus your GP can refer you or point you to mental health services. Fingers crossed for you, mate

  24. Well done for still being with us. I failed too… And thank full that I did fail

  26. I don’t know of any groups. I’m going through a similar thing so my inbox is always open if you want to chat. Please take care of yourself.

    You are a blessing to this world and the world’s light will shine dimly if you were to leave us.

    What are your hobbies? Do you have any pets?

  27. I’m glad you are still here!

    The world is a better place for having you in it.

  28. Came to say a close family member had a great experience with their “hospital at home” mental health team, really helped.

    If useful there is also [SHOUT](https://giveusashout.org) it’s a text message support service.

  29. Similar ish situation with myself. Would also be interested in any groups or anything where I can connect with others, London based. Hope you start feeling better soon mate.

  30. If you’re after subs there’s /r/Man_Chat. Might be useful for you!

  31. Hi mate, I just wanted to tell you that I am proud of you for reaching out, that takes incredible strength. If you ever need to talk to a stranger one-on-one, my DMs are always open. I’ve also struggled a lot with my mental health and I certainly don’t have any answers or solutions but I’d be happy to listen without judgement. Also I live abroad so I’m around on Reddit at weird hours of the day and night lol, sometimes it’s hard to find someone to chat to whilst everyone’s busy at work or whatever. Take good care of yourself.

  32. Just want to say good luck bro. Stick around. We’re all dying some day so might as well see what’s next before that happens.

  33. Hi OP, this is brave of you! I’m just an internet stranger but I’m proud of you for putting this out there.

    Keep swimming, you deserve to see what happens when it pays off. r/MentalHealthUK might be a good one. Also see if there’s something more local to you!
    All the best, just a random girl online for you but I believe in you x

  34. I’ve been locked out of the many self help groups on Reddit (eg /r/stop drinking and /r/suicidewatch) because I’ve got to give up my privacy and identity to a third party in order to prove I’m adult enough for their content. Since then I’ve been using other outlets but they’re not as good. Sucks.

  35. We’re glad you’re here on this Reddit sub, and we’re glad you’re here on this Earth! People would rather listen to you for hours than hear about you in a eulogy. You’ve got this!

  36. I’d make a wholehearted suggestion, meant from all the best places, that you should just delete any social media which is not imperative to your ongoing wellbeing.

    Social Media shits in your head. While I appreciate it’s likely not *the* factor, I’d be surprised if it leaves you with a net positive experience overall.

    Others have mentioned some face to face places and get togethers; I’d also recommend that. Get back to being ‘human’, before humans had access to a magical stone that undermined our ability to manage dopamine.

    Love you bro. Be good to yourself.

  37. I don’t know you bro but things do get better. I promise you

  38. MATE

    Men And Their Emotions group

    On Facebook. Go there now

  39. My brother was where you are now in 2022. I can promise you it does get better- he found a community for himself through team sports, not sure if it’s your thing but a quick google brought up these resources. Might be worth getting in touch with [Rotherham community trust football](https://ruct.co.uk/health-and-wellbeing/mental-health/)

    The world is a better place with you in it, I hope you find brighter days soon

  40. Thank you so much, everyone. This is way more support than I expected. You’re all wonderful people. There’s a lot to live for and people like you make it worth it. Thank you.

  41. I am glad you did a shit job at killing yourself mate 👍

    I’ve been where you’re at, and I’m so glad I didn’t. I get married this year and a decade or so ago I always thought I’d have given up on life by now, seemed like the easy out to my early life failures.

    I never believed anybody when they told me it would get better or that I’d have things I’d think were worth living for, more than myself, but I do now. So take it from me, it does get better.

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