{"id":167616,"date":"2026-08-04T03:39:07","date_gmt":"2026-08-04T03:39:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/167616\/"},"modified":"2026-08-04T03:39:07","modified_gmt":"2026-08-04T03:39:07","slug":"jste-hodni-az-moc-mozna-neumite-nastavit-zdrave-hranice-poznate-to-podle-techto-signalu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/167616\/","title":{"rendered":"Jste hodn\u00ed a\u017e moc? Mo\u017en\u00e1 neum\u00edte nastavit zdrav\u00e9 hranice. Pozn\u00e1te to podle t\u011bchto sign\u00e1l\u016f"},"content":{"rendered":"

O osobn\u00edch hranic\u00edch se dnes mluv\u00ed velmi \u010dasto. Je to prostor, kter\u00fd chr\u00e1n\u00ed na\u0161i psychickou i\u00a0fyzickou pohodu. Jist\u011b, \u010dlov\u011bk mus\u00ed d\u011blat i\u00a0to, v\u00a0\u010dem mu v\u017edy dob\u0159e nen\u00ed, ale nesm\u00ed se z\u00a0toho st\u00e1t standard. \u201ePokud jsou na\u0161e hranice p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 voln\u00e9, \u010dasto se p\u0159istihneme, \u017ee d\u011bl\u00e1me n\u011bco, co jsme d\u011blat necht\u011bli, souhlas\u00edme jen proto, abychom druh\u00e9ho nezklamali, nebo dlouhodob\u011b up\u0159ednost\u0148ujeme pot\u0159eby druh\u00fdch lid\u00ed p\u0159ed t\u011bmi sv\u00fdmi<\/a>,\u201c tvrd\u00ed Kate\u0159ina Zem\u00e1nkov\u00e1, terapeutka z\u202fcentra komplexn\u00ed rodinn\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010de Family Hub Nusle. <\/p>\n

Kdy\u017e jste p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 tvrd\u00ed\u00a0\u2013 nejen na sebe<\/p>\n

M\u016f\u017ee se ale i\u00a0st\u00e1t, \u017ee jsou va\u0161e hranice p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 pevn\u00e9 a\u00a0vy pak p\u016fsob\u00edte nedostupn\u011b a\u00a0sobecky. Odm\u00edt\u00e1te jak\u00e9koliv kompromisy nebo se ze strachu p\u0159ed zran\u011bn\u00edm uzav\u00edr\u00e1te p\u0159\u00edle\u017eitostem a\u00a0vztah\u016fm, kter\u00e9 by pro v\u00e1s mohly b\u00fdt p\u0159\u00ednosn\u00e9. Ani tento extr\u00e9m nen\u00ed v\u00a0po\u0159\u00e1dku. \u201eZdrav\u00e9 hranice nejsou ani \u00fapln\u011b voln\u00e9, ani neproniknuteln\u00e9. Jsou dostate\u010dn\u011b pevn\u00e9, aby n\u00e1s chr\u00e1nily, ale z\u00e1rove\u0148 pru\u017en\u00e9, aby n\u00e1m dovolily zkou\u0161et a\u00a0hledat, co je pro n\u00e1s dobr\u00e9,\u201c objas\u0148uje terapeutka.<\/p>\n

Jak pozn\u00e1te zdrav\u011b nastaven\u00e9 hranice?<\/p>\n

V\u00edte, co je v\u00e1m p\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9 a co u\u017e ne. Dok\u00e1\u017eete vn\u00edmat sv\u00e9 pot\u0159eby a respektovat jeV\u00edte, co chcete a nechcete. A dok\u00e1\u017eete si za t\u00edm st\u00e1t, i kdy\u017e si druz\u00ed p\u0159ej\u00ed n\u011bco jin\u00e9hoRespektujete hranice druh\u00fdch. Stejn\u011b jako chcete, aby ostatn\u00ed respektovali ty va\u0161e, vn\u00edm\u00e1te i jejich pot\u0159eby a limityUm\u00edte hledat kompromis. Zdrav\u00e9 hranice neznamenaj\u00ed tvrdohlav\u00e9 prosazov\u00e1n\u00ed vlastn\u00edho n\u00e1zoru, ale schopnost hledat ve vztaz\u00edch vz\u00e1jemnou domluvuTrvejte si na sv\u00e9m<\/p>\n

