{"id":44524,"date":"2026-04-03T12:34:10","date_gmt":"2026-04-03T12:34:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/44524\/"},"modified":"2026-04-03T12:34:10","modified_gmt":"2026-04-03T12:34:10","slug":"napsala-jsem-o-tchyni-do-poradny-ted-hrozi-soudem-a-manzel-stoji-proti-mne","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/44524\/","title":{"rendered":"Napsala jsem o tchyni do poradny. Te\u010f hroz\u00ed soudem a man\u017eel stoj\u00ed proti mn\u011b"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Pod n\u00e1zvem \u201e<a href=\"https:\/\/www.flowee.cz\/clovek\/15833-poradna-tchyne-po-mne-chtela-ponizujici-testy-otcovstvi-a-ted-zuri-protoze-ji-nechci-za-babicku\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">Tchyn\u011b po mn\u011b cht\u011bla poni\u017euj\u00edc\u00ed testy otcovstv\u00ed a te\u010f zu\u0159\u00ed, proto\u017ee ji nechci za babi\u010dku\u201c<\/a>\u00a0jsme uve\u0159ejnili p\u0159\u00edb\u011bh \u017eeny, kter\u00e1 se po porodu dostala do vyhrocen\u00e9ho konfliktu s tchyn\u00ed. Ta o n\u00ed \u0161\u00ed\u0159ila zv\u011bsti, \u017ee d\u00edt\u011b nen\u00ed jej\u00edho syna, a nakonec ji dotla\u010dila a\u017e k poni\u017euj\u00edc\u00edm test\u016fm otcovstv\u00ed \u2013 d\u00edt\u011b bylo samoz\u0159ejm\u011b jeho. Ani po t\u00e9hle epizod\u011b, kdy Radka ustoupila, se vztahy nezlep\u0161ily\u00a0\u2013 tchyn\u011b k n\u00ed byla neust\u00e1le kritick\u00e1, pasivn\u011b agresivn\u00ed a mluvila o n\u00ed za jej\u00edmi z\u00e1dy. Pro Radku to bylo natolik zra\u0148uj\u00edc\u00ed, \u017ee se rozhodla tchyni k d\u00edt\u011bti nepou\u0161t\u011bt. V\u011bt\u0161ina \u010dten\u00e1\u0159\u016f byla na jej\u00ed stran\u011b, ale p\u0159i\u0161lo i p\u00e1r vulg\u00e1rn\u00edch odpov\u011bd\u00ed. Radka n\u00e1m po \u010dase napsala znovu, proto\u017ee se stalo n\u011bco nep\u0159\u00edli\u0161 pravd\u011bpodobn\u00e9ho\u00a0\u2013 i p\u0159es anonymizaci se tchyn\u011b v \u010dl\u00e1nku poznala a vztahy se vyhrotily je\u0161t\u011b v\u00edc. Aktivn\u011b Radku pomlouv\u00e1 na soci\u00e1ln\u00edch s\u00edt\u00edch, dokonce pou\u017e\u00edv\u00e1 AI, ale hlavn\u011b manipuluje sv\u00e9ho syna, aby se s Radkou roze\u0161el.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Radka, 34:\u00a0Minul\u00fd rok jsem napsala do Flowee poradny o sv\u00e9m probl\u00e9mu s tchyn\u00ed, kter\u00e1 po mn\u011b cht\u011bla testy otcovstv\u00ed. Nikoho jsem nejmenovala, nesd\u00edlela jsem to na osobn\u00edm profilu. Jen\u017ee \u010dl\u00e1nek se za\u010dal docela hodn\u011b \u0161\u00ed\u0159it a n\u011bjak se dostal k moj\u00ed tchyni a ta se v tom okam\u017eit\u011b poznala. Asi proto, \u017ee je to tak bizarn\u00ed situace, \u017ee se v internetu neztrat\u00ed.<\/p>\n<p>\u201eBabi\u010dka\u201c mi napsala, \u017ee jsem j\u00ed zni\u010dila \u017eivot, a r\u016fzn\u00e9 ur\u00e1\u017eky, kter\u00e9 nem\u00e1 cenu zmi\u0148ovat. Pak za\u010dala ps\u00e1t man\u017eelovi, a to ka\u017ed\u00fd den n\u011bkolikr\u00e1t, dlouh\u00e9 eseje o tom, jak jsem podl\u00e1, \u017ee kv\u016fli mn\u011b uva\u017euje o sebevra\u017ed\u011b. U\u017e ne\u0161lo jen o testy a babi\u010dkovstv\u00ed, ale o to, \u017ee mi chce rozlo\u017eit rodinu v moment\u011b, kdy jsem s mal\u00fdm d\u00edt\u011btem na mate\u0159sk\u00e9.