Raise the minimum wage to match inflation and we probably could afford to..
My partner is Finnish and doesn’t. Eleven years together and no ring.
More like can’t afford a fancy day out.
I asked the local place for price for a wedding with 40 heads and a meeting for 40 people, the meeting was 10k cheaper…
Id rather elope but that’s still expensive.
As a Briton who just got married I would recommend it, 10/10, best day ever.
I’d love to.
Just need to find the right person this time.
And I probably would just do a registrar ceremony and immediate family at a restaurant.
Expensive weddings are overrated. Plus there is a correlation between how much money you spend on a wedding and likelihood of divorce.
We’re supposed to get married but with one side of in-laws refusing or not having the money to travel abroad and the other side being strict vegetarians, it gets complicated.
I’m surprised that “expense” isn’t one of the reasons given/surveyed.
Nope, wast of life and money if its goes wrong.
I’m divorced.
Maybe I overthink everything, but I’ve always felt that by the time I’m committed enough to say I want to marry someone…..the extra step of spending thousands doesn’t seem any more committed. I’d rather we just spent the money in travelling. Or have a party with friends and family then go travelling.
What benefit does marriage actually convey?
You askin’?
British people are mostly going through the 2/3 years that most marriages fail before getting married.
I want to get married, but I don’t want a wedding
I’m trying. I doubt I’ll even get as far as an actual relationship, but I’m trying.
I know two couples who got engaged this week alone. I think yes, but the younger generations are also generally a bit more realistic about the prospects of marriage working out and have less social and economic pressure to actually tie the knot, and I think that’s a really good thing. Marriage is only special when the people involved really love each other and are doing it to affirm and celebrate that love. Otherwise it ranges from depressing to concerning, imo.
1) I’m not religious
2) I don’t own a home and working in that that definitely takes spending priority
Been married/divorced twice, not trying for a third that’s for sure.
Part of me would want it more than ever but I’d be too embarrassed and I don’t think anyone would come anyway. But the feeling of being married is very special and I am in love and it would be nice. Not to be though.
I’m…
Still very unsure of what I actually gain from getting married, especially with the new no- fault divorce legislation that basically says you can get served papers without even a reason being supplied.
Pre-nups are basically not legally enforceable in England, so all I see is the risk of the potential loss of half of everything I’ve worked so hard for, for the sake of a very expensive piss up.
Easily the best thing I ever did. I’m not religious either, but the whole process makes you think about your reasons and how you can make it work.
Our wedding day itself was expensive ish, but within a budget we set/could afford. I certainly wouldn’t recommend going into debt for it. At the end of the day though, how many other reasons do you get in life for a big celebration with all your friends and family?
Nope, not really. I don’t have any interest in god or government validating my relationships, what business is it of theirs?
I’d put a lot of it down to the mobile/itinerant nature of working and living among a lot of people around my age.
The majority of my friends who stayed in my hometown wound up settling down, having kids and getting married in their late 20s. Whereas most of the people I know who moved to cities tended not to.
I do…. Have to find the right person first though
I just want to have a place to call my own and my own car I can use to get around in. Married? Not even on my radar
We have been engaged since January 1st 2020 and have 0 plans to get married. Not because we don’t want to, but because it’s a waste of our hard early, too easily lost money. We only just managed to buy a house at 25 though saving since 21. After this we will need a new car. A holiday also sure sounds nice.
Getting married is last on out list 🙁 damm cost of living, damm tories
Sure, we could spend a couple hundred quid to sign some papers at a registry office, but it really isn’t a priority right now in a cost of living crisis where we’re trying to scrape enough money together to buy a house while having to dig into our savings to pay bills, petrol, food, etc. At this rate I won’t have any substantial savings left to pass on to my partner after I die, which would be the only reason we’d even get a marriage certificate at a registry office, so really what is the point in even bothering? I would love to have a nice wedding celebrating with family and friends, rather than just signing papers, but it’s not going to happen for us on our incomes.
Do we want to get married? Depends, to whom.
no. i wish to eat and stay warm.
I couldn’t think of anything worse than a wedding day.
Mind you even as a kid I disliked having birthday parties for myself. 😂
Are you asking or offering?
I don’t, I think marriage is expensive and exhausting
I do. I also want kids. But I can’t even afford to live myself so. Maybe one day.
Too risky, especially as the higher earner, especially as a man
Do I want to risk losing everything I worked for in a divorce? Allowing the government into my relationships, and having to beg a judge if I want to leave them due to being unhappy?
The fuck do you think of course I don’t want to get married.
There is absolutely no reason to get married, it’s a bit of paper that you can get any of the pros by just having a will in place.
Its a loss for men to get married in the UK. Only stupid men would do it
I got married. To a Canadian and hopefully I’ll get to leave this country in a year or two.
I don’t want to admit that I barely have any friends of my own to invite. The bridesmaid and best man could be the same person.
I’m perfectly open to the idea of getting married to the right woman. I think married life could be a rather nice thing indeed, so long as we both deeply love and respect each other as individuals, instead of just viewing each other as her husband/my wife.
I just don’t want any kids, is all!
Personally, no, not really. Been with the missus 6 or 7 years now and neither of us particularly want to get married, nor do we want children. It just seems unnecessary, but this is merely our personal feelings on the matter, obviously I can’t speak for anyone else and if you wanna get married, by all means, do whatever makes you happy and I’ll be happy for you
Marriage is a pointless waste of money, you can be happy with someone without it and at the same time call yourself husband and wife without a certificate.
