It’s a very good article about importance of supporting new dads in the UK. Majority of classes are very much mum focused with dad’s being afterthought if even that.
When we were going through with our first 11 years ago I remember midwives really dismissing anything I said and any of my concerns with “It’s mum choice” like we are not family unit and decide together.
She had checks with health visitor after child was born noone even bothered to ask me if I was okay
Nice to see an article that recognises and highlights some men’s issues. More of this sort of thing please.
Heads together, mens sheds, safeline, mankind support group, man health, heads together. movember, mens mental health week (12 – 18 June), manup?, Andys man club, HiS charity, mentell, Humen, The Blue ribbon foundation, mens minds matter, men walk, papyrus.
A list of mental health charities and organisations exclusively for men. Found after a few seconds search and there’s a lot more. And obviously a lot more dealing with both sexes that he could have had access too.
Absolute scandal that this guy didn’t get any support despite these groups being so numerous.
I’ve been to places where I had to ask women whether it’s OK to use ladies washrooms for changing a nappy! The male washrooms didn’t have any changing facilities. Most women volunteered to keep a watch at the door letting others know that nappy changing is in progress, so wait 5 minutes.
I remember one specific moment when my son was coming out of the ICU to go to the HDU. My wife got sick for a few days, so I took some more extra time off work to stay with him.
As soon as my wife came in, a nurse came up and asked **her** how my son was doing. My wife just shrugged and pointed at me. I probably remember this moment more because my wife was pretty annoyed about it all. She brought it up in the PALS meeting.
Apparently, it’s pretty common in the NHS. It doesn’t matter that my life outside of work was spent in the hospital for about a year, barely any of the nurses talked to me. Fathers just don’t exist.
Fathers day, same day the London to Brighton bikeride is on so no one who lives around that can actually comfortably travel to see their dad on father’s day. Great idea.
And this is why I stick by saying I’m a feminist, because it’s not just about women’s rights, its both men’s and women’s rights and that’s key for me. I recognised how much the law was in favour of allowing me and my sister to remain in my mum’s custody during my parent’s separation and eventual divorce, and I think that’s universally the case as the mother is seen as the primary caregiver in the majority of cases.
We need to prioritise everyone’s mental health, not just men’s. I know that men have long been thought of as being ahead in all aspects of life and society, but I think we should recognise that in some arenas, men don’t have the priority.
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It’s a very good article about importance of supporting new dads in the UK. Majority of classes are very much mum focused with dad’s being afterthought if even that.
When we were going through with our first 11 years ago I remember midwives really dismissing anything I said and any of my concerns with “It’s mum choice” like we are not family unit and decide together.
She had checks with health visitor after child was born noone even bothered to ask me if I was okay
Nice to see an article that recognises and highlights some men’s issues. More of this sort of thing please.
Heads together, mens sheds, safeline, mankind support group, man health, heads together. movember, mens mental health week (12 – 18 June), manup?, Andys man club, HiS charity, mentell, Humen, The Blue ribbon foundation, mens minds matter, men walk, papyrus.
A list of mental health charities and organisations exclusively for men. Found after a few seconds search and there’s a lot more. And obviously a lot more dealing with both sexes that he could have had access too.
Absolute scandal that this guy didn’t get any support despite these groups being so numerous.
I’ve been to places where I had to ask women whether it’s OK to use ladies washrooms for changing a nappy! The male washrooms didn’t have any changing facilities. Most women volunteered to keep a watch at the door letting others know that nappy changing is in progress, so wait 5 minutes.
I remember one specific moment when my son was coming out of the ICU to go to the HDU. My wife got sick for a few days, so I took some more extra time off work to stay with him.
As soon as my wife came in, a nurse came up and asked **her** how my son was doing. My wife just shrugged and pointed at me. I probably remember this moment more because my wife was pretty annoyed about it all. She brought it up in the PALS meeting.
Apparently, it’s pretty common in the NHS. It doesn’t matter that my life outside of work was spent in the hospital for about a year, barely any of the nurses talked to me. Fathers just don’t exist.
Fathers day, same day the London to Brighton bikeride is on so no one who lives around that can actually comfortably travel to see their dad on father’s day. Great idea.
And this is why I stick by saying I’m a feminist, because it’s not just about women’s rights, its both men’s and women’s rights and that’s key for me. I recognised how much the law was in favour of allowing me and my sister to remain in my mum’s custody during my parent’s separation and eventual divorce, and I think that’s universally the case as the mother is seen as the primary caregiver in the majority of cases.
We need to prioritise everyone’s mental health, not just men’s. I know that men have long been thought of as being ahead in all aspects of life and society, but I think we should recognise that in some arenas, men don’t have the priority.