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Man\u017eel se ke mn\u011b v\u017edycky choval s respektem, ale krize jeho matky ho zlomila. Boj\u00ed se o ni a ona m\u00e1 na n\u011bj obrovsk\u00fd vliv. Te\u010f mi vy\u010d\u00edt\u00e1, \u017ee jsem si takhle ve\u0159ejn\u011b (ale anonymn\u011b!!!) vylila zlost. \u017de jsem to fakt \u201ep\u0159ehnala\u201c a maminku to ni\u010d\u00ed. P\u0159idala se k n\u011bmu cel\u00e1 rodina a je\u0161t\u011b p\u00e1r zn\u00e1m\u00fdch, ale na\u0161t\u011bst\u00ed m\u00e1m je\u0161t\u011b n\u011bkolik lid\u00ed, na kter\u00e9 se m\u016f\u017eu spolehnout.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Te\u010f na m\u011b v\u0161ichni tla\u010d\u00ed, a\u0165 tchyni zvu dom\u016f (je\u0161t\u011b koj\u00edm a nechci, aby d\u00edt\u011b bylo dlouho beze m\u011b), z \u010deho\u017e se mi zved\u00e1 \u017ealudek. P\u0159edstava, \u017ee ji uvid\u00edm osobn\u011b, ve mn\u011b vyvol\u00e1v\u00e1 z\u00e1chvaty paniky. Boj\u00edm se, \u017ee kdy\u017e podlehnu, budou se mnou zametat podlahu u\u017e po zbytek \u017eivota. Jak si m\u00e1m nastavit hranice? M\u00e1m d\u00edt\u011b babi\u010dce p\u0159edat, i kdy\u017e je mi z toho zle? A jak se m\u00e1m vyrovnat s pocitem zrady man\u017eela?<\/p>\n<p>Odpov\u00edd\u00e1 terapeutka<\/p>\n<p>Nediv\u00edm se, \u017ee se va\u0161e rozpolo\u017een\u00ed bl\u00ed\u017e\u00ed panick\u00fdm z\u00e1chvat\u016fm. Je \u0161\u00edlen\u00e9, jak se \u00favodn\u00ed konflikt, kter\u00fd byl vytvo\u0159en jen a jen tchyn\u00ed, dok\u00e1zal rozl\u00edt do cel\u00e9 va\u0161\u00ed komunity.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Tchyn\u011b naru\u0161ila hranice jak va\u0161e, tak man\u017eela\u00a0\u2013 \u017e\u00e1dat test otcovstv\u00ed a mluvit o tom ve\u0159ejn\u011b je vylo\u017een\u011b sadismus. M\u00e1te pr\u00e1vo se br\u00e1nit i sd\u00edlen\u00edm p\u0159\u00edb\u011bhu do ve\u0159ejn\u00e9ho prostoru, zvl\u00e1\u0161\u0165 kdy\u017e jsme v\u0161e anonymizovali a vy jste ji nepr\u00e1skla na facebooku. I p\u0159es va\u0161i relativn\u00ed ohleduplnost se rodinn\u00fd konflikt dostal do ve\u0159ejn\u00e9ho prostoru. A to m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt pro lidi, jako je ona, velmi ohro\u017euj\u00edc\u00ed, zvl\u00e1\u0161\u0165 pokud maj\u00ed silnou pot\u0159ebu kontroly nad t\u00edm, jak p\u016fsob\u00ed navenek.<\/p>\n<p>D\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 je, abyste nezapomn\u011bla, jak ten probl\u00e9m za\u010dal. Nebyla to va\u0161e vina. Anonymizovan\u00e9 sd\u00edlen\u00ed nebylo to, co konflikt vytvo\u0159ilo, ale chov\u00e1n\u00ed, kter\u00e9 mu p\u0159edch\u00e1zelo. To, co se te\u010f d\u011bje, je sp\u00ed\u0161 jeho dal\u0161\u00ed f\u00e1ze.<\/p>\n<p>Va\u0161e tchyn\u011b si p\u0159ipad\u00e1 jako\u00a0 va\u0161e ob\u011b\u0165 a u\u017e\u00edv\u00e1 si to, V\u00e1\u0161 partner situaci nezvl\u00e1d\u00e1, ale n\u011bkdy i dosp\u011bl\u00ed lid\u00e9 bojuj\u00ed s t\u00edm odpoutat se od sv\u00fdch toxick\u00fdch rodi\u010d\u016f. Podobn\u00fdch \u0161\u00edlenost\u00ed nejsp\u00ed\u0161 za\u017eil v d\u011btstv\u00ed u\u017e dost a to ho nau\u010dilo metodu, jak m\u00e1 konflikt urovn\u00e1vat \u2013 za\u010dne tla\u010dit na tu stranu, kter\u00e1 je ochotn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ustoupit.