Prize for any outlet that can publish a positive headline before the end of 2022
I’m glad someone is shining a light on this. Violence is always a tragedy. We have to address our toxic culture that teaches people it is okay to resort to screaming and hitting when you do not get what you want. We need to reduce aggression, and increase empathy and tolerance, through education and addressing the social conditions of poverty and desperation which lead so many down the dark path towards violent attitudes. The actual fatal blow is merely the culmination of a process which takes years, wearing down and chipping away at the soul and the human dignity of the culprit. To end violence, we must end the material conditions and the social attitudes which make violence an acceptable and practical reality of life for so many.
Many won’t like to hear this, and will tell me I’m being “woke”, but the truth is that it starts with ending toxic masculinity, which is as harmful to men as it is to anyone else. The perpetrators are dehumanised and isolated, and the victims are, well victims of the consequences of that. We have to stop teaching boys that getting angry is okay, and start teaching them to express their anger in a healthy way which respects other people’s rights and boundaries. Of course it’s not just boys, but the statistics show a clear problem of male violence, so this has to be addressed.
This starts by example: we must respect the feelings of children and show them all the love in the world, stop segregating them by sex or other characteristics at an early age because it teaches inequality and intolerance, and instead teach them to see all people as people worthy of a minimum level of respect. And parents have to stop screaming at their kids just because the child does something they don’t like – it’s called being a parent, find a better way to communicate with your children and set healthy boundaries or don’t have them at all, instead of raising people who think aggression is the answer. If the parents don’t respect the child, which is far too often the case, then the child will grow up to be someone who does not respect others – it is plain common sense. This country has a very lax attitude towards the rights of children, it’s time we started taking the dignity of young people seriously if we want to raise people who understand the importance of those values.
If anyone’s wondering if the headline is followed up with “… primarily by other men”, it is.
(Which is terrible, of course. Just getting in there before the Men Going Their Own Way types show up.)
It details men killed by friends, acquaintances and siblings in domestic settings – 1,046 male homicides. It’s mostly young men – *”between the ages of 16 to 24, there is a marked shift. At that age, 81% of all homicide victims are male – 890 out of 1,096 of all young adult deaths.”*
*”…We need also to address how male violence can become normalised. And that means focusing on why the number of household male murder victims is on the rise, and why men killing men is all too often so unremarkable as to be of any concern at all.”*
It’s not a competition, although the way some people discuss this issue you’d think it was.
“Primarily by other men”
Well, well, well.
Same shit, different day.
What no one seems to be addressing is why women are killing so few people. What’s their angle exactly? Is it a ploy to make men look bad? If it is, it’s working.
Terrible headline clearly intended just to rile people up. Everybody is taking the bait and blaming women.
Alternate headline:
More men are killed each year than women – primarily by other men.
Hey Reddit how about we stop blaming women for the violence of men? Or is that too much to ask?
I can’t believe people taking from this that domestic abuse shouldn’t get attention it should
Without knowing about nature of victims death . It hard to make any judgments. We don’t know if the victims death are gang link , mental health link ,domestic violence link ( either them
Being victim themselves or they killed because they new partner )
All these death will have very different reasons , and solutions
But what we need to change as society is getting proper mental health support , teach boys from young age it ok to talk and show emotions .
93% of murderers are men and 80%of victims are also men so I don’t think anyone is surprised by this, I also don’t see how saying that men are doing the murdering changes anything to be honest..
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Prize for any outlet that can publish a positive headline before the end of 2022
I’m glad someone is shining a light on this. Violence is always a tragedy. We have to address our toxic culture that teaches people it is okay to resort to screaming and hitting when you do not get what you want. We need to reduce aggression, and increase empathy and tolerance, through education and addressing the social conditions of poverty and desperation which lead so many down the dark path towards violent attitudes. The actual fatal blow is merely the culmination of a process which takes years, wearing down and chipping away at the soul and the human dignity of the culprit. To end violence, we must end the material conditions and the social attitudes which make violence an acceptable and practical reality of life for so many.
Many won’t like to hear this, and will tell me I’m being “woke”, but the truth is that it starts with ending toxic masculinity, which is as harmful to men as it is to anyone else. The perpetrators are dehumanised and isolated, and the victims are, well victims of the consequences of that. We have to stop teaching boys that getting angry is okay, and start teaching them to express their anger in a healthy way which respects other people’s rights and boundaries. Of course it’s not just boys, but the statistics show a clear problem of male violence, so this has to be addressed.
This starts by example: we must respect the feelings of children and show them all the love in the world, stop segregating them by sex or other characteristics at an early age because it teaches inequality and intolerance, and instead teach them to see all people as people worthy of a minimum level of respect. And parents have to stop screaming at their kids just because the child does something they don’t like – it’s called being a parent, find a better way to communicate with your children and set healthy boundaries or don’t have them at all, instead of raising people who think aggression is the answer. If the parents don’t respect the child, which is far too often the case, then the child will grow up to be someone who does not respect others – it is plain common sense. This country has a very lax attitude towards the rights of children, it’s time we started taking the dignity of young people seriously if we want to raise people who understand the importance of those values.
If anyone’s wondering if the headline is followed up with “… primarily by other men”, it is.
(Which is terrible, of course. Just getting in there before the Men Going Their Own Way types show up.)
It details men killed by friends, acquaintances and siblings in domestic settings – 1,046 male homicides. It’s mostly young men – *”between the ages of 16 to 24, there is a marked shift. At that age, 81% of all homicide victims are male – 890 out of 1,096 of all young adult deaths.”*
*”…We need also to address how male violence can become normalised. And that means focusing on why the number of household male murder victims is on the rise, and why men killing men is all too often so unremarkable as to be of any concern at all.”*
It’s not a competition, although the way some people discuss this issue you’d think it was.
“Primarily by other men”
Well, well, well.
Same shit, different day.
What no one seems to be addressing is why women are killing so few people. What’s their angle exactly? Is it a ploy to make men look bad? If it is, it’s working.
Terrible headline clearly intended just to rile people up. Everybody is taking the bait and blaming women.
Alternate headline:
More men are killed each year than women – primarily by other men.
Hey Reddit how about we stop blaming women for the violence of men? Or is that too much to ask?
I can’t believe people taking from this that domestic abuse shouldn’t get attention it should
Without knowing about nature of victims death . It hard to make any judgments. We don’t know if the victims death are gang link , mental health link ,domestic violence link ( either them
Being victim themselves or they killed because they new partner )
All these death will have very different reasons , and solutions
But what we need to change as society is getting proper mental health support , teach boys from young age it ok to talk and show emotions .
93% of murderers are men and 80%of victims are also men so I don’t think anyone is surprised by this, I also don’t see how saying that men are doing the murdering changes anything to be honest..