Another wave breaks in front of the old church as I hoik myself on to my board and surf towards the shore. It feels surreal to be surfing in a city, but if anywhere was going to pull off something as audacious as this urban wave pool it would be Rotterdam – a living laboratory for mad architecture.
“People come from all over Europe to do this,” says Tom Verhoeven, my instructor, as we wait for the next set of waves. “There’s nowhere else like it.”
Verhoeven is just back from Australia, where he spent two years searching for the best breaks. While he was away, RiF010 opened in his homeland, offering perfect waves that can be cranked up with the turn of a dial.
A sufer at RiF010. Residents have the opportunity to practice surfing within the city
I surf for a merry hour as the sun disappears behind the high-rises, then retire to a nearby bar where a DJ plays to a young crowd. Over a beer, I watch the off-duty instructors ride barrel waves.
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Thinking of getting
a divorce?
It’s not always the solution, says psychotherapist and author Philippa Perry, who has been married for 32 years.
Here are the five things she recommends asking yourself before dishing
out the divorce papers.
The questions you should ask
Is it a you problem?
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It’s not a good idea to get divorced when you’re just depressed and stressed. You’re naturally irritated by everything and everybody. It’s too easy to take that out on your partner and think they’re the problem.
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Are you telling
yourself a story?
We cherry-pick the evidence against our partner until we’re so set on them being the enemy…
It feels almost like tying up loose ends. But it won’t really solve the problem. It just makes it much worse. It’s okay to be wrong. Good relationships are full of ruptures and repairs.
The questions you should ask
It is a mixmatch of
conflict styles?
When we’re under stress, we have our preferred way of coping.
You want a partner who’s on the same page as you, so that you have moments of connection.
Some people think a lot, other people want to go straight to action.
If you’re a thinker, and you’re married to a do-er, it’s important to remind them that they don’t have to fix every problem. If you are a doer, you have to say something like, explain your process and thoughts a little more.
Do you believe the
grass is greener?
If this is you, do some serious therapy on yourself. What gets in the way of a good relationship is thinking that the grass is greener and therefore having a lack of commitment. This is why we have marriage because you make a commitment.
PHILIPPA PERRY, AUTHOR OF BEST-SELLING BOOKS ON PARENTING AND RELATIONSHIPS
Do you have moments
of inclusion?
Son’t assume your partner knows how you think (Photo: ljubaphoto/Getty/E+)
Moments of inclusion are the ones when you both feel like you’ve both clicked, and really get on.
If these moments are missing, we need to leave more space for them.
Also treat love as an action, not a feeling. Ask yourself, what can I do for my partner today?
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FOOD AND DRINK
The UPFs the
health experts eat
In the UK, 50 per cent of our daily energy comes from ultra-processed sources, rather than fresh, minimally processed food.
This has been blamed as one of the reasons for the nation’s poor health and high rates of obesity. While all UPFs get a bad reputation, there are some that are better than others.
We asked the health experts which UPFs they include in their diets.
The UPFs the health experts buy
Sausages
Dietitian Aisling Pigott has sausages once a week, choosing the vegan or high-meat versions.
Orange squash
Priya Tew buys no-added sugar squash to help her children drink more water.
Lentil crisps
Nutritionist Jenna Hope has these as an alternative to regular crisps.
The UPFs the health experts buy
Baked beans
Dr Linia Patel, a dietitian and performance nutritionist, enjoys baked beans. She eats them on a jacket potato with cheese and a side salad as a quick, filling and nutrient dense meal.
Squirts of ketchup up the sugar in his diet (Richard Heathcote/Getty Images)
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Ketchup
Gut health nutritionist Yalda Alaoui, who follows a mostly anti-inflammatory diet, has ketchup as small amounts do not impact her blood glucose levels.
Other UPFs that health experts put in their shopping basket
Some people can be concerned about a sugar rush (Photo: Elizabeth Perez Holowaty/Getty)
Haribo sweets for their children
so they can learn to self-regulate with food.
It’s estimated ultra processed foods make up at least half of the average UK diet (Photo: Getty)
Emergency cereal bars when homemade flapjacks run out.
