Imagine donating sperm one day, and then 18 years later, that haircut knocks at your door.
Given our government’s record on paternity issues, I have no doubt this will end in some man being on the hook for child support.
Men should have the right to opt out of this. They should be contacted first and have the right to say no.
Parents are the people that were there for you as a child.
Sperm donors should be thought of the same way as blood donors “Thank you kind stranger…anyway”.
The donor should absolutely have the chance to opt out of this.
The number of donors has dropped a fair bit, this is just going to plummet those numbers even more
Much like egg donation, this is something that is made very clear to you before donating.
Numbers may be different for sperm (and may have changed in the years since I donated) but I was told at egg donation that about 3% of donor conceived people contact their donor. They may not even know they’re donor conceived. Most importantly, they may not develop an interest in their donor until they’re starting a family of their own. Typical scenario presented to me was that they might contact you for one or two meetings to understand that aspect of their family history, but actual relationships coming out of it were not common. It relied on your contact info stored at the clinic to still be correct or for them to find you online etc.
You are prepared for the worst but the chances are not astronomical.
Does anyone else find this a little insulting towards the dads who actually raised the kids?
I’ve always been a big believer in family are the people who love and raise you, not just being related by blood.
I only donate the old fashioned way for better data protection.
I feel really sorry for those kids. They’re setting themselves up to have a new dad in their lives in two years but most likely he’ll won’t want anything to do with them (totally his right and nothing against him for doing so, he’s a donor not a father).
Someone needs to explain this possibility to them and control their expectations. Knowing the name of the donor doesn’t mean you have a dad waiting for you at 18.
As someone who was raised without a father and never desired to meet him… why. Especially if u already have a father why is the biological father someone you HAVE TO meet and get to know.
Hereditary diseases can easily be filled out on a form upon sperm donation plus dna checks would cover most of them id imagine so it can’t be that.
And what about the dude who didn’t want to necessarily meet you ever in life.
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Imagine donating sperm one day, and then 18 years later, that haircut knocks at your door.
Given our government’s record on paternity issues, I have no doubt this will end in some man being on the hook for child support.
Men should have the right to opt out of this. They should be contacted first and have the right to say no.
Parents are the people that were there for you as a child.
Sperm donors should be thought of the same way as blood donors “Thank you kind stranger…anyway”.
The donor should absolutely have the chance to opt out of this.
The number of donors has dropped a fair bit, this is just going to plummet those numbers even more
Much like egg donation, this is something that is made very clear to you before donating.
Numbers may be different for sperm (and may have changed in the years since I donated) but I was told at egg donation that about 3% of donor conceived people contact their donor. They may not even know they’re donor conceived. Most importantly, they may not develop an interest in their donor until they’re starting a family of their own. Typical scenario presented to me was that they might contact you for one or two meetings to understand that aspect of their family history, but actual relationships coming out of it were not common. It relied on your contact info stored at the clinic to still be correct or for them to find you online etc.
You are prepared for the worst but the chances are not astronomical.
Does anyone else find this a little insulting towards the dads who actually raised the kids?
I’ve always been a big believer in family are the people who love and raise you, not just being related by blood.
I only donate the old fashioned way for better data protection.
I feel really sorry for those kids. They’re setting themselves up to have a new dad in their lives in two years but most likely he’ll won’t want anything to do with them (totally his right and nothing against him for doing so, he’s a donor not a father).
Someone needs to explain this possibility to them and control their expectations. Knowing the name of the donor doesn’t mean you have a dad waiting for you at 18.
As someone who was raised without a father and never desired to meet him… why. Especially if u already have a father why is the biological father someone you HAVE TO meet and get to know.
Hereditary diseases can easily be filled out on a form upon sperm donation plus dna checks would cover most of them id imagine so it can’t be that.
And what about the dude who didn’t want to necessarily meet you ever in life.
Idk I’ve never sympathised with people like that.