I (male) was sexually assaulted in Cumbria, must have been 20 years ago now. I didn’t tell anyone or anything, it really wrecked my life for a long time.
Hearing this is moving for me, it’s such a good thing to do. I don’t know if telling someone would have helped. I don’t know if the paramedics had asked like it was a possibility, I would have said anything either. I think I preferred that no one even knew men did get assaulted.
They just put on my file I’d fallen over drunk lol
I wonder if that guy did it again, I was just an underage teenager. Sorry for the ramble.
Good to hear, more does need to be done about this serious issue.
Updating the actual criteria for what counts as rape under UK law would be a good idea as well.
Excellent news.
One thing I always used to find pretty bizarre when out with my male friends is how they had obviously not had the lectures that most girls have ingrained in them – watch your drinks, make sure you walk home with someone, don’t go to the bathroom on your own, you have to look out for each other.
One of my friends who was quite slight was followed from a bus stop by a guy who kept making gestures. He seemed to find it more bemusing than alarming, and didn’t get why we were so concerned about whether the guy had seen where he lived.
It was like people didn’t twig that young guys (and of course, males of other age groups) could be vulnerable. I hope public information campaigns like this help to raise awareness.
This is of course a bad thing as it’s distracting from women’s issues, we know men can never have problems.
Is it true that by law the meaning of rape is ” being penetrated by a males penis “? If true, it should be changed. A woman forcing herself on a man or boy should be considered rape by law.
Good, the most prolific rapist in British history raped men, not women. We know men are more likely to be raped than accused of raping someone else and an increasingly alarming body of evidence show’s rape (particularly date rape) is getting very common amongst men.
I (male) was sexually assaulted by a group of women on a night out once. Without getting into details it was scary stuff, I was genuinely scared for my life at one point.
Everyone I told about it laughed and said “I bet you loved it really ;)”
It’s horrible. Sexual violence against women is swept under the rug here and isn’t taken as seriously as it should be. But sexual violence against men is taken even less seriously than that.
Can you imagine a woman telling her friends she’d been raped and then they all laugh at her and told her she loved it really?
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I (male) was sexually assaulted in Cumbria, must have been 20 years ago now. I didn’t tell anyone or anything, it really wrecked my life for a long time.
Hearing this is moving for me, it’s such a good thing to do. I don’t know if telling someone would have helped. I don’t know if the paramedics had asked like it was a possibility, I would have said anything either. I think I preferred that no one even knew men did get assaulted.
They just put on my file I’d fallen over drunk lol
I wonder if that guy did it again, I was just an underage teenager. Sorry for the ramble.
Good to hear, more does need to be done about this serious issue.
Updating the actual criteria for what counts as rape under UK law would be a good idea as well.
Excellent news.
One thing I always used to find pretty bizarre when out with my male friends is how they had obviously not had the lectures that most girls have ingrained in them – watch your drinks, make sure you walk home with someone, don’t go to the bathroom on your own, you have to look out for each other.
One of my friends who was quite slight was followed from a bus stop by a guy who kept making gestures. He seemed to find it more bemusing than alarming, and didn’t get why we were so concerned about whether the guy had seen where he lived.
It was like people didn’t twig that young guys (and of course, males of other age groups) could be vulnerable. I hope public information campaigns like this help to raise awareness.
This is of course a bad thing as it’s distracting from women’s issues, we know men can never have problems.
Is it true that by law the meaning of rape is ” being penetrated by a males penis “? If true, it should be changed. A woman forcing herself on a man or boy should be considered rape by law.
Good, the most prolific rapist in British history raped men, not women. We know men are more likely to be raped than accused of raping someone else and an increasingly alarming body of evidence show’s rape (particularly date rape) is getting very common amongst men.
I (male) was sexually assaulted by a group of women on a night out once. Without getting into details it was scary stuff, I was genuinely scared for my life at one point.
Everyone I told about it laughed and said “I bet you loved it really ;)”
It’s horrible. Sexual violence against women is swept under the rug here and isn’t taken as seriously as it should be. But sexual violence against men is taken even less seriously than that.
Can you imagine a woman telling her friends she’d been raped and then they all laugh at her and told her she loved it really?