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Raise the minimum wage to match inflation and we probably could afford to..
My partner is Finnish and doesn’t. Eleven years together and no ring.
More like can’t afford a fancy day out.
I asked the local place for price for a wedding with 40 heads and a meeting for 40 people, the meeting was 10k cheaper…
Id rather elope but that’s still expensive.
As a Briton who just got married I would recommend it, 10/10, best day ever.
I’d love to.
Just need to find the right person this time.
And I probably would just do a registrar ceremony and immediate family at a restaurant.
Expensive weddings are overrated. Plus there is a correlation between how much money you spend on a wedding and likelihood of divorce.
We’re supposed to get married but with one side of in-laws refusing or not having the money to travel abroad and the other side being strict vegetarians, it gets complicated.
I’m surprised that “expense” isn’t one of the reasons given/surveyed.
Nope, wast of life and money if its goes wrong.
I’m divorced.
Maybe I overthink everything, but I’ve always felt that by the time I’m committed enough to say I want to marry someone…..the extra step of spending thousands doesn’t seem any more committed. I’d rather we just spent the money in travelling. Or have a party with friends and family then go travelling.
What benefit does marriage actually convey?
You askin’?
British people are mostly going through the 2/3 years that most marriages fail before getting married.
I want to get married, but I don’t want a wedding
I’m trying. I doubt I’ll even get as far as an actual relationship, but I’m trying.
I know two couples who got engaged this week alone. I think yes, but the younger generations are also generally a bit more realistic about the prospects of marriage working out and have less social and economic pressure to actually tie the knot, and I think that’s a really good thing. Marriage is only special when the people involved really love each other and are doing it to affirm and celebrate that love. Otherwise it ranges from depressing to concerning, imo.
1) I’m not religious
2) I don’t own a home and working in that that definitely takes spending priority
Been married/divorced twice, not trying for a third that’s for sure.
Part of me would want it more than ever but I’d be too embarrassed and I don’t think anyone would come anyway. But the feeling of being married is very special and I am in love and it would be nice. Not to be though.
I’m…
Still very unsure of what I actually gain from getting married, especially with the new no- fault divorce legislation that basically says you can get served papers without even a reason being supplied.
Pre-nups are basically not legally enforceable in England, so all I see is the risk of the potential loss of half of everything I’ve worked so hard for, for the sake of a very expensive piss up.
Easily the best thing I ever did. I’m not religious either, but the whole process makes you think about your reasons and how you can make it work.
Our wedding day itself was expensive ish, but within a budget we set/could afford. I certainly wouldn’t recommend going into debt for it. At the end of the day though, how many other reasons do you get in life for a big celebration with all your friends and family?
Nope, not really. I don’t have any interest in god or government validating my relationships, what business is it of theirs?
I’d put a lot of it down to the mobile/itinerant nature of working and living among a lot of people around my age.
The majority of my friends who stayed in my hometown wound up settling down, having kids and getting married in their late 20s. Whereas most of the people I know who moved to cities tended not to.
I do…. Have to find the right person first though
I just want to have a place to call my own and my own car I can use to get around in. Married? Not even on my radar
We have been engaged since January 1st 2020 and have 0 plans to get married. Not because we don’t want to, but because it’s a waste of our hard early, too easily lost money. We only just managed to buy a house at 25 though saving since 21. After this we will need a new car. A holiday also sure sounds nice.
Getting married is last on out list 🙁 damm cost of living, damm tories
Sure, we could spend a couple hundred quid to sign some papers at a registry office, but it really isn’t a priority right now in a cost of living crisis where we’re trying to scrape enough money together to buy a house while having to dig into our savings to pay bills, petrol, food, etc. At this rate I won’t have any substantial savings left to pass on to my partner after I die, which would be the only reason we’d even get a marriage certificate at a registry office, so really what is the point in even bothering? I would love to have a nice wedding celebrating with family and friends, rather than just signing papers, but it’s not going to happen for us on our incomes.
Do we want to get married? Depends, to whom.
no. i wish to eat and stay warm.
I couldn’t think of anything worse than a wedding day.
Mind you even as a kid I disliked having birthday parties for myself. 😂
Are you asking or offering?
I don’t, I think marriage is expensive and exhausting
I do. I also want kids. But I can’t even afford to live myself so. Maybe one day.
Too risky, especially as the higher earner, especially as a man
Do I want to risk losing everything I worked for in a divorce? Allowing the government into my relationships, and having to beg a judge if I want to leave them due to being unhappy?
The fuck do you think of course I don’t want to get married.
There is absolutely no reason to get married, it’s a bit of paper that you can get any of the pros by just having a will in place.
Its a loss for men to get married in the UK. Only stupid men would do it
I got married. To a Canadian and hopefully I’ll get to leave this country in a year or two.
I don’t want to admit that I barely have any friends of my own to invite. The bridesmaid and best man could be the same person.
I’m perfectly open to the idea of getting married to the right woman. I think married life could be a rather nice thing indeed, so long as we both deeply love and respect each other as individuals, instead of just viewing each other as her husband/my wife.
I just don’t want any kids, is all!
Personally, no, not really. Been with the missus 6 or 7 years now and neither of us particularly want to get married, nor do we want children. It just seems unnecessary, but this is merely our personal feelings on the matter, obviously I can’t speak for anyone else and if you wanna get married, by all means, do whatever makes you happy and I’ll be happy for you
Marriage is a pointless waste of money, you can be happy with someone without it and at the same time call yourself husband and wife without a certificate.