Not sure why the original post is locked, thus my carefully written replies can’t be sent 🙂 so i post it here :))
First of all I’m not German either, and secondly I’m half extrovert and half introvert (maybe slightly more extrovert than introvert), so there’s no very extreme need to go out with friends.
What I’m trying to say is that when people mention their hometown, the sensitive political climate right now may tend to conjure up images of xenophobia, hatred, culture clashes, and the like (especially for Germans eager to set this aside or to comfort someone); in fact, the situation is probably not related to a specific local culture (even if Germans talk about how the German culture is so different or how the Syrian culture is so different).
As for all humans, I think people tend to seek out friendships when they’re in a situation where their social environment has changed a lot, such as moving to a new region, starting a new school/college life, or entering society (the further along you go, the more “economic” interests are involved, and the fewer “true friendships” there are); whereas “German people “(or any other native people) has already filled their Dunbar’s number with previous life experiences, and obviously there is less of a balance to allocate to more people.
The solution is, while I think it’s bullshit to join a club in order to make friends, shared interests and values (not xenophobia, of course) are also key to making friendships, especially in light of the aforementioned lack of shared life experiences. In my case, my friends are not limited to real life in Germany; instead, I have a relatively stable group of online friendships with people who clearly share my interests and values. And in life, I’m not afraid to speak so warmly to unfamiliar Germans as if they were real friends, even if I’ll forget about them in the next second; I think it’s the good moments with each other that are important, not the desire of establishing friendships at all times.
I hope that helps for any humankind.
Reference: [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/happiness-in-world/201312/the-true-meaning-friendship](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/happiness-in-world/201312/the-true-meaning-friendship)
by BeBoBong