I hope this is because more men feel safe to open up about abuse rather than an increase in abuse 😥
> It’s something Rory agrees with, and says he’s now done a 180 degree turn on the shame he once felt about his experience.
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> “These days I want to shout about it from the rooftops to try and encourage others to seek help,” he says.
The shame part is so important. The *’someone else has had it worse’* line and fear of losing peers are common symptoms of most traumas. In my experience, more people walk away due to how undealt with trauma makes you act than from knowing what your trauma is.
It’s a bit weird that they didn’t even mention sexual abuse of men by women and focused solely on abuse by other men.
Research shows that men being forced to have nonconsensual sex with women is more common than men being raped by other men.
It’s good that they’re giving coverage to male victims, but problematic if they’re going to ignore the most common form of abuse (helps create myths that it’s rare, and promotes the idea that women simply never abuse men). Perhaps it also shows bias by the BBC.
Page 26 states that 1.5% of men experience rape in their lifetime, and 5.9% experience being forced to penetrate.
Page 32 states that male rape victims have a male perpetrator 86.5% of the time, while male MTP victims gave a female perpetrator 78.5% of the time.
Hence 4.63% of men have been forced to have sex with a woman, and 0.14% of men have been raped (in the classical/criminal statute sense) by a woman. There may or may not be overlap between these two categories, so you can’t really add the two together to find the total percent of victims.
This contrasts with 1.3% of men being penetrated by another man against their will and 1.27% being forced to penetrate another man against their will. Again, there may or may not be overlap between these two categories, so you can’t really add the two together to find the total percent of victims.
Plenty of lads suffer abuse in this country and are told to keep shtum, because it ain’t manly to speak up, look at Maggie thatchers short sharp shock for example, a mass system of abuse at the hands of the government inflicted upon those most vulnerable in society, and those perpetrators are still roaming about or have since died, escaping any sort of justice for the suffering they’ve caused. Shame on this country for the way it treats the abused. The UK itself is an abusive institution that has capitalised throughout history on the suffering of others. Speak up lads, all the best
Also mental health services in this country are a joke and I’ve never known anyone who speaks of them highly, my own experiences with caamhs and later adult mental health support have done nothing bar make me feel disdain for the establishment and their uncaring approach to suffering
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I hope this is because more men feel safe to open up about abuse rather than an increase in abuse 😥
> It’s something Rory agrees with, and says he’s now done a 180 degree turn on the shame he once felt about his experience.
>
> “These days I want to shout about it from the rooftops to try and encourage others to seek help,” he says.
The shame part is so important. The *’someone else has had it worse’* line and fear of losing peers are common symptoms of most traumas. In my experience, more people walk away due to how undealt with trauma makes you act than from knowing what your trauma is.
It’s a bit weird that they didn’t even mention sexual abuse of men by women and focused solely on abuse by other men.
Research shows that men being forced to have nonconsensual sex with women is more common than men being raped by other men.
It’s good that they’re giving coverage to male victims, but problematic if they’re going to ignore the most common form of abuse (helps create myths that it’s rare, and promotes the idea that women simply never abuse men). Perhaps it also shows bias by the BBC.
[Source](https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/NISVS-StateReportBook.pdf)
Page 26 states that 1.5% of men experience rape in their lifetime, and 5.9% experience being forced to penetrate.
Page 32 states that male rape victims have a male perpetrator 86.5% of the time, while male MTP victims gave a female perpetrator 78.5% of the time.
Hence 4.63% of men have been forced to have sex with a woman, and 0.14% of men have been raped (in the classical/criminal statute sense) by a woman. There may or may not be overlap between these two categories, so you can’t really add the two together to find the total percent of victims.
This contrasts with 1.3% of men being penetrated by another man against their will and 1.27% being forced to penetrate another man against their will. Again, there may or may not be overlap between these two categories, so you can’t really add the two together to find the total percent of victims.
Plenty of lads suffer abuse in this country and are told to keep shtum, because it ain’t manly to speak up, look at Maggie thatchers short sharp shock for example, a mass system of abuse at the hands of the government inflicted upon those most vulnerable in society, and those perpetrators are still roaming about or have since died, escaping any sort of justice for the suffering they’ve caused. Shame on this country for the way it treats the abused. The UK itself is an abusive institution that has capitalised throughout history on the suffering of others. Speak up lads, all the best
Also mental health services in this country are a joke and I’ve never known anyone who speaks of them highly, my own experiences with caamhs and later adult mental health support have done nothing bar make me feel disdain for the establishment and their uncaring approach to suffering