Sriracha chilli sauce on the production line (David McNew/Getty Images)
Hot sauce and mayonnaise
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Marmite as a source of vitamin
B12 and potassium.
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Almond milk in morning drinks, fortified with vitamin D.
How to find balance
My mantra with UPFs is ‘reduce but not restrict’. I don’t think we need to cut them out but it’s a good idea to assess how much you eat. If some are [things] you especially love, then cutting them out can lead to you craving them more.
Priya Tew, registered dietitian specialising in eating disorders
Senior female friends spending leisure time knitting while sitting at table in retirement home – stock photo. (Photo: Getty)
How can people give themselves the best chance of a good retirement?
Are retirees in the UK happy?
What the statistics say
47%
Almost half of studies into the impact of retirement on people’s mental health report a negative impact on life satisfaction.
72%
According to the latest Office for National Statistics (ONS) figures, among those aged 50-59 who have left the workforce, 72 per cent would consider returning to work, often citing a need for financial security and purpose.
Nearly a third (32 per cent) of 50-70 year-olds retired earlier than they hoped.
Volunteering
73-year-old Martin Delgado, who retired from his role as a journalist, enrolled as a volunteer with the NHS 10 years ago.
He attends seminars, goes on training courses and works with psychiatric patients at an NHS mental health trust in London.
(As well as looking after his grandson).
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Martin’s other tips for retirement
Elderly couple taking selfie while hiking together in autumn mountains. – stock photo. (Photo: Getty)
Have hobbies
He often goes on bike rides, hikes, solo camping trips and finds time to read.
Exercise
He runs two or three mornings a week and when it becomes too much is planning to take up swimming or cycling.
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Spend time with family
“I spend as much time with our grandson as I can. Having him around has had a huge emotional impact.”
It doesn’t have to be all or nothing
For Toni Del Mar, 75, one of the things that has made her retirement a happy one is spending more spontaneous time with friends in her Devon village.
But she hasn’t given up everything completely. Mar runs her home as a B&B which she cleans and prepares for guests.
It provides her with purpose and help
paying the bills.
If you’re struggling, there’s hope
Retirement was the biggest challenge of my life.
Simon McEwan, who had a 43-year career in journalism, felt lost without structure and routine. He wishes he’d have phased work out slowly.
Now he’s built a new routine including exercise, mindfulness, meditation and joined a mental health walking group.
How to stay connected
1Plan in advance – join community groups or take up new hobbies that can bridge the initial gap when work stops.
2 Enjoy the arts – creativity can provide a new sense of purpose and organic opportunities for new bonds.
3Maximise fulfillment – identify activities that you enjoy, and take time to build up interest.
4Balance your activities – mix ones for enjoyment with ones that help others. For example, volunteering at local community groups.
The mistakes parents make at home
Baby-proofing professionals like Al Kola from Baby Safe Steps say there are several mistakes he often sees that are actually more harmful than helpful.
He shares the most common ones.
Accidents in the UK
Unintentional injuries in and around the home are a leading cause of preventable death for children under five years.
67,000
Every year, more than 67,000 children experience an accident in the kitchen, says the Royal Society for the Prevention of Accidents.
58,000
58,000 children have accidents on the stairs, often where the most serious incidents occur.
The mistakes parents make
The wrong gate
Pressure gates – gates with a bar along the bottom to keep them fixed in place – shouldn’t be on the stairs as the bar is a trip hazard. You can end up flying down the stairs with your baby.
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The Cuggle Extending wooden gate failed some of the tests (Photo: Argos)
Not securing furniture
Parents tend to assume that kids won’t do XYZ. For example, we might assume they won’t pull on drawers, but they can, and it’s a threat that can land on them.
What to do
Father with baby on hands standing near window at home. – stock photo. (Photo: Getty)
Don’t leave windows ajar
The window could be pushed open the rest of the way by a toddler of about two years old.
Hide cords
Cameras next to a cot are often on a wire, which means that a child could grab it, take it into their cot and get entangled.