<\/p>\n<p>Pro v\u00e1s je te\u010f kl\u00ed\u010dov\u00e9 ujasnit si, kde jsou va\u0161e hranice a pro\u010d tam jsou. Ne jako reakce na tlak okol\u00ed, ale jako v\u011bdom\u00e9 rozhodnut\u00ed. M\u00e1te pr\u00e1vo chr\u00e1nit sebe i sv\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b p\u0159ed lidmi, kte\u0159\u00ed v\u00e1s zra\u0148uj\u00ed. Pokud u\u017e jen p\u0159edstava osobn\u00edho kontaktu vyvol\u00e1v\u00e1 \u00fazkost nebo panick\u00e9 reakce, je to d\u016fle\u017eit\u00fd sign\u00e1l, kter\u00fd byste nem\u011bla ignorovat. Z toho tak\u00e9 vypl\u00fdv\u00e1 odpov\u011b\u010f na va\u0161i ot\u00e1zku ohledn\u011b d\u00edt\u011bte. D\u00edt\u011b nen\u00ed n\u00e1stroj pro uklidn\u011bn\u00ed konfliktu mezi dosp\u011bl\u00fdmi. Pokud se nec\u00edt\u00edte bezpe\u010dn\u011b vy, nen\u00ed v po\u0159\u00e1dku tla\u010dit sama sebe do situace, kter\u00e1 v\u00e1s zahlcuje \u2013 a to ani \u201ekv\u016fli klidu v rodin\u011b\u201c. Vztah mezi babi\u010dkou a d\u00edt\u011btem se d\u00e1 budovat jen tam, kde existuje alespo\u0148 z\u00e1kladn\u00ed respekt k matce.<\/p>\n<p>Velmi d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e1 je te\u010f komunikace s partnerem. Ne ve smyslu \u201evyber si mezi mnou a matkou\u201c, ale ve smyslu: \u201eCo znamen\u00e1, \u017ee jsme rodina? Jak se chceme navz\u00e1jem chr\u00e1nit?\u201c M\u016f\u017eete mluvit o tom, co konkr\u00e9tn\u011b od n\u011bj pot\u0159ebujete \u2013 nap\u0159\u00edklad aby respektoval va\u0161e hranice, nep\u0159epos\u00edlal v\u00e1m zpr\u00e1vy od matky, nejl\u00e9pe aby s n\u00ed v\u011bci \u0159e\u0161il s\u00e1m.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Pokud tuhle etapu v man\u017eelstv\u00ed nezvl\u00e1dnete nastavit, hroz\u00ed, \u017ee se podobn\u00e9 situace budou opakovat \u2013 jen v jin\u00fdch podob\u00e1ch. A vy byste se znovu ocitala pod tlakem, abyste ustoupila. Neustupujte, bu\u010fte asertivn\u00ed a tchyni dovolte kontakt s d\u00edt\u011btem maxim\u00e1ln\u011b v p\u0159\u00edtomnosti man\u017eela na hodinu nebo dv\u011b, a to jen kdy\u017e se za\u010dne chovat slu\u0161n\u011b.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Nejste padouch, kter\u00fd rozb\u00edj\u00ed rodinu. Naopak se sna\u017e\u00edte nastavit hranice a tvo\u0159it nov\u00e9, zdrav\u00e9 vzorce chov\u00e1n\u00ed, bez kter\u00fdch se v rodin\u00e1ch emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed n\u00e1sil\u00ed p\u0159en\u00e1\u0161\u00ed z generace na generaci.<\/p>\n<p>\t\t\t\t  <img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/aita1.420x315c.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"article-image-img\"\/><\/p>\n<p>\t\t  Reklama<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Pod n\u00e1zvem \u201eTchyn\u011b po mn\u011b cht\u011bla poni\u017euj\u00edc\u00ed testy otcovstv\u00ed a te\u010f zu\u0159\u00ed, proto\u017ee ji nechci za babi\u010dku\u201c\u00a0jsme uve\u0159ejnili&hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":44525,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[14],"tags":[11744,79,11743,2493,17203,17204,80],"class_list":{"0":"post-44524","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-zabava","8":"tag-takhlezijuja","9":"tag-entertainment","10":"tag-flowee","11":"tag-rozvod","12":"tag-tchyne","13":"tag-testy-otcovstvi","14":"tag-zabava"},"share_on_mastodon":{"url":"https:\/\/pubeurope.com\/@cz\/116340802511789649","error":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44524","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=44524"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44524\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/44525"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=44524"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=44524"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=44524"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}