I know in both Korea & Japan, they have a fixation on knowing the [*blood types*](https://www.koreanclass101.com/blog/2018/05/09/blood-type-personality-in-korea/) of both the guy and the girl (as they believe it can tell more about a person). Another thing to take note, in Japan when dating online, it’s not considered a true ‘relationship’ as they believe he or she has to be committed. Hookups are taboo, and kissing in public is frowned upon since most Japanese people don’t show off their affection openly. (Info referenced from [here](https://linkjapancareers.net/dating-in-japan-as-a-foreigner-a-guide-to-sites-culture/))

I mean what would be the reaction of a Portuguese man or woman if a Japanese / Korean guy or girl asked them for their blood type upon meeting him or her for the first time? Have Portuguese people dated a Japanese / Korean girl or guy? Do they have to adjust to the cultural differences between dating or establishing a relationship with each other? How common are hookups in Portugal? Is PDA (Public display of affection) even a thing in Portugal?

Secondly, there is a [forum](https://girlschannel.net/) in Japan that women or (men) use to discuss their experiences on dating, similar to how *Reddit* works but specifically for relationships, even on this site Japanese women discuss the body odor of foreign men they’ve slept with. – In reference to this (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NHBtFbSQBa8). To note some Japanese guys do ask foreign men about their d\*ck size, how would a Portuguese dude react if a guy from Japan brought up that kind of subject matter in Portugal? Women on Girls Channel, like some Japanese guys, do discuss d\*ck sizes of foreign men they’ve slept with on the site.

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  1. Asking those kinds of questions upon meeting for the first time?
    People would probably be weirded out, but still reply if you are an acquaintance.

    The dick size question would be a bit tougher, most men feel uncomfortable talking about it or would outright lie about it.

    As usual your mileage will vary with familiarity between people, you’ll probably get an easier time getting answers after a date or two.

    As for PDA/ hookups, our society is still largely governed by conservative values and catholic morals. Women who hook up are frowned on, while men get a lot less flak for it. This is more prevalent outside big cities. But hookups are still pretty common.
    PDA are largely ok, if not very usual to see.

    We’re gradually (at a glacial pace) getting more open about these points.

  2. > I know in both Korea & Japan, they have a fixation on knowing the blood types of both the guy and the girl (as they believe it can tell more about a person). Another thing to take note, in Japan when dating online, it’s not considered a true ‘relationship’ as they believe he or she has to be committed. Hookups are taboo, and kissing in public is frowned upon since most Japanese people don’t show off their affection openly. (Info referenced from here)

    Kissing in public is very common in Portugal. It is usual to kiss not only family members and love interests but also in social situations.

    Many foreigners don’t know that in Portugal it is considered rude to not kiss the waiter as you are leaving a restaurant (worse than not leaving a tip) or to not kiss the mailman or delivery man. If you’re not kissing delivery people they might consider that you’re rude and not deliver your mail and packages at all. You’ll want to avoid that.

    The only time you should not kiss is when you are approached by officials like police as it can be considered a bribe (also don’t tip them), a teacher or anyone else in uniform. In hospitals you are expected to kiss the doctors but not the nurses. On the workplace kissing your superiors is considered ‘bad taste’ if they don’t ask for it first, but you’re expected to kiss all the colleagues or it would seem rude.

    My tip to you if you come to visit or live in Portugal is that you use mouthwash at least twice daily and to be sure always have a pack of gum with you. Having fresh breath is very important because as so many day to day activities are dependant on that.

    Another tip is to figure out your style and be consistent with it. People will consider weird if you sometimes keep your eyes closed during kissing but open when kissing someone else. Use tongue sparingly.

    > Secondly, there is a forum in Japan that women or (men) use to discuss their experiences on dating, similar to how Reddit works but specifically for relationships, even on this site Japanese women discuss the body odor of foreign men they’ve slept with. – In reference to this video. To note some Japanese guys do ask foreign men about their d*ck size, how would a Portuguese dude react if a guy from Japan brought up that kind of subject matter in Portugal? Women on Girls Channel, like some Japanese guys, do discuss d*ck sizes of foreign men they’ve slept with on the site.

    The sea and the Portuguese Discoveries are very important in Portuguese culture so women are usually more interested in what sea related activities man do.

    To be skilled at dating in Portugal you have to able to brag (in a humble manner) how well and for how long you can swim, what’s the biggest jump you ever made to a pool (or from a small cliff to the sea), if you can open your eyes underwater and for how long in a pool vs the sea, lake or lagoon.

