{"id":22302,"date":"2026-04-26T09:21:25","date_gmt":"2026-04-26T09:21:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/britain\/22302\/"},"modified":"2026-04-26T09:21:25","modified_gmt":"2026-04-26T09:21:25","slug":"unity-isnt-meant-to-be-easy-its-difficulty-is-what-bri","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/britain\/22302\/","title":{"rendered":"Unity isn\u2019t meant to be easy \u2013 its difficulty is what bri…"},"content":{"rendered":"

Concern over the \u2018special relationship\u2019 between the US and UK is misplaced. Divisions at home can be far harder to heal\"3CNPNG7<\/p>\n

3CNPNG7 President Donald Trump and First Lady Melania Trump participate in an arrival ceremony with King Charles III and Queen Camilla at Windsor Castle in Windsor, England on Wednesday, September 17, 2025. (Official White House Photo by Daniel Torok)<\/p>\n

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Matthew Barzun<\/p>\n

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Ten years ago this week, Barack Obama stood in London beside David Cameron and said something Britain has not quite forgotten.<\/p>\n

If the United Kingdom left the European Union<\/a>, he said, it would be \u201cat the back of the queue\u201d for a trade deal with the United States.<\/p>\n

It was a short phrase with a long afterlife. To some, it sounded like a friend offering a candid assessment. To others, it sounded like an American president telling British voters how to vote.<\/p>\n

Since then, politicians have grown more comfortable acting not just as observers of other democracies but as participants in them. Nigel Farage appears on American campaign stages backing Donald Trump. JD Vance praises the model of Viktor Orb\u00e1n<\/a>.<\/p>\n

In the coming days, King Charles III<\/a> will visit the US. There will be the usual questions about the health of the \u201cspecial relationship\u201d. I\u2019ve been asked to offer my view. I hesitate, because the answer may sound odd.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not that concerned.<\/p>\n

Not because everything is going well. But because it isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Six months ago, in these pages, I wrote about the value of the space between us<\/a> \u2013 about how difference, handled well, can be a strength rather than a weakness. I still believe that.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t lose much sleep over relations between countries like the US and the UK. There is no shortage of hard things \u2014 and no shortage of official and informal tables \u2014 where Americans and Britons sit next to each other and work through disagreements.<\/p>\n

We sometimes say we do hard things together because we\u2019re friends \u2014 fight wars, strike trade deals, manage crises. But the more powerful truth runs the other way. We\u2019re friends because we do hard things together.<\/p>\n

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What does concern me is something closer to home \u2013 not relations between these two great countries but within them.<\/p>\n

Just because we both have \u201cunited\u201d in our names is no guarantee we\u2019ll remain so.<\/p>\n

And the habits that sustain relationships between countries \u2014 staying in the room, grappling with difference, making something together \u2014 are the same ones we seem to be losing within our nations. Unlike international diplomacy, with its summits, back channels and negotiating tables, we don\u2019t have a predictable set of forums where we can (imperfectly and provisionally) work through our domestic differences together. Instead, domestic politics tends to revolve around one party \u201cwinning\u201d \u2014 and then claiming the problem is solved, once and for all.<\/p>\n

Aristotle had a useful way of thinking about this. Most virtues, he argued, aren\u2019t fixed states. They\u2019re habits that sit between two temptations at the extremes. He called this the golden mean.<\/p>\n

Courage, in this view, is a virtue that sits between cowardice and recklessness. Being scared is part of what we value about a courageous act. Always jumping in with no fear isn\u2019t what we admire or advise.<\/p>\n

Aristotle said something similar about truthfulness. The virtue isn\u2019t in saying everything that comes to mind, nor in holding everything back. It sits between the two.<\/p>\n

Ten years ago, Obama was trying \u2014 imperfectly \u2014 to do just that. Both in his comments about what became Brexit and about the powerlessness he felt about gun violence in America.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s another way to see it, one that King Charles III often returns to: harmony.<\/p>\n

Harmony isn\u2019t the absence of difference. And it isn\u2019t everyone doing their own thing.<\/p>\n

Harmony is everyone singing different notes to the same song.<\/p>\n

In recent years, we\u2019ve drifted away from that golden mean.<\/p>\n

On one side is fragmentation: everyone retreating into their own corner, certain and separate. On the other is uniformity: everyone expected to say the same thing at the same time.<\/p>\n

Unity sits somewhere harder. It asks us to do something that feels unnatural in the moment: to stand out as a unique individual, and then try to fit into something bigger without losing ourselves in it. And then try to stand out again and fit in again.<\/p>\n

Because in the end, \u201cunited\u201d is not a description of a state we\u2019re in. It\u2019s not something we are but something we do. And like courage and harmony, it takes practice.<\/p>\n

Matthew Barzun is a former US ambassador to Britain and chair of Tortoise Media, owner of The Observer.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Concern over the \u2018special relationship\u2019 between the US and UK is misplaced. Divisions at home can be far…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":22303,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[157,1049,10131,14,5,6,37],"class_list":{"0":"post-22302","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-uk","8":"tag-brexit","9":"tag-king-charles-iii","10":"tag-obama","11":"tag-politics","12":"tag-uk","13":"tag-united-kingdom","14":"tag-usa"},"share_on_mastodon":{"url":"https:\/\/pubeurope.com\/@UnitedKingdom\/116470276575715997","error":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/britain\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22302","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/britain\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/britain\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/britain\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/britain\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22302"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/britain\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22302\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/britain\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/22303"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/britain\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22302"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/britain\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22302"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/britain\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22302"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}