I had a some friends who did this for a time. All ended up in big drama: jealousy, uneven affection, adultery, … That’s my empirical take.
True that monogamy doesn’t always work but poly isn’t an answer.
they are ‘increasingly open’, are they?..i see what you did there
Not my cup of thea, but if it makes people happy…
Can concur that it is very liberating. Most jealousy in relationships is borne out of a fear that their partner is going to leave them for another person because that’s what’s implied in a monogamous relationship. That’s not the case in a polyamorous relationship.
I’ve always found it weird how a lot of people in monogamous relationships act like they own their partner and how you have to pretend you don’t love anyone else in a romantic sense. Like, having feelings for someone else doesn’t change the feelings I have for you.
Most of the times it doesn’t work out, did they do this take at age 15-25? Cause people still like to fuck around then.At some point men want children(cause biology forces you) and people want stability.The reason a lot of people are unhappy in there life is because there is no stability or religion anymore to follow. People need moral values in life. (Like not sleeping around) it seperates us from animals. We are the only creatures who are fine with monogamy.
I Still have to meet a working poly-rel that lasted for more then 1 year and I do have some quite open-minded and LGBTQ friendly friends.
Jealousy is in our nature(thats why communism only works on paper)
Edit: the article is garbage, no sources and randomly claiming 50 percent of the marriages end in divorce lol
I’ve see myself as “reverse poly”. I don’t have the energy nor commitment for a full-time relationship. I do however understand that other people do, so in that sense it makes absolute sense that my potential yet very imaginary partner tries to fill the gap somewhere else.
…pun very much intended…
one of them will accept to please the other and none will be happy
I think most people in poly relations are just deluding themselves.
Can we just not share and give attention to this kind of garbage journalism. For made up #trendy bullshit, you’re better off with Flair or TV Story anyway.
i know some people with really well working open relationships. Poly, not so much. As others mentioned, jealousy, drama, and also: no longevity due to kids, living together etc… in my experience, most poly experimenters are students, young people in their twenties who aren’t founding a family yet.
I don’t want to sound like a conservative, as i am not, and people can do whatever feels best for them, but i think there’s something to be said for the death of all meaning. I feel like this follows the general trend of quantity over quality and an unwillingness to invest time and work on something stable.
Anyways, first remains to be seen if it really is a social revolution or just a fad that will die just as quickly as it started. Cause i have a feeling it’s something that only works for a small portion of people with particular mindsets.
To me, it’s always made sense.
My mother way polyamorous, I realized/found out at the age of 16-17, it made sense to me then, it makes sense to me 15 years later… Love comes in many diffent shapes and sizes.
Your partner cannot always give you everything, when in relationship with a bisexual person, you’ll only ever be able to give them half of their sexual desire for instance. To me it makes sense that you give the other the freedom to explore that instead of being selfish and claiming that person all for yourself.
I’l stay single then, thanks.
That’s an immediate swipe left for me.
I can share even my fries, but I won’t share my partner. Do whatever you want in your own house/bedroom though, idc. But we won’t work.
Brussel Times – probably the biggest trash newspaper in Belgium
How do they even measure this shit?
Wait, you guys are having relationships?
Oh it’s not that I’m not open to it, it’s just that I can’t even find one bf, let alone two
I’m poly, and the sheer amount of people who pretend to be poly when, instead, they’re actively cheating on their spouses/partners is staggering
They just want to fuck without the commitment.
Whatever floats your boat .
I personaly don’t see anything wrong with it tho.
I’d say i’ll give it a try but so far not even one person feels like dating me let alone multiple.
Hmmmm i’ll just continiuw being happy single way less drama anyway.
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I had a some friends who did this for a time. All ended up in big drama: jealousy, uneven affection, adultery, … That’s my empirical take.
True that monogamy doesn’t always work but poly isn’t an answer.
they are ‘increasingly open’, are they?..i see what you did there
Not my cup of thea, but if it makes people happy…
Can concur that it is very liberating. Most jealousy in relationships is borne out of a fear that their partner is going to leave them for another person because that’s what’s implied in a monogamous relationship. That’s not the case in a polyamorous relationship.
I’ve always found it weird how a lot of people in monogamous relationships act like they own their partner and how you have to pretend you don’t love anyone else in a romantic sense. Like, having feelings for someone else doesn’t change the feelings I have for you.
Most of the times it doesn’t work out, did they do this take at age 15-25? Cause people still like to fuck around then.At some point men want children(cause biology forces you) and people want stability.The reason a lot of people are unhappy in there life is because there is no stability or religion anymore to follow. People need moral values in life. (Like not sleeping around) it seperates us from animals. We are the only creatures who are fine with monogamy.
I Still have to meet a working poly-rel that lasted for more then 1 year and I do have some quite open-minded and LGBTQ friendly friends.
Jealousy is in our nature(thats why communism only works on paper)
Edit: the article is garbage, no sources and randomly claiming 50 percent of the marriages end in divorce lol
I’ve see myself as “reverse poly”. I don’t have the energy nor commitment for a full-time relationship. I do however understand that other people do, so in that sense it makes absolute sense that my potential yet very imaginary partner tries to fill the gap somewhere else.
…pun very much intended…
one of them will accept to please the other and none will be happy
I think most people in poly relations are just deluding themselves.
Can we just not share and give attention to this kind of garbage journalism. For made up #trendy bullshit, you’re better off with Flair or TV Story anyway.
i know some people with really well working open relationships. Poly, not so much. As others mentioned, jealousy, drama, and also: no longevity due to kids, living together etc… in my experience, most poly experimenters are students, young people in their twenties who aren’t founding a family yet.
I don’t want to sound like a conservative, as i am not, and people can do whatever feels best for them, but i think there’s something to be said for the death of all meaning. I feel like this follows the general trend of quantity over quality and an unwillingness to invest time and work on something stable.
Anyways, first remains to be seen if it really is a social revolution or just a fad that will die just as quickly as it started. Cause i have a feeling it’s something that only works for a small portion of people with particular mindsets.
To me, it’s always made sense.
My mother way polyamorous, I realized/found out at the age of 16-17, it made sense to me then, it makes sense to me 15 years later… Love comes in many diffent shapes and sizes.
Your partner cannot always give you everything, when in relationship with a bisexual person, you’ll only ever be able to give them half of their sexual desire for instance. To me it makes sense that you give the other the freedom to explore that instead of being selfish and claiming that person all for yourself.
I’l stay single then, thanks.
That’s an immediate swipe left for me.
I can share even my fries, but I won’t share my partner. Do whatever you want in your own house/bedroom though, idc. But we won’t work.
Brussel Times – probably the biggest trash newspaper in Belgium
How do they even measure this shit?
Wait, you guys are having relationships?
Oh it’s not that I’m not open to it, it’s just that I can’t even find one bf, let alone two
I’m poly, and the sheer amount of people who pretend to be poly when, instead, they’re actively cheating on their spouses/partners is staggering
They just want to fuck without the commitment.
Whatever floats your boat .
I personaly don’t see anything wrong with it tho.
I’d say i’ll give it a try but so far not even one person feels like dating me let alone multiple.
Hmmmm i’ll just continiuw being happy single way less drama anyway.