The Government may eventually have to scrap the triple lock (jacquesdurocher/Getty Images/iStockphoto)
Lock cupboards
Lock cupboards where you keep cleaning products, batteries, medicine, glassware and potentially tools.
Other things to note
You don’t need to overprepare. If you put edge protectors everywhere, then that child is not going to know what pain is. When they go anywhere else like nursery and do get hurt because they don’t understand it.
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The only baby gate brand Al Kola trusts is Baby Dan. “We use them for a few reasons: firstly, safety, secondly, practicality, and then thirdly, they look good. They are the only brand that currently ticks those boxes for most scenarios.”
As a finance expert that’s made money mistakes in the past, these are the secrets I’ll pass on…
Clare Seal once had £27,000 of credit card debt. Now she’s a financial coach.
Here are the tips she’ll pass onto her daughter.
MONEY
Clare’s story
I want [my daughter] to learn from my mistakes and make smaller, less catastrophic ones.
Over the course of 10 years, Seal amassed debt that equated to her whole pre-tax salary. Some was down to high living costs and a low salary and some from her wedding.
Now she’s paid off her debt, she is teaching her child to avoid this – and be wiser.
Align your career and lifestyle aspirations
I’d like to make sure my daughter knows what sort of salary her chosen profession can command, what sort of hours she might work and where to set her sights when it comes to lifestyle. When there’s a mismatch, it can lead to frustration, resentment and debt if you try to make up the shortfall with credit.
CLARE SEAL, AUTHOR OF FIVE STEPS TO FINANCIAL WELLBEING
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The money tips I’ll pass on
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Keep a ‘freedom fund’
This is specifically designed as an escape hatch from a difficult situation, like a horrible partner or bad boss.
Start investing
Investing even just a
tiny amount of pay
could help to grow real financial security.
Rent control has proved a controversial topic in the UK, but is used more widely across the world (Photo: Getty)
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Always negotiate
For women additional benefits like a generous pension, paid leave and health insurance, can make a huge difference.
The money tips I’ll pass on
Liking yourself is your armour
“I could not tell you how much I have spent over the years, trying to ‘fix’ the parts of myself that society told me were not good enough,” says Seal.
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Have an enjoyment allowance
A pot of money for guilt-free spending is a good idea. If you start young enough, spending on your lifestyle and saving for your future don’t have to be mutually exclusive.
Use credit wisely
I want to teach her how easy
credit makes it easy to hide your own spending from yourself.
I hope she understands that there
is always a price to pay.
I don’t want her to be scared of credit though because that’s a recipe for misuse and shame.
I want her to know how to use it well and what the red flags are.
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Summer is approaching, and so are the insects
Are we getting more flies in the UK?
With warmer, wetter winters and longer summers, flies are likely to breed quicker and survive for longer. We’re likely to see more in the future.
James Logan, professor of medical entomology at the London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine, says we could see more bugs as warmer temperatures create an ideal environment for breeding.
How to deter flies
Clear out leftovers
Flies love leftover food, especially if it’s sugary or decaying. Food should be covered or in airtight containers, and leftovers cleared away immediately after eating.
A man pours a glass of water from a chrome tap at a kitchen sink – stock photo. (Photo: Getty)
Clean your sink
Particles of food found in the sink or drains after washing up will attract flies so keep them clean and clear. Keeping windows closed will also help.
At-home remedies to try
Try vinegar
Mixing apple cider vinegar with a spoonful of sugar and washing up liquid attracts flies – they then drown in the liquid.
Lemon with cloves
Cut a lemon in half and stick in some cloves. It’ll create a strong combination of smells that repel flies.
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Herbs
Placing mint, rosemary and basil around windows and kitchens can keep flies at bay.
Techniques to use
Keep windows closed
Have windows ajar not wide open and use fans as the airflow makes it hard for flies to land.
Take time to rest (Photo: Counter/Getty/Digital Vision/Nicolas Hudak)
One example of this is the Intelligent Street Lighting project being trialled by Glasgow City Council. It uses an algorithm to process real time sensor data on noise, air pollution and footfall around the city and control street lighting in reaction to people’s use of cycle paths and open spaces.
