What a horrific story. What a ghastly man. Plenty of people have an awful time in care and never ever even think of doing this.
She must of fucked him well over for him to be haunted for that long and do something so horrendous,
It’s right he be punished but as for the mother, her chickens have certainly come home to roost, her statements read like a victim template.
Pretty shitty victim blaming going on here. Guy was to blame here, nothing more. Pouring sugar into boiling water is no sudden anger. Water takes time to boil, and to then think about putting sugar in it. That’s deliberate.
Just a desperately sad story from every angle, and another indicator if we ever needed one that the UK is pitifully underserved in terms of mental health and family support.
There’s no sugar-coating it, she came to a rather sticky end. It’ll be a long time until he gets to smell the air of sweet freedom.
It’s called syrup, or caramel if boiled long enough and thick enough with water evaporated to minimum.
I can only imagine the pain and damage that would have done, boiling sugar is no joke. I used to make boiled sweets for a living years ago, and trust me, you don’t want that making contact with your skin. I saw some horrific burns on peoples arms from doing that job.
I don’t doubt he had a rough childhood, but that is some truly scary mindset to want to inflict that level of pain on somebody
Man, as somebody who ended up in foster care on account of my own mother’s extreme abuse, it’s honestly really hard not to sympathise with the guy.
You don’t end up in care over nothing. In my case it only finally occurred when I was starving to death over severe untreated tonsillitis, my hair was falling out due to stress alopecia, and my teeth were rotting out of my skull due to her never providing a toothbrush and a toothpaste keeping me away from authority figures my entire life—the medical profession especially. I still seethe over the lifelong damage she’s inflicted on me.
He was the child and she was the adult. To get to the stage where he resorted to doing this, he must have really suffered because of her actions.
**edit:** Was just browsing the guy’s Facebook out of curiosity and he seems very religious and is very involved with his local church. Seems that every year on his birthday he asks people to, in lieu of birthday gifts, donate to Become, a charity dedicated to aiding and assisting of care leavers.
This just makes feel even worse for the poor guy tbh. He’s tried to escape his demons through communion with his faith, but it obviously wasn’t enough.
**edit2:** I found the mum on Facebook, and based on her post history her character is about what you’d expect. It seems that she has in recent years had two other little boys taken from her care. She is commenting about how they were taken from her because of “a bruise”, and how those same kids are saying that they don’t want contact with her. I quote, *”how can two boys say they don’t want to see there mam when I brought them up”*.
Make of that what you will.
The guys beyond fixing unfortunately and needs locked up for the rest of his life, but his mother sounds like a complete piece of shit that has tortured him until he was broken.
Sounds like he’s had a pretty terrible life, about to be made worse by prison… sad all round
I don’t know what’s fully true so I’m just gonna “…”
Regardless of the pain someone inflicted him, his actions cannot be defended because violence at that point wouldn’t solve anything, it wasn’t self-defense. And now we need more investment to make a proper jail system that will help change those behaviors.
I do hope this serves as a cautionary tale for future parents. Deciding to make kids is a HUGE decision, it will impact your life and society sure, but most of all, YOUR decision will affect the kid you’re bringing into the world. If you don’t give them the right tools and love he needs to develop well, he may very well turn into a violent person unable to fit in civic society. Sharing DNA with someone won’t exempt you from becoming their victim. That mother being surprised that her own son attacked her seems to think DNA makes a magical bond on its own. It does not.
If you get pregnant and you cannot give that kid a good start, terminate the pregnancy, you may have kids when your financial/psychological/emotional situation is better and they will be better for it.
It says he has also been arrested for abusing ex partners. He is broken.
What rapid dog
You don’t get stuck in a care home for nothing or small things.
You get placed in a care home after a series of large events.
Part of the reason for this is that in the care system there is a very big issue with violent or sexual assault against children.
This woman isn’t the innocent victim she’s playing the part of. She was so terrible that a group of people decided that this child was better off in the horrific care system, where he was more than likely further abused.
She’s an awful person more than likely.
He’s probably so psychologically destroyed that he’s virtually beyond fixing from all the childhood abuse and trauma.
