London is big, isn’t it like 35 miles in width? Of course maintaining relationships across that kind of distance will be hard
When it takes an hour to travel a couple of miles across town, I can understand this.
It can take me 1.5 hrs to go 7 miles…so yeah, I’d agree when it’s more time over distance to come to that conclusion!
not if you meet halfway
Amazing that some people struggle to date
I found it easier to date women in other cities than to try to bridge the east-west gap.
I don’t go south of the river at this time of night.
Suggest somewhere in the middle surely? It doesn’t give a good impression if you will only date people around the corner. It could be a great oppurtunity to see a part of London that neither individual has seen before? Loads of fun to be had introducing each other to nearby spaces etc
It is. It’s 1 hour bike or 1 hour 20 public transport to go from Hackney to Lewisham.
25 minutes by car mind you. But we want to discourage single passenger trips right?
Have encountered this so much.
Match on a dating app with someone from Oxford or Colchester: “no problem, we can make it work”.
Match with someone from across the river or even 2 boroughs away: “oh no you live so farrrrr, I hate having to travel”
Isn’t everything 40 mins away?
I dated a guy in Wimbledon last year, never again. And yes, he was an absolute Womble. 😉
there’s a reason for that. It bloody is You can fly to parts of Europe faster than getting across London
I live in Sutton and my boyfriend lives in Walthamstow. Door-to-door from our flats, it’s about two hours, and I have joked that we’re basically in a long distance relationship before. So we’ve mostly either met up in central London for dates and then gone back to his place in the week and I’ve commuted from there the next day, or he’d come over to mine after work on a Friday and stay for the weekend (as I live by myself and he has flatmates). We’re moving in together next month and one thing I am massively looking forward to about it is not having to schlep back and forth across the city just so we can spend time together.
It is long distance! Its no car and public transport is sssssslllllloooooowwwww
Never used a dating app, but if I was matched with a South Londoner I’d assume the algorithm was faulty and ask for my money back.
If she/he/they are worth it you’ll make the effort.
I once broke up with a girl because I had to change buses to get to her house.
man I found it hard to maintain something while I was living in Camden and she was in King’s Cross, I’d argue this article is right on the money
I live in Ealing and my partner lived in Battersea when we first met… it took about 1.25 hours if things didn’t line up correctly plus 20 mins of walking when I got to his side from Clapham Junction station. It was definitely long!
My housemate at the time broke up with a girl because she lived in Walthamstow and he’d have to change tubes plus get a bus to see her
Blame wfh
For the first 2 years dating my partner, he lived in Clapham and me in Clapton. It was a brutal commute and yet very few had any sympathy for me!
It was worth it in the end but long-distance is right. I think it genuinely would have been quicker to date someone in Cambridge than Clapham.
Having lived and dated in a few parts of the UK moving to London it was a real shock to see geographic closeness to be such a priority. Living in Leeds I would often date people who lived an hour or more away from me, and even people who lived in basically completely different towns (such as York, Harrogate and Bradford)
I think part of it is that in a city like Leeds there are sort of central meeting points which we would have in common. Despite living at different ends of the city we would know the same bars and restaurants and general date places and these were all centrally located and easily accessible. In London two people living an hour away can find it hard to have any common ground. (Literally and metaphorically) My girlfriend and I often joke of how lucky and convenient it is that when we started dating there was only a short walk between our homes.
It also made me wonder how much of said travel was out of necessity. There are probably more young and single people in a single London borough (think Clapham) than there are in most UK towns and cities. So if you live somewhere less populated and want to have a romantic partner then travel is necessary.
Maybe with recent trends showing that young people in London are struggling to find a romantic partner, the desire to date on ones own doorstep will become less of a factor.
Had to drive from sw to east once and it took me 1000 years to get there. Most painful drive I’ve ever driven
Depending on where you both are in London it can a longer journey than to somewhere quite a way out of London
I have this problem with friends, I’m in south ldn and they’re in north, but they have their own bubbles in the north so they never leave and I have to travel like 1,5-2hrs to see anyone :’D
I agree with the article. Anything beyond 40 mins is a slog. If you are catching up with them once a week, that’s like 2 hours a week of travelling there and back.
I’ll keep it Lime bike distance thanks
If they’re on a tube line, I can deal with it but catching the overground? DLR? Lizzie Line? I don’t think anyone is worth that.
Time is the important measure in London, not distance.
An hour can get you ridiculously far outside of the London, no problem.
Those from outside London often don’t get that 5 miles can mean an hour or more, depending on the start and end points.
Because it is.
Well it is . Travel across London isn’t for the faint hearted . I swear my FWB has lasted cios they are 30 mins away
To be fair, I can drive to Guildford from Kingston in 20 minutes (outside of rush hour) but when my friend came for Sunday lunch recently, the drive from Enfield took nearly 2 hours.
