It depends, in some households it can be common and some not. I for example have never had that situation occur.
Unless the other kids parent has”ok”ed it then yea. Their family might have an special meal planed or another eating time don’t wanna disturb that
Depends if the parents like the kid or not . Heck my brother was invited to a birthday party and everyone got pizza except him so one of the other moms who was there aswell and actually is a good person had to buy some for him. I think they were like 10 -12 at the time
It is.
It feels like it was more a thing before. You were the guest of their kid and not of the parents/entire family, so it was more an obligation of your friend to fix something to eat for you if you spent more than a few hours under their roof. It also feels a bit like class, but I might be wrong. The times it has happened to me (80s), it was in working class households.
I was also once left without a place to sleep. Everyone went to bed and I had to find a corner somewhere to lay down. Remember that the house was cold, I slept on the floor of a closet with a cat family and used my coat as a blanket.
When I was younger and I was at my friends house, I always ate with them if they had dinner.
Breakfast part is crazy, I’ve never heard of that happening ever, If i slept over somewhere or it was planned that i was going to stay somewhere for an extended period I was always well fed
But If It’s just dinner then yea, when you’re a kid in Sweden and hang out with a friend you probably live 10 seconds – 1 minute away, so when It’s time to eat you just go home
Not getting breakfast when sleeping over sounds really weird, not serving the neighbourghs kids dinner everyday is normal… if the kid lives far away or it is a play date planned with the other kids parents in advance he/she will ofcourse be included in the meal, but all the everyday friends running around the neighbourhood will have dinner at their own homes with their own families. Dinner is for most families the only time they share together on a work/schoolday.
Someone posted the very same thing like a day ago here.
Sentiments seem to be that it was pretty common but has lessened with time, a possible explanation for the whole thing stemmed from that it originated from before cellphones, you would wait to eat at your own home as a kid because your friends parents didn’t cook extra for another person, and your own parents didn’t know not to cook for you.
It was (is?) a thing in households where the parents had no proper manners, which for some reason seems to be quite common in Sweden. The friend should at least be invited to join them.
Ye it happened a few times as a kid
It’s common to be offered food be friends unless something else is planned.
Also, this is like the third time this is posted this week, no offense.
Repost
It is. But not breakfast at a sleepover in my opinion. I frequently sat around playing in my friends’ room when they ate dinner. Some friends however, especially if they lived farther away, you had to plan to meet up, and thus their parents usually included you in dinner.
I’ve heard of it, but never experienced it first hand.
I always feed my kid’s friends. Then again, they might not eat.
My nine year old’s best friend comes from an arab country and he is always highly sceptical of most ”swedish” food. I try to make stuff (at least the basics) that he’ll know form home so he’ll eat something at least. And no pork etc. I think it would be horrible if he went home hungry.
When I grew up I always found it strange if you’re not invited to eat when at a friend’s place. Most of the time they included me but sometimes not.. depends on the family.
Yes danish people are like that 😂😂😂😂😂 that’s very normal.. But i would never…
Yeah, well… We don’t go around the house wearing shoes, sooo, There’s that.
This is r/Sweden.
It’s over here.
No its not
But sometimes when i had dinner at my bestfriends house the father liked to loudly tell me to not eat ro much meat because it was expensive
He told me it was a trick he used for a happy marriage, apparently the sex got better when she was angry with him.
I thought it was funny and always ate until i was full, got pushed by the mother to eat more/at least try some veggies
On a relevant sidenote i went on vacation with them a few times and then my parents would give me money for restaurants and stuff.
Once my parents something like 100 Euros extra to his parents to offset them having to rent a bigger cabin to fit me and a friend for the younger brother when we went skiing, I think that was fair but not sure if its considered weird, i think its a good solution
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It depends, in some households it can be common and some not. I for example have never had that situation occur.
Unless the other kids parent has”ok”ed it then yea. Their family might have an special meal planed or another eating time don’t wanna disturb that
Depends if the parents like the kid or not . Heck my brother was invited to a birthday party and everyone got pizza except him so one of the other moms who was there aswell and actually is a good person had to buy some for him. I think they were like 10 -12 at the time
It is.
It feels like it was more a thing before. You were the guest of their kid and not of the parents/entire family, so it was more an obligation of your friend to fix something to eat for you if you spent more than a few hours under their roof. It also feels a bit like class, but I might be wrong. The times it has happened to me (80s), it was in working class households.
I was also once left without a place to sleep. Everyone went to bed and I had to find a corner somewhere to lay down. Remember that the house was cold, I slept on the floor of a closet with a cat family and used my coat as a blanket.
When I was younger and I was at my friends house, I always ate with them if they had dinner.
Breakfast part is crazy, I’ve never heard of that happening ever, If i slept over somewhere or it was planned that i was going to stay somewhere for an extended period I was always well fed
But If It’s just dinner then yea, when you’re a kid in Sweden and hang out with a friend you probably live 10 seconds – 1 minute away, so when It’s time to eat you just go home
Not getting breakfast when sleeping over sounds really weird, not serving the neighbourghs kids dinner everyday is normal… if the kid lives far away or it is a play date planned with the other kids parents in advance he/she will ofcourse be included in the meal, but all the everyday friends running around the neighbourhood will have dinner at their own homes with their own families. Dinner is for most families the only time they share together on a work/schoolday.
Someone posted the very same thing like a day ago here.
Sentiments seem to be that it was pretty common but has lessened with time, a possible explanation for the whole thing stemmed from that it originated from before cellphones, you would wait to eat at your own home as a kid because your friends parents didn’t cook extra for another person, and your own parents didn’t know not to cook for you.
It was (is?) a thing in households where the parents had no proper manners, which for some reason seems to be quite common in Sweden. The friend should at least be invited to join them.
Ye it happened a few times as a kid
It’s common to be offered food be friends unless something else is planned.
Also, this is like the third time this is posted this week, no offense.
Repost
It is. But not breakfast at a sleepover in my opinion. I frequently sat around playing in my friends’ room when they ate dinner. Some friends however, especially if they lived farther away, you had to plan to meet up, and thus their parents usually included you in dinner.
I’ve heard of it, but never experienced it first hand.
I always feed my kid’s friends. Then again, they might not eat.
My nine year old’s best friend comes from an arab country and he is always highly sceptical of most ”swedish” food. I try to make stuff (at least the basics) that he’ll know form home so he’ll eat something at least. And no pork etc. I think it would be horrible if he went home hungry.
When I grew up I always found it strange if you’re not invited to eat when at a friend’s place. Most of the time they included me but sometimes not.. depends on the family.
Yes danish people are like that 😂😂😂😂😂 that’s very normal.. But i would never…
Yeah, well… We don’t go around the house wearing shoes, sooo, There’s that.
This is r/Sweden.
It’s over here.
No its not
But sometimes when i had dinner at my bestfriends house the father liked to loudly tell me to not eat ro much meat because it was expensive
He told me it was a trick he used for a happy marriage, apparently the sex got better when she was angry with him.
I thought it was funny and always ate until i was full, got pushed by the mother to eat more/at least try some veggies
On a relevant sidenote i went on vacation with them a few times and then my parents would give me money for restaurants and stuff.
Once my parents something like 100 Euros extra to his parents to offset them having to rent a bigger cabin to fit me and a friend for the younger brother when we went skiing, I think that was fair but not sure if its considered weird, i think its a good solution