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What a horrific story. What a ghastly man. Plenty of people have an awful time in care and never ever even think of doing this.
She must of fucked him well over for him to be haunted for that long and do something so horrendous,
It’s right he be punished but as for the mother, her chickens have certainly come home to roost, her statements read like a victim template.
Pretty shitty victim blaming going on here. Guy was to blame here, nothing more. Pouring sugar into boiling water is no sudden anger. Water takes time to boil, and to then think about putting sugar in it. That’s deliberate.
Just a desperately sad story from every angle, and another indicator if we ever needed one that the UK is pitifully underserved in terms of mental health and family support.
There’s no sugar-coating it, she came to a rather sticky end. It’ll be a long time until he gets to smell the air of sweet freedom.
It’s called syrup, or caramel if boiled long enough and thick enough with water evaporated to minimum.
I can only imagine the pain and damage that would have done, boiling sugar is no joke. I used to make boiled sweets for a living years ago, and trust me, you don’t want that making contact with your skin. I saw some horrific burns on peoples arms from doing that job.
I don’t doubt he had a rough childhood, but that is some truly scary mindset to want to inflict that level of pain on somebody
Man, as somebody who ended up in foster care on account of my own mother’s extreme abuse, it’s honestly really hard not to sympathise with the guy.
You don’t end up in care over nothing. In my case it only finally occurred when I was starving to death over severe untreated tonsillitis, my hair was falling out due to stress alopecia, and my teeth were rotting out of my skull due to her never providing a toothbrush and a toothpaste keeping me away from authority figures my entire life—the medical profession especially. I still seethe over the lifelong damage she’s inflicted on me.
He was the child and she was the adult. To get to the stage where he resorted to doing this, he must have really suffered because of her actions.
**edit:** Was just browsing the guy’s Facebook out of curiosity and he seems very religious and is very involved with his local church. Seems that every year on his birthday he asks people to, in lieu of birthday gifts, donate to Become, a charity dedicated to aiding and assisting of care leavers.
This just makes feel even worse for the poor guy tbh. He’s tried to escape his demons through communion with his faith, but it obviously wasn’t enough.
**edit2:** I found the mum on Facebook, and based on her post history her character is about what you’d expect. It seems that she has in recent years had two other little boys taken from her care. She is commenting about how they were taken from her because of “a bruise”, and how those same kids are saying that they don’t want contact with her. I quote, *”how can two boys say they don’t want to see there mam when I brought them up”*.
Make of that what you will.
The guys beyond fixing unfortunately and needs locked up for the rest of his life, but his mother sounds like a complete piece of shit that has tortured him until he was broken.
Sounds like he’s had a pretty terrible life, about to be made worse by prison… sad all round
I don’t know what’s fully true so I’m just gonna “…”
Regardless of the pain someone inflicted him, his actions cannot be defended because violence at that point wouldn’t solve anything, it wasn’t self-defense. And now we need more investment to make a proper jail system that will help change those behaviors.
I do hope this serves as a cautionary tale for future parents. Deciding to make kids is a HUGE decision, it will impact your life and society sure, but most of all, YOUR decision will affect the kid you’re bringing into the world. If you don’t give them the right tools and love he needs to develop well, he may very well turn into a violent person unable to fit in civic society. Sharing DNA with someone won’t exempt you from becoming their victim. That mother being surprised that her own son attacked her seems to think DNA makes a magical bond on its own. It does not.
If you get pregnant and you cannot give that kid a good start, terminate the pregnancy, you may have kids when your financial/psychological/emotional situation is better and they will be better for it.
It says he has also been arrested for abusing ex partners. He is broken.
What rapid dog
You don’t get stuck in a care home for nothing or small things.
You get placed in a care home after a series of large events.
Part of the reason for this is that in the care system there is a very big issue with violent or sexual assault against children.
This woman isn’t the innocent victim she’s playing the part of. She was so terrible that a group of people decided that this child was better off in the horrific care system, where he was more than likely further abused.
She’s an awful person more than likely.
He’s probably so psychologically destroyed that he’s virtually beyond fixing from all the childhood abuse and trauma.
A sad situation all around.