Source: GWI Zeitgeist (full disclosure, I work for GWI, sharing this in a personal capacity)
This is based on global survey data.
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Of all the traits, the one that the largest % of men feel women should posses is caring.
Of all the traits, the one that the largest % of women feel men should posses is caring.
Kind of neat.
It’s incredible how much agreement there is. None of the lines are longer than about 20%, and most of them look more or less the same.
Curious: What is the selection of character traits based on?
I think it would be more beautiful if the qualities weren’t sorted by alphabetical order. Making it by difference from male higher to female higher or vice versa would’ve made it so much more readable.
Funny how “dominant” is the lowest, and yet we live in a culture where young men gravitate towards people feeding them lies about being an “alpha.”
Historians will look back on this phenomenon as a mass delusion.
I’m really curious to see how the question was asked and framed. Was this a “pick the top 5” type ask?
If it was a simple “yes/no” for each trait, that implies “39% of men and women don’t desire a woman to be caring.” And I find it very hard to believe you would find anybody saying that.
With no counter traits, some people will just check all the boxes. Which says a lot more about them than their preferred partners, imo.
I think a scale would have been better, with each trait paired with its opposite counterpart, and you place a point on a sliding scale.
… this is quite crazy, when you compare what traits women think men should possess vs. what traits they think that they should possess:
Women think that:
women should be more ambitious than men
women should be more brave than men
women should be (much) more independent than men
women should be more reserved than men
women should be more strong than men
also that: W/M should be equally caring and dominant.
on the other hand that men should be (much) more a provider.
I wonder if these data are accurate, but if so… then I wonder if the women answering these questions really see no problem here.
What people say they want is often very different from what they actually choose.
Why is there no dot for the women that think men should be strong? Does that mean that 0% of women wanted to see that in men?
Would be intresting to see this split by culture.
The one trait they left out was honesty
What people choose in a partner is very different from this survey. Look at actions, not words
The researchers forgot to add the following
“It is what it is”
“Relax more”
The female projection is really funny.
Seems that in most cases that it is women placing more pressure on themselves and men than the men. Am I reading it right?
lol so women just expect more from men and of themselves and men are just chilling, no standards and no expectations?
So generally women have bigger expectations of both men and women than men do
Which country is this post most involved with.
In reality both genders just want hot people, but one doesn’t pretend otherwise.
**What men don’t want to be that women want them to be-** ranked in biggest difference:
This is awesome, but it would be really cool if you could get both sets of scores on the same figure to make it easier to compare what the survey showed for “about men” vs “about women”.
It seems like women in general expect more from both men and women than men expect from themselves and women.
Destinys Child would not like this infographic haha. (Independent)
Is there a link to the studie to see the set-up of the study?
Interesting that women rate most of the traits higher than men across both. Women have higher expectations of people in general than men do, I suppose?
Interesting how women have more ‘wants’ for both genders, whilst men seem to generally have lower expectations across the spectrum for both genders except in a few cases.
Archetype of a poorly designed survey, total value assigned is much higher for women than for men. Solution would be to give participants 100 points to allot as they see fit and then compare results.
Some of the words seem ambiguous. For example what does “emotional” mean? If it means having a high EQ, then heck yeah. If it means getting emotional even more small things, then not so sure about that.
What they say and what they actually respond to are very different.
It’s so hard to decipher for my dumb brain
Correction: The traits men and women SAY they most desire in each other
People don’t know what they want or all people in relationship would be full of nice guys
If I’m interpreting this right, both charts show that in general men have lower standards for their partner.
Interesting that dominant was basically exactly the same on both men and women for both
![[OC] The traits men and women most desire in each other (and themselves)](https://www.europesays.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/qdkkgvoq627f1-1080x1024.png)
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Source: GWI Zeitgeist (full disclosure, I work for GWI, sharing this in a personal capacity)
This is based on global survey data.
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Of all the traits, the one that the largest % of men feel women should posses is caring.
Of all the traits, the one that the largest % of women feel men should posses is caring.
Kind of neat.
It’s incredible how much agreement there is. None of the lines are longer than about 20%, and most of them look more or less the same.
Curious: What is the selection of character traits based on?
I think it would be more beautiful if the qualities weren’t sorted by alphabetical order. Making it by difference from male higher to female higher or vice versa would’ve made it so much more readable.
Funny how “dominant” is the lowest, and yet we live in a culture where young men gravitate towards people feeding them lies about being an “alpha.”
Historians will look back on this phenomenon as a mass delusion.
I’m really curious to see how the question was asked and framed. Was this a “pick the top 5” type ask?
If it was a simple “yes/no” for each trait, that implies “39% of men and women don’t desire a woman to be caring.” And I find it very hard to believe you would find anybody saying that.
With no counter traits, some people will just check all the boxes. Which says a lot more about them than their preferred partners, imo.
I think a scale would have been better, with each trait paired with its opposite counterpart, and you place a point on a sliding scale.
… this is quite crazy, when you compare what traits women think men should possess vs. what traits they think that they should possess:
Women think that:
women should be more ambitious than men
women should be more brave than men
women should be (much) more independent than men
women should be more reserved than men
women should be more strong than men
also that: W/M should be equally caring and dominant.
on the other hand that men should be (much) more a provider.
I wonder if these data are accurate, but if so… then I wonder if the women answering these questions really see no problem here.
What people say they want is often very different from what they actually choose.
Why is there no dot for the women that think men should be strong? Does that mean that 0% of women wanted to see that in men?
Would be intresting to see this split by culture.
The one trait they left out was honesty
What people choose in a partner is very different from this survey. Look at actions, not words
The researchers forgot to add the following
“It is what it is”
“Relax more”
The female projection is really funny.
Seems that in most cases that it is women placing more pressure on themselves and men than the men. Am I reading it right?
lol so women just expect more from men and of themselves and men are just chilling, no standards and no expectations?
So generally women have bigger expectations of both men and women than men do
Which country is this post most involved with.
In reality both genders just want hot people, but one doesn’t pretend otherwise.
**What men don’t want to be that women want them to be-** ranked in biggest difference:
1. Caring
2. Nurturing
3. Empathetic
4. Gentle
5. Emotional
**What men don’t want women to be that women want to be-** ranked in biggest difference:
1. Independent
2. Confident
3. Strong
4. Brave
5. Ambitious
6. Resilient
This is why I only date women (bi).
This is awesome, but it would be really cool if you could get both sets of scores on the same figure to make it easier to compare what the survey showed for “about men” vs “about women”.
It seems like women in general expect more from both men and women than men expect from themselves and women.
Destinys Child would not like this infographic haha. (Independent)
Is there a link to the studie to see the set-up of the study?
Interesting that women rate most of the traits higher than men across both. Women have higher expectations of people in general than men do, I suppose?
Interesting how women have more ‘wants’ for both genders, whilst men seem to generally have lower expectations across the spectrum for both genders except in a few cases.
Archetype of a poorly designed survey, total value assigned is much higher for women than for men. Solution would be to give participants 100 points to allot as they see fit and then compare results.
Some of the words seem ambiguous. For example what does “emotional” mean? If it means having a high EQ, then heck yeah. If it means getting emotional even more small things, then not so sure about that.
What they say and what they actually respond to are very different.
It’s so hard to decipher for my dumb brain
Correction: The traits men and women SAY they most desire in each other
People don’t know what they want or all people in relationship would be full of nice guys
If I’m interpreting this right, both charts show that in general men have lower standards for their partner.
Interesting that dominant was basically exactly the same on both men and women for both
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