    Fishing activities are also very appreciated but make sure it’s clear that you do not not only fish but also indulge in swimming and diving as much as possible and are you’re able to handle all wet and slippery situations.

  3. In Portugal it is very common on a first date to ask “Pinas?” which is very profound yet untranslatable

  4. >I mean what would be the reaction of a Portuguese man or woman if a Japanese / Korean guy or girl asked them for their blood type upon meeting him or her for the first time?

    I’d think they’d want to harvest my organs and would gtfo imediatly

    >How common are hookups in Portugal?

    depends a lot on your circles, looks, talking skills, etc

    >Is PDA (Public display of affection) even a thing in Portugal?

    yes, sometimes too much

  7. The show of affection in public, I could see clearly that being an issue.

    Meet two Korean girls a few years ago, planned to meet one of them at Camões Square ( I think we chat over couch surf, or something alike).

    When I show up she is there with a friend , that she says it’s a person she knew before and they just meet also, so she invited her along. Me ok, it seems like she brought a friend to a date to have more safety, all good, night goes along, we had some drinks l, sometimes they would chat between them, but conversation was flowing.

    Late in the evening, the person I was meeting wanted to go along with more people from the hostel she also meet, and me and the friend where already tired, kind of 3 am, so we both said, oh let’s call it out for today and go home. I asked where she was staying so I could walk her there. And that is what happened, but we stayed still chatting in the staircase of the church. Changed phone numbers, and planned to meet in the next days.

    So we meet we went for dinner, dropped by the beach, drink some wine and got some kissing, and the night finished.

    The next day she was taking the bus to Seville, and I went to say goodbye at the bus terminal, and we where quite close and so on, but she wouldn’t want me to hug her when she was going to the bus because there where more Koreans on the bus and what would they think about it. To my understanding no one that she really knew, so she was half world way from home, and wondering what others would think of her!

  8. The etiquette may look weird but you are supposed to mention the size of your penis. If you’re a girl you should ask.

    The reason is to know beforehand if the sexual intercourse will feel too painful or too loose.

    Good luck

  11. Had no idea such fixation for blood types existed XD
    I think it would be a bit weirded out if a person brought that up on a first date, especially if I didn’t know that person for a long time.

    Things that are common to ask when you’re starting to know someone (wouldn’t say specifically on the first one) would be expectations regarding family, for example! Does he/she want kids? I’ve seen that multiple times as that’s often a deal breaker. Doesn’t mean I want to have kids with you necessarily but If someone’s looking for a partner to settle with then that’s one of the big Q’s to ask.

    As for online dating, I guess it really depends. I don’t think there’s any specific “culture” about online dating being considered not a true relationship in Portugal. Probably older people will not see it as a real relationship but among younger generations I’ve met quite a few couples that were long-distance dating (either for a short period of time or a longer one). I guess it’s far more a personal decision than necessary one made regarding society’s view.

    “Have Portuguese people dated Japanese/Korean girl or guy” well I’m sure some have XD It’s not the sort of international couple you’d see very often in Portugal. In fact, most of the time I see a couple composed of European + Asian people in Portugal it’s usually foreign guys with Asian girls. Very rarely I’ve seen European girls with Asian guys. But that’s just my experience, doesn’t mean that on average that’s the reality.

    I’m sure there are cultural differences to adjust to. Overall I think Portuguese are more “touchy” than Asians which will probably be one of the things that’s harder to overcome in the beginning. We hug and kiss on the cheek as a way of saying hello, etc. And seem to me overall more ok about demonstrations of affection (for loved ones in general, not just gf/bf). We are also louder overall and more effusive about demonstrating our emotions.

    PDA it’s generally well accepted in Portugal as long as you’re not doing that in a place where it would be awkward (ex. massive making out on the subway). But even in those “excessive” situations, I think often people get a bit annoyed at it but don’t bother calling out to people.

    In regards to hookups, I guess it really depends on the area of the country and your friend circle!

    About the dick question, I can’t help ya, you’ve got to ask a dude. I will say that among girls, in a close group of friends, it wouldn’t be that uncommon to talk about dick size now and then. However! That’s usually not seen as a dealbreaker unlike many guys would think. We care way more about what you do with what you’ve got and the way you treat us than a measurement you were born with *[my 2 cents about it and what I think is the overall view on this based on most girls I’ve met!]* 

  12. Blood types and dick sizes? Those would be weird topics to start a conversation, in Portugal or anywhere else…

  14. I am a Portuguese guy married with a Japanese girl and currently living for 5 years in Japan.

    The subject of blood type never came up while dating. The only time we talked about it was after getting married and just in case of an emergency. She didn’t know her blood type by the way.