Jedn\u00edm z\u00a0nej\u010dast\u011bj\u0161\u00edch sign\u00e1l\u016f, \u017ee nem\u00e1te zdrav\u011b nastaven\u00e9 hranice, je snaha zavd\u011b\u010dit se druh\u00fdm za ka\u017edou cenu<\/a>. N\u011bkdy si p\u0159ekro\u010den\u00ed vlastn\u00edch hranic uv\u011bdom\u00edme a\u017e zp\u011btn\u011b, nap\u0159\u00edklad podle toho, \u017ee jsme po setk\u00e1n\u00ed s\u00a0druh\u00fdmi vy\u010derpan\u00ed, podr\u00e1\u017ed\u011bn\u00ed nebo c\u00edt\u00edme vztek, kter\u00fd jsme v\u00a0dan\u00e9 chv\u00edli nedok\u00e1zali vyj\u00e1d\u0159it. Varovn\u00fdm sign\u00e1lem m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt i\u00a0to, \u017ee sv\u00e9 pot\u0159eby zleh\u010dujeme, \u010dasto se omlouv\u00e1me nebo m\u00e1me pocit, \u017ee nesm\u00edme za \u017e\u00e1dnou cenu odm\u00edtnout.<\/p>\n

Foto: syedfahadghazanfar, Shutterstock.com<\/p>\n

Nenechte se p\u0159esv\u011bd\u010dovat o\u00a0pravd\u011b n\u011bkoho jin\u00e9ho. St\u016fjte si za sv\u00fdmi n\u00e1zoryFoto: syedfahadghazanfar, Shutterstock.com<\/p>\n

M\u016f\u017ee za to v\u00fdchova a\u00a0temperament<\/p>\n

Obt\u00ed\u017ee s\u00a0nastavov\u00e1n\u00edm hranic mohou souviset s\u00a0ni\u017e\u0161\u00edm sebev\u011bdom\u00edm<\/a>, strachem z\u00a0odm\u00edtnut\u00ed nebo s\u00a0p\u0159edchoz\u00ed zku\u0161enost\u00ed ve vztahu, kde byly hranice p\u0159ekra\u010dov\u00e1ny. Roli hraje ale i\u00a0d\u011btstv\u00ed. \u201eV\u011bt\u0161\u00ed probl\u00e9m s\u00a0nastavov\u00e1n\u00edm hranic mohou m\u00edt lid\u00e9, kte\u0159\u00ed si sv\u00e9 hranice nemohli nastavovat v\u00a0d\u011btstv\u00ed<\/a>. Pokud d\u00edt\u011b opakovan\u011b za\u017e\u00edv\u00e1, \u017ee jeho nesouhlas nen\u00ed br\u00e1n v\u00e1\u017en\u011b, \u017ee mus\u00ed poslechnout bez mo\u017enosti vyj\u00e1d\u0159it sv\u016fj n\u00e1zor nebo \u017ee je p\u0159ij\u00edman\u00e9 p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm tehdy, kdy\u017e je poslu\u0161n\u00e9, m\u016f\u017ee si toto nastaven\u00ed p\u0159en\u00e1\u0161et i\u00a0do dosp\u011blosti,\u201c varuje Kate\u0159ina Zem\u00e1nkov\u00e1. <\/p>\n

Proto je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 podporovat d\u011bti v\u00a0tom, aby si dok\u00e1zaly hranice zdrav\u011b nastavovat. Neznamen\u00e1 to p\u0159itom, \u017ee d\u00edt\u011b v\u017edy rozhoduje<\/a> nebo \u017ee mu dosp\u011bl\u00fd nem\u016f\u017ee ur\u010dit pravidla. Podle terapeutky by ale d\u00edt\u011b m\u011blo m\u00edt mo\u017enost vyj\u00e1d\u0159it nesouhlas.<\/p>\n

