Aubrey Plaza Details ‘Awfulness’ After Her Husband’s Shocking Death

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  1. **From reporter Carly Ledbetter:**

    Aubrey Plaza had an honest conversation about grief during an appearance on Amy Poehler’s podcast, “Good Hang,” on Tuesday.

    Poehler, who co-starred alongside Plaza on “Parks and Rec,” asked Plaza how she was doing in the wake of her “terrible, tragic year.”

    Plaza’s husband, writer and director Jeff Baena, died by suicide in January. He was 47.

    “Just to get it out the way, people want to see you and want to see how you are; they love you,” Poehler said at the beginning of the podcast episode.

    “So you’ve had this terrible, terrible, tragic year,” the “Saturday Night Live” star added. “You lost your husband, you’ve been dealing with that, and you’ve been looking for all different ways in which to feel and find support.”

    “And I think ― on behalf of all the people who feel like they know you, and the people who do know you, how are you feeling today?” Poehler asked.

    “I mean, right in this very, very present moment, I feel happy to be with you,” Plaza answered.

    “Overall, I’m here and I’m functioning, and I feel, you know, really grateful to be moving through the world. I think, like, I’m OK, but, you know, it’s like a daily struggle, obviously.”

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  2. I lost someone close to me recently, and her description of her grief from a movie is spot on. You have to adapt day by day and not allow yourself to get swallowed up by it. It can be very tempting, because the grief is always there, you’re constantly aware of it.

    Wish her all the best

  3. Poor girl had to talk about it on a podcast called good hang.

  4. If you or someone you know needs help, call or text 988 or chat 988lifeline.org for mental health support. Additionally, you can find local mental health and crisis resources at dontcallthepolice.com. Outside of the U.S., please visit the International Association for Suicide Prevention.

    I understand her analogy on grief.

    From article;

    “This is like a really dumb analogy, and it was kind of a joke at a certain point, but I actually mean it. Did you see that movie ‘The Gorge?’” Plaza asked.

    “It’s like a alien movie or something with Miles Teller,” she explained. “In the movie, there’s like a cliff on one side and then there’s a cliff on the other side, and then there’s gorge in between, and it’s filled with all these, like, monster people that are trying to get them.

    And I swear when I watched it, I was like, that feels like what my grief is like,” she said, adding “or what grief could be like.”
    “At all times, there’s like a giant ocean of just awfulness, that’s like right there and I can, like, see it,” she said. “And like, sometimes, I just want to just dive into it and just, like, be in it. And then sometimes, I just look at it, and then sometimes, I just try to get away from it. But it’s always there. It’s just always there.”

  5. I am glad she got to do her first real interview back with a friend. But this must have been brutal

  7. I feel so bad for her she’s strong though and glad she’s getting through it…

  8. As a widower her analogy is spot on. My wife’s death demolished my life.

  9. I know all she’s going through. My dad died by suicide when I was five. Older brother killed himself four years ago and younger brother killed himself last month. Been really tough. I’m the only male in my family making it to forty.

  10. I can’t wait for Honey Don’t to come out at the end of the week. Glad to see she’s dealing with her feelings and not being consumed by them. She’s such a talented and inspiring woman.

  11. He wrote my favorite film of all time. I was just thinking about this yesterday. So sad.

  14. Her ocean analogy hits so close to home.

    Grief is always there. Sometimes it’s the little ripples of the waves at your feet, then sometimes it’s a giant wave that comes crashing into you taking you under. You have to swim hard to get back to the surface before it drags you back under again. And some days you just want to drown in it.

    It’s always there, and it’s true time does help, but there is still that empty emotional hole that is there that you can’t fill when someone you love dies.

  15. Amy also beautifully paid tribute to Aubrey’s husband at the very end. Worth an entire listen.

  16. >> “At all times, there’s like a giant ocean of just awfulness, that’s like right there and I can, like, see it,” she said. “And like, sometimes, I just want to just dive into it and just, like, be in it. And then sometimes, I just look at it, and then sometimes, I just try to get away from it. But it’s always there. It’s just always there.”

    I completely understand this description, it’s a hell of a thing to bear the weight of. She has my complete empathy, there are no simple answers.

  17. I hate this for her. She’s always a bright spot of anything she’s in just because of her off-beat, chaotic energy. Whatever she decides to do with herself, jump back into work, keep taking a hiatus, change things up, her fans should be totally supportive of that.

  19. Aubrey petting Amy’s dog through the whole conversation got me. 😭

  20. My wise friend says “there’s death, there’s sudden death and there’s suicide” Suicide is a completely different beast. Been managing thru a close friend’s death by suicide since February. It’s relentless

  21. I hadn’t realized they were together since 2011. I feel for her. Grief is so lonely. There’s no way out but to go through it.

  22. This was posted on Facebook. The comments were horrible and cold hearted, saying he killed himself to get away from her or she caused it in some other way.

  23. Even tho the catalyst for my wife’s suicide was her infidelity with my best friend being exposed. I can’t argue that just thinking of *that night* doesn’t immediately create a surge of emotions and grief.

    A friend of mine said it best in the aftermath of my wife’s death.

    “People will tell you time will make your grief disappear. This is lie, we never lose grief we simply grow around it.”

    Wishing her the best, and happy to see her in a place she can speak about it

  26. This was legitimately so awful to watch. I feel so horrible for her. I can’t imagine the grief she must have over this. The fact she’s back speaking publicly on a pod about it is beyond impressive.

  27. Love you Aubrey…you are a beautiful person stuck with this you did nothing wrong…beautiful…beautiful…beautiful person

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