Dunno about my parents talking about porn, I’d find that pretty cringeworthy.
I don’t see what’s wrong in finding a porno mag stuffed in a Bush, or hedge.
It’s good advice. Some of those pop ups can be really annoying. And you should always be careful about just locking your phone immediately after because next time you open it back up it’s going straight back to that video.
Decent advice, but most parents wont do it because it makes them feel uncomfortable, and if schools try to do it then parents (and the Daily Mail) will kick off.
The problem is kids don’t get their porn experience from a bush anymore. You can’t start with the hardcore kink stuff. Gotta star off small and work you way up to that.
I genuinely don’t understand what the issue is. When I was a kid the internet was a wild west and I causally stumbled upon plenty of porn that could well be illegal all just by clicking around on Yahoo. Still, I didn’t end up thinking that it’s normal or acceptable for women to have sex with dogs or it’s normal to cause your partner pain in sex by choking them or slapping them etc.
How on Earth do people not realise that porn is not a representation of real sex? Do they also think that one day time would just freeze on a train so they can rape everyone with no consequences, or that the parcel delivery guy would randomly initiate a sex party with them? I can’t imagine what Billie Eilish would believe in if she had seen the sex with mummy porn lol…
Since we’re all for science why not teach them about what it does to your brain in schools. The reality is porn is just a suppressant for the masses.
>Another said: “At that young age you don’t really know what’s right and wrong and you just follow whatever you see on porn sites.”
Follow? If it’s about what they do rather than what they see, then the problem isn’t with porn.
Banning and blocking porn doesn’t help with the issue of ignorance. And it means all porn gets treated the same way, so when they do find it, it could be anything.
Had a parent kick off on our local FB group because the school tried teaching 14 year old girls how to put condoms on. Can only imagine the uproar if the subject of porn came up.
Lazy and ignorant parents are the problem. They need to actually do their job and raise their kids. Teach them about sex. Educate yourself on how to properly monitor your child’s electronics to limit porn access so younger kids don’t accidentally see stuff.
If more parents raised their kids instead of dragging them up this would be less problematic. We all know children can and do get interested in sexuality. Make sure they feel safe to talk to you, make sure you explain these things so they understand that porn is exaggerated to compensate for the inability to satisfy other senses. Don’t leave your children to learn about sex from porn and online strangers.
Teaching safe sex and consent to a child helps them grow up to be functioning adults. Talk to your child before they’re a teenager so they know what’s coming don’t wait for them to be hit by panic. Explain how the body works and how these urges are natural. Don’t punish them for self exploration, just make sure they understand it is a private activity and to be safe.
Sex is as fundamental as eating and sleeping. In 12 years of full time education, some kids get less than a week spent on sex ed. Parents just leave it to the school.
Half of sex ed is human biology, the other about contraception, that’s all.
With only 2 kids per family, 99% of sex is purely for pleasure with heavy duty contraception.
Where is the education that prepares kids for this? Nowhere.
Kids go deliberately looking for porn to learn what their teachers and parents can’t bring themselves to talk about due to embarrassment.
I’ve actually found over time that arguably my most unpopular political opinion – once that upsets both the left *and* right – is that I don’t think pornography in and of itself is harmful. The issues come from the hideous and exploitative industry that has developed around it which often pushes the most extreme – sometimes borderline illegal – content on an audience it believes is jaded with ‘conventional sex’.
I think that one thing the left of politics can – and I’d even argue *should* – being doing here is the promotion of ethical and independently produced content from outside the major studios, who are pretty much all equally awful. And in response to this article directly I agree that I don’t think we should be avoiding discussion about sex with children entirely as that just exoticises it and makes it more likely that incredibly young people will go searching for extreme pornography online.
TL;DR I think these issues would be solved by becoming a much more sex positive nation/society than we currently are.
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Dunno about my parents talking about porn, I’d find that pretty cringeworthy.
I don’t see what’s wrong in finding a porno mag stuffed in a Bush, or hedge.
It’s good advice. Some of those pop ups can be really annoying. And you should always be careful about just locking your phone immediately after because next time you open it back up it’s going straight back to that video.
Decent advice, but most parents wont do it because it makes them feel uncomfortable, and if schools try to do it then parents (and the Daily Mail) will kick off.
The problem is kids don’t get their porn experience from a bush anymore. You can’t start with the hardcore kink stuff. Gotta star off small and work you way up to that.
I genuinely don’t understand what the issue is. When I was a kid the internet was a wild west and I causally stumbled upon plenty of porn that could well be illegal all just by clicking around on Yahoo. Still, I didn’t end up thinking that it’s normal or acceptable for women to have sex with dogs or it’s normal to cause your partner pain in sex by choking them or slapping them etc.
How on Earth do people not realise that porn is not a representation of real sex? Do they also think that one day time would just freeze on a train so they can rape everyone with no consequences, or that the parcel delivery guy would randomly initiate a sex party with them? I can’t imagine what Billie Eilish would believe in if she had seen the sex with mummy porn lol…
Since we’re all for science why not teach them about what it does to your brain in schools. The reality is porn is just a suppressant for the masses.
>Another said: “At that young age you don’t really know what’s right and wrong and you just follow whatever you see on porn sites.”
Follow? If it’s about what they do rather than what they see, then the problem isn’t with porn.
Banning and blocking porn doesn’t help with the issue of ignorance. And it means all porn gets treated the same way, so when they do find it, it could be anything.
Had a parent kick off on our local FB group because the school tried teaching 14 year old girls how to put condoms on. Can only imagine the uproar if the subject of porn came up.
Lazy and ignorant parents are the problem. They need to actually do their job and raise their kids. Teach them about sex. Educate yourself on how to properly monitor your child’s electronics to limit porn access so younger kids don’t accidentally see stuff.
If more parents raised their kids instead of dragging them up this would be less problematic. We all know children can and do get interested in sexuality. Make sure they feel safe to talk to you, make sure you explain these things so they understand that porn is exaggerated to compensate for the inability to satisfy other senses. Don’t leave your children to learn about sex from porn and online strangers.
Teaching safe sex and consent to a child helps them grow up to be functioning adults. Talk to your child before they’re a teenager so they know what’s coming don’t wait for them to be hit by panic. Explain how the body works and how these urges are natural. Don’t punish them for self exploration, just make sure they understand it is a private activity and to be safe.
Sex is as fundamental as eating and sleeping. In 12 years of full time education, some kids get less than a week spent on sex ed. Parents just leave it to the school.
Half of sex ed is human biology, the other about contraception, that’s all.
With only 2 kids per family, 99% of sex is purely for pleasure with heavy duty contraception.
Where is the education that prepares kids for this? Nowhere.
Kids go deliberately looking for porn to learn what their teachers and parents can’t bring themselves to talk about due to embarrassment.
I’ve actually found over time that arguably my most unpopular political opinion – once that upsets both the left *and* right – is that I don’t think pornography in and of itself is harmful. The issues come from the hideous and exploitative industry that has developed around it which often pushes the most extreme – sometimes borderline illegal – content on an audience it believes is jaded with ‘conventional sex’.
I think that one thing the left of politics can – and I’d even argue *should* – being doing here is the promotion of ethical and independently produced content from outside the major studios, who are pretty much all equally awful. And in response to this article directly I agree that I don’t think we should be avoiding discussion about sex with children entirely as that just exoticises it and makes it more likely that incredibly young people will go searching for extreme pornography online.
TL;DR I think these issues would be solved by becoming a much more sex positive nation/society than we currently are.