Kdy\u017e je \u010das ud\u011blat radik\u00e1ln\u00ed rozhodnut\u00ed<\/p>\n

Na\u0161e hranice nej\u010dast\u011bji p\u0159ekra\u010duj\u00ed lid\u00e9, kte\u0159\u00ed jsou n\u00e1m nejbli\u017e\u0161\u00ed\u00a0\u2013 partne\u0159i, rodina nebo bl\u00edzc\u00ed p\u0159\u00e1tel\u00e9. \u201eStoj\u00ed za to svou hranici nejprve jasn\u011b a\u00a0konkr\u00e9tn\u011b vymezit. D\u00e1le je dobr\u00e9 zam\u011b\u0159it se na to, zda se druh\u00fd sna\u017e\u00ed na\u0161im hranic\u00edm porozum\u011bt a\u00a0sv\u00e9 chov\u00e1n\u00ed zm\u011bnit, nebo je naopak zleh\u010duje, zesm\u011b\u0161\u0148uje \u010di opakovan\u011b ignoruje. Pokud jsme svou hranici n\u011bkolikr\u00e1t jasn\u011b vyty\u010dili a\u00a0partner nebo p\u0159\u00edtel ji st\u00e1le nerespektuje, m\u011bl by to pro n\u00e1s b\u00fdt varovn\u00fd sign\u00e1l,\u201c m\u00edn\u00ed Kate\u0159ina Zem\u00e1nkov\u00e1. N\u011bkdy probl\u00e9m nespo\u010d\u00edv\u00e1 v\u00a0tom, \u017ee by druh\u00fd nerozum\u011bl na\u0161im pot\u0159eb\u00e1m, ale v\u00a0tom, \u017ee je nechce respektovat. Pak je na m\u00edst\u011b zv\u00e1\u017eit, zda v\u00a0takov\u00e9m vztahu chcete setrv\u00e1vat.<\/p>\n

\u017deny b\u00fdvaj\u00ed vedeny k\u00a0v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed p\u0159izp\u016fsobivosti<\/p>\n

\u017deny m\u00edvaj\u00ed s\u00a0nastavov\u00e1n\u00edm hranic pot\u00ed\u017ee \u010dast\u011bji. \u201eB\u00fdvaj\u00ed od d\u011btstv\u00ed v\u00edce veden\u00e9 k\u00a0tomu, \u017ee maj\u00ed b\u00fdt hodn\u00e9, vst\u0159\u00edcn\u00e9, pe\u010duj\u00edc\u00ed a\u00a0poddajn\u00e9,\u201c varuje terapeutka. Mnoho \u017een proto dob\u0159e v\u00ed, co pot\u0159ebuje jejich partner, d\u011bti nebo p\u0159\u00e1tel\u00e9, ale mnohem obt\u00ed\u017en\u011bji odpov\u00edd\u00e1 na ot\u00e1zku, co pot\u0159ebuj\u00ed ony samy. Kdy\u017e se potom pokus\u00ed \u0159\u00edct ne, mohou m\u00edt pocit viny a\u00a0p\u0159ipadat si sobecky. <\/p>\n

Nastavov\u00e1n\u00ed hranic nen\u00ed projevem sobectv\u00ed<\/a> ani odm\u00edt\u00e1n\u00ed druh\u00fdch. Naopak je z\u00e1kladem zdrav\u00fdch vztah\u016f, vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9ho respektu i\u00a0psychick\u00e9 pohody. Kdy\u017e dok\u00e1\u017eete chr\u00e1nit sv\u00e9 pot\u0159eby, m\u00e1te mnohem v\u00edce energie b\u00fdt oporou i\u00a0lidem kolem sebe.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"O osobn\u00edch hranic\u00edch se dnes mluv\u00ed velmi \u010dasto. Je to prostor, kter\u00fd chr\u00e1n\u00ed na\u0161i psychickou i\u00a0fyzickou pohodu. Jist\u011b,…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":167617,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","_share_on_mastodon":"0"},"categories":[14],"tags":[79,1704,21767,17352,8928,28503,80],"class_list":["post-167616","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-zabava","tag-entertainment","tag-hranice","tag-hranice-ve-vztahu","tag-psychicka-uleva","tag-psychika","tag-sebevedomi","tag-zabava"],"share_on_mastodon":{"url":"https:\/\/pubeurope.com\/@cz\/117035163235358689","error":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167616","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=167616"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167616\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/167617"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=167616"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=167616"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=167616"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}