    Dating was normal, as It would be dating a Portuguese woman. The only different thing is the perception that Europeans are more opened and such, expect somewhat a higher degree of romantic gestures. But again, nothing out of the ordinary.

    People often are different and cannot be all be put into a category. But one needs to consider the fact that a regular Japanese would never marry a foreigner if she wasn’t open minded and/or critical of Japanese culture.

    However regarding PDA yes, there are none between us when outside. But that changes when we are in Portugal. It’s more like a “When in Rome…” kinda thing in Japan. Don’t want to often people, so we just decide to be private, like everyone else. This does not count for hand-holding. It’s light and cute and we do it.

    Regarding hookups, from my wife’s friends I can see some of her friends indeed use tinder for one-night-stand. Some with foreigners others with just Japanese men, so I guess it depends on the type of person.

    As for dick size.. yeah… I already caught a few guys in the rest room trying to take a peak, but no one ever asked me directly, nor would I consider sharing. I also don’t need to see their dick so I’m okay with not being bothered.

  17. Ask about hobbies, type of music they like, what movies they’ve seen recently and what they thought of it, what places around town they enjoy or what events they missed most during isolation… human things, the type of thing that *actually* tells you about the person. If you’re into astrology, ask about that as likeminded people will appreciate it and believe to know more about you through it, think of it as the western world’s blood type. (there’s nothing exclusively western about it ik)

    If a portuguese person has dated a JP/KR person or not will vary, I don’t think anyone can answer you that in here obviously, maybe ask the person you’re courting if you are curious and explain the struggle you have with cultural differences to them, it’s conversational and you can end up laughing about something together.

    Don’t go around asking about dick size I think, idk depends on the person I guess. PDA is quite ok but maybe ask the person you’re hanging out with how they feel about it.

  20. >I mean what would be the reaction of a Portuguese man or woman if a Japanese / Korean guy or girl asked them for their blood type upon meeting him or her for the first time?

    Asking someone’s blood type would be *really* frowned upon and you’d probably leave the other person wondering about *why the hell* would you want to know that. They’d probably think you’re either a medicine nerd (which would be considered weird unless you’re a healthcare professional), a serial killer, or are involved in organ trafficking.

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    >Have Portuguese people dated a Japanese / Korean girl or guy?

    (Not Portugal, but close enough) I did graduate in East Asian Studies (in Spain though) and many of my classmates have gone on exchange to S.Korea, Japan, China, and Taiwan. Many of them started relationships with locals when studying over there, so in *my* social circle, it’s a pretty regular occurrence. One of my best friends is half-Korean, and I met her through my degree. Overall though? Not that much Korean or Japanese immigration around here. People are far more likely to date someone from China, as that’s our biggest East Asian community.

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    >Do they have to adjust to the cultural differences between dating or establishing a relationship with each other?

    Yes, most of those relationships haven’t lasted much. I can only think of one classmate who’s still dating her Japanese boyfriend.

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    >How common are hookups in Portugal?

    Depends on your social circle, but not uncommon.

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    >Is PDA (Public display of affection) even a thing in Portugal?

    Yes, we are notably touchy with loved ones and friends. Couples hold hands, kiss, and hug (pretty tight) in public quite a lot. Not uncommon to see couples making out in public once in a while (most people don’t like that though). Sometimes it unfortunately goes beyond making out…

  21. Blood type is not relevant outside a medical context, some people don’t even remember their type. Hookups are common but of course it depends on the person. Some people dislike casual sex and prefer to be in relationships, others have multiple regular partners (“friends with benefits”), others prefer one night stands, etc… Older people will be more traditional, but with younger people you shouldn’t assume you’re exclusive until you talk about it.

    Public displays of affection are normal, but of course that if you’re hardcore making out on the street that’s not very tasteful.

  22. > Have Portuguese people dated a Japanese / Korean girl or guy?

    I’m sure that must have happened sometime in the history of the world.

  28. >I mean what would be the reaction of a Portuguese man or woman if a Japanese / Korean guy or girl asked them for their blood type upon meeting him or her for the first time?

    That would be pretty weird, if not creepy. Portuguese people never ask that on dates (and even on normal ocasions unless the topic naturally comes up) and I’d dare to say most of us don’t really know our blood type by heart.

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    >How common are hookups in Portugal?

    It depends on the person and a lot of other factors but I’d say they aren’t very uncommon, at least among young adults.

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    >Is PDA (Public display of affection) even a thing in Portugal?

    Yes. You’ll see people kissing/making out a lot of times. And holding hands and hugging is completely normal.

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