My boyfriend’s cancer battle was ruining my mental health so I left him – now I’m running a marathon in his honour

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  1. The title is in such an infuriating tone. Here’s how she actually put it:

    > ‘I felt like the most awful person, leaving somebody because they have cancer, but it was damaging my mental health, and it wasn’t helping Jelle.’ 

    And I get it, caring for someone very sick can be draining, and at some point, people helping can break themselves and may have a worse influence on the sick. Like, the people being cared for do notice when their loved ones break down because of them.

    Honour to those beautiful people that can shoulder the burden, but not everyone can.

  2. So, she deserted him in his hour of need, then seeks attention from the world by running a marathon in his honour. This is our disposable world today.

  3. That’s utterly tragic. Reminds me of an ex. Only realised how utterly repugnant a person they were when I dared to fall seriously ill during a holiday abroad together and had to be hospitalised. Rather than be there in any emotional capacity they just carried on doing stuff on their own and moaned at me for the inconvenience and spoiling the time we had out there. Suffice to say broke up after the flight home! I’m sure there’s an armchair psychologist explanation behind all this with regards to an inability to cope with mortality in the face of death, running away as a coping mechanism but life’s too short for tolerating that shit.

  4. It’s easy to get triggered by this but no one is obliged to stay with anyone, especially if it’s detrimental to their health. You can support them in different ways if you want, but you can’t save them and shouldn’t feel obliged to stay.

  5. With some luck she’ll shit herself on the run while a camera is watching her and snap her ACL shortly after. Such a vile, vile person.

  6. Whilst I don’t think you can claim she should have stayed with him out of sympathy, subsequently trying to make a name for yourself based on your actions is a little bit gross.

  7. This is one of the most disgusting cases of narcissism I’ve ever witnessed. This woman only cares about her own mental health, but doesn’t care about his. She abandons him and then has the gall to go to the media and try to paint herself as a hero. She’s delusional.

    If my partner was diagnosed with cancer it would destroy me. It’d destroy me watching them suffer every day and even more if I had to watch them wither away. I’d still go through it though because they’d need me. This woman makes me feel sick.

    Her name is plastered all over the internet now. What guy is going to want to date her now? They basically know the moment they get ill she’s going to abandon them. Absolutely shameless. This poor man deserves so much better.

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