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London is big.
London is big, isn’t it like 35 miles in width? Of course maintaining relationships across that kind of distance will be hard
When it takes an hour to travel a couple of miles across town, I can understand this.
It can take me 1.5 hrs to go 7 miles…so yeah, I’d agree when it’s more time over distance to come to that conclusion!
not if you meet halfway
Amazing that some people struggle to date
I found it easier to date women in other cities than to try to bridge the east-west gap.
I don’t go south of the river at this time of night.
Suggest somewhere in the middle surely? It doesn’t give a good impression if you will only date people around the corner. It could be a great oppurtunity to see a part of London that neither individual has seen before? Loads of fun to be had introducing each other to nearby spaces etc
It is. It’s 1 hour bike or 1 hour 20 public transport to go from Hackney to Lewisham.
25 minutes by car mind you. But we want to discourage single passenger trips right?
Have encountered this so much.
Match on a dating app with someone from Oxford or Colchester: “no problem, we can make it work”.
Match with someone from across the river or even 2 boroughs away: “oh no you live so farrrrr, I hate having to travel”
Isn’t everything 40 mins away?
I dated a guy in Wimbledon last year, never again. And yes, he was an absolute Womble. 😉
there’s a reason for that. It bloody is You can fly to parts of Europe faster than getting across London
I live in Sutton and my boyfriend lives in Walthamstow. Door-to-door from our flats, it’s about two hours, and I have joked that we’re basically in a long distance relationship before. So we’ve mostly either met up in central London for dates and then gone back to his place in the week and I’ve commuted from there the next day, or he’d come over to mine after work on a Friday and stay for the weekend (as I live by myself and he has flatmates). We’re moving in together next month and one thing I am massively looking forward to about it is not having to schlep back and forth across the city just so we can spend time together.
It is long distance! Its no car and public transport is sssssslllllloooooowwwww
Never used a dating app, but if I was matched with a South Londoner I’d assume the algorithm was faulty and ask for my money back.
If she/he/they are worth it you’ll make the effort.
I once broke up with a girl because I had to change buses to get to her house.
man I found it hard to maintain something while I was living in Camden and she was in King’s Cross, I’d argue this article is right on the money
I live in Ealing and my partner lived in Battersea when we first met… it took about 1.25 hours if things didn’t line up correctly plus 20 mins of walking when I got to his side from Clapham Junction station. It was definitely long!
My housemate at the time broke up with a girl because she lived in Walthamstow and he’d have to change tubes plus get a bus to see her
Blame wfh
For the first 2 years dating my partner, he lived in Clapham and me in Clapton. It was a brutal commute and yet very few had any sympathy for me!
It was worth it in the end but long-distance is right. I think it genuinely would have been quicker to date someone in Cambridge than Clapham.
Having lived and dated in a few parts of the UK moving to London it was a real shock to see geographic closeness to be such a priority. Living in Leeds I would often date people who lived an hour or more away from me, and even people who lived in basically completely different towns (such as York, Harrogate and Bradford)
I think part of it is that in a city like Leeds there are sort of central meeting points which we would have in common. Despite living at different ends of the city we would know the same bars and restaurants and general date places and these were all centrally located and easily accessible. In London two people living an hour away can find it hard to have any common ground. (Literally and metaphorically) My girlfriend and I often joke of how lucky and convenient it is that when we started dating there was only a short walk between our homes.
It also made me wonder how much of said travel was out of necessity. There are probably more young and single people in a single London borough (think Clapham) than there are in most UK towns and cities. So if you live somewhere less populated and want to have a romantic partner then travel is necessary.
Maybe with recent trends showing that young people in London are struggling to find a romantic partner, the desire to date on ones own doorstep will become less of a factor.
Had to drive from sw to east once and it took me 1000 years to get there. Most painful drive I’ve ever driven
Depending on where you both are in London it can a longer journey than to somewhere quite a way out of London
I have this problem with friends, I’m in south ldn and they’re in north, but they have their own bubbles in the north so they never leave and I have to travel like 1,5-2hrs to see anyone :’D
I agree with the article. Anything beyond 40 mins is a slog. If you are catching up with them once a week, that’s like 2 hours a week of travelling there and back.
I’ll keep it Lime bike distance thanks
If they’re on a tube line, I can deal with it but catching the overground? DLR? Lizzie Line? I don’t think anyone is worth that.
Time is the important measure in London, not distance.
An hour can get you ridiculously far outside of the London, no problem.
Those from outside London often don’t get that 5 miles can mean an hour or more, depending on the start and end points.
Because it is.
Well it is . Travel across London isn’t for the faint hearted . I swear my FWB has lasted cios they are 30 mins away
To be fair, I can drive to Guildford from Kingston in 20 minutes (outside of rush hour) but when my friend came for Sunday lunch recently, the drive from Enfield took nearly 2 hours.
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