Domestic abuse towards men is still not acknowledged as it should be.
RIP Kai. This is obviously an extreme case but I am NOT a fan of people in their mid 20s dating teenagers. she sought out teenagers to control because she knew they would be scared and embarrassed. awful.
In some places, due to the structure of the law, it is impossible to charge a woman with Rape, the worst that she can be charged with is “Assault” since the laws regarding rape only target men.
Men’s mental health, Men’s safety, and Abuse towards men are still woefully under supported, and often publicly mocked. This needs to change.
I spent many years trapped in an abusive relationship. I now realise that I am lucky I caught her with another man, because it provided a mechanism to leave. I don’t know if I’d still be here if I hadn’t.
For all those out there who are still trapped in their’s, and see this thread, please don’t ever think you’re alone. DM me if you need to talk.
Much love.
There’s such a stigma around DV that people often are embarrassed – regardless of their gender. It’s terrible.
What a weirdly worded headline. At first I thought it meant the son had been killed and as a result was too embarrassed to leave.
A couple weeks back I took turns with other friends to keep a guy company in discord, effectivly on suicide watch, as the guy broke down over the stress his emotionally absuive girlfriend and manipulative was putting him through.
I won’t go into details but the utter lack of supports or ways available for the guy to leave was shocking. We helped him as best we could but I wish there was anything in place to help him.
What’s with submissions on this sub having flairs of “.” or “…” recently?
All the arguing here.
Anyone can be so in love that that they will defend most things, Ignore, make excuses and generally not see the wood for the trees.
If you’re in the same situation there is this helpline and it’s good to know there are (while there could be more) domestic abuse shelters for men. Some services that run for women do also recommend services who can help
She also stabbed her ex but he didn’t report it. She needs life in prison.
Abuse does happen to men. We need to support them too.
My Father inlaw in this position, he met a woman with massive mental health issues. She’s always kicking off with him, screaming in the middle of the street that he’s a nonce and stuff (he’s no nonce) she recently head-butted him and cause his eyesight to be damaged in one eye. He’s had to get a couple of different surgeries on his eyes – the most recent one is laser surgery. She’ll probably do it again though – apparently, his Daughter’s have told social services and even the police – but according to them they say it’s not their problem. If he ends up dead the blood will be on their hands.
I was in an abusive relationship with a woman and what shocked me looking back is not realising how deep I was in it at the time. It grew from prolonged mental abuse to physical violence over the space of 6 months. Worse still is the fact that I had moved country to be with her and was pretty much isolated at the time from friends and family.
The last straw for me, when it finally clicked, was when she pulled a knife on me in our home. I should’ve got out of that relationship a lot quicker but hindsight is a wonderful thing, I packed my life up there and flew back to the UK.
Wasn’t there an article that said women’s shelters gor so low that people noticed yet for men it’s right at the basement.
It’s sad people aren’t getting the help they desperately need.
Poor lad, hope he rests in peace. As for the gf I hope she rots behind bars but then again this happened in the UK so she’ll be out in a few years probably.
This is heartbreaking.
One thing that stuck out to me was his mom explaining he was embarrassed. I think with everything else, people underestimate the power of the embarrassment that keeps a person in a bad relationship, especially if they have a strong spirit. It always feels like it shouldn’t be happening to *you* .
Toxic masculinity claims another victim. When will this end?
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Domestic abuse towards men is still not acknowledged as it should be.
RIP Kai. This is obviously an extreme case but I am NOT a fan of people in their mid 20s dating teenagers. she sought out teenagers to control because she knew they would be scared and embarrassed. awful.
In some places, due to the structure of the law, it is impossible to charge a woman with Rape, the worst that she can be charged with is “Assault” since the laws regarding rape only target men.
Men’s mental health, Men’s safety, and Abuse towards men are still woefully under supported, and often publicly mocked. This needs to change.
I spent many years trapped in an abusive relationship. I now realise that I am lucky I caught her with another man, because it provided a mechanism to leave. I don’t know if I’d still be here if I hadn’t.
For all those out there who are still trapped in their’s, and see this thread, please don’t ever think you’re alone. DM me if you need to talk.
Much love.
There’s such a stigma around DV that people often are embarrassed – regardless of their gender. It’s terrible.
What a weirdly worded headline. At first I thought it meant the son had been killed and as a result was too embarrassed to leave.
A couple weeks back I took turns with other friends to keep a guy company in discord, effectivly on suicide watch, as the guy broke down over the stress his emotionally absuive girlfriend and manipulative was putting him through.
I won’t go into details but the utter lack of supports or ways available for the guy to leave was shocking. We helped him as best we could but I wish there was anything in place to help him.
What’s with submissions on this sub having flairs of “.” or “…” recently?
All the arguing here.
Anyone can be so in love that that they will defend most things, Ignore, make excuses and generally not see the wood for the trees.
If you’re in the same situation there is this helpline and it’s good to know there are (while there could be more) domestic abuse shelters for men. Some services that run for women do also recommend services who can help
https://mensadviceline.org.uk/
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/support-for-male-survivors/
She also stabbed her ex but he didn’t report it. She needs life in prison.
Abuse does happen to men. We need to support them too.
My Father inlaw in this position, he met a woman with massive mental health issues. She’s always kicking off with him, screaming in the middle of the street that he’s a nonce and stuff (he’s no nonce) she recently head-butted him and cause his eyesight to be damaged in one eye. He’s had to get a couple of different surgeries on his eyes – the most recent one is laser surgery. She’ll probably do it again though – apparently, his Daughter’s have told social services and even the police – but according to them they say it’s not their problem. If he ends up dead the blood will be on their hands.
I was in an abusive relationship with a woman and what shocked me looking back is not realising how deep I was in it at the time. It grew from prolonged mental abuse to physical violence over the space of 6 months. Worse still is the fact that I had moved country to be with her and was pretty much isolated at the time from friends and family.
The last straw for me, when it finally clicked, was when she pulled a knife on me in our home. I should’ve got out of that relationship a lot quicker but hindsight is a wonderful thing, I packed my life up there and flew back to the UK.
Wasn’t there an article that said women’s shelters gor so low that people noticed yet for men it’s right at the basement.
It’s sad people aren’t getting the help they desperately need.
Poor lad, hope he rests in peace. As for the gf I hope she rots behind bars but then again this happened in the UK so she’ll be out in a few years probably.
This is heartbreaking.
One thing that stuck out to me was his mom explaining he was embarrassed. I think with everything else, people underestimate the power of the embarrassment that keeps a person in a bad relationship, especially if they have a strong spirit. It always feels like it shouldn’t be happening to *you* .
Toxic masculinity claims another victim. When will this end?