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Use warm lights, if any
While flies are attracted to blue light, they are repelled by warm tones so try to get yellow or orange-toned lights.
Check your drains
Remove any organic matter that could be a food source, and clean them using boiling
water and vinegar.
Water companies are allowed to spill sewage so long as their plants are overwhelmed (Photo: Finnbarr Webster/Getty)
Look at your bins
Leftover and decaying food is a playground for flies
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Keep your compost bin as far from the
house as possible, use a wheelie bin liner and keep the lids sealed, says pest control expert Jonathon Nicholls.
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Menopause causes Alzheimer’s-like changes to the brain
Some symptoms overlap
between the perimenopause
and dementia which can be worrying for women but
experts say lifestyle changes can help.
The new research
Could this explain why
more women develop dementia than men?
Two thirds
According to the Alzheimer’s Society, women account for around two thirds of people living with Alzheimer’s disease (the most common form of dementia) in the UK.
Menopause
Some of the symptoms of menopause which are similar to dementia include memory issues, trouble with word retrieval, irritability, anxiety and frustration.
The differences
Someone with menopause brain fog may have difficulties with memory or clear thinking, but in dementia, these issues increase over time.
The person’s abilities will decline progressively and they will need more support with everyday tasks.
Memory problems with
menopause, however, can
improve with treatment, lifestyle changes or time.
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5 min read
What to do if you have menopause-related brain fog
Managing menopause is a bit like putting together pieces of a jigsaw.
British Menopause Society (BMS) trustee Dr Paula Briggs says HRT can help but it’s not the only solution.
“It’s important to ensure that you’re eating well and exercising regularly throughout menopause, when your body is under some strain due to fluctuations in hormones”.
The lifestyle changes to make
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Exercising
This supports mental health and sleep but it can be as simple as walking for 30 minutes.
Learn new things
Keeping your brain active can improve your brain health, cognition, well-being and mental health.
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Reduce unhealthy habits
Reducing alcohol intake and quitting smoking are also worthwhile, says neuroscientist Professor Barbara Sahakian.
Selling a house can be a minefield
The market is stagnant, first-time buyers are struggling to save enough for deposits and sales are falling through.
To help, we asked experts for their tips on completing a sale. From what to do with decor and lighting to marketing it correctly.
These are the most common mistakes they see.
(Photo: Anastasiia Krivenok/Getty).
LOREM IPSUM
Paint problems
If you give people the choice of a renovation project or something that’s finished, they’ll go for the latter.
Arsh Ellahi, who has over 20 years of experience in the property industry, says buyers want houses that are done.
Warmer tones like stone and neutrals can also help a sale.
The mistakes to avoid
Leaving out clutter
If all someone can see is clutter, they’re more likely to think the house is too small. Space is value.
‘I do his laundry. I’ve learned to check the pockets. I regularly pull out enough snack wrappers to fill a small bag’, says Allana (Photo: Rani Nurlaela Desandi/Getty)
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Over-decorating
Show homes come without the personal element and are usually plain but modern. This draws people in.
Overpricing
When the price is set too high, it’s more likely to stay on the market. Your home has to look like good value for money.
For the vast majority of people selling the home they live in the process is straightforward and tax-free (Photo: Karl Hendon/Getty)
The mistakes to avoid
Declining offers
Ellahi says the best offers tend to come within the first four weeks of marketing.
Mortgage rates have been rising for days (Andrew Matthews/PA Wire)
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Being present for viewings
If the owners are there, buyers can feel uncomfortable walking around and getting a sense of the place.
The wrong photos
Photos are the first thing a potential buyer sees, and poor-quality images will stop stage two – the inquiry and viewing.
What to do
Light a candle for atmosphere (Photo: VeranikaSmirnaya/Getty/iStockphoto)
Prepare your home
Windows should be opened to allow fresh air in, and, if it’s cold, the heating should be turned on to make the house feel inviting and homely.
Be flexible
It’s really important to accommodate viewings on weekends or evenings when they’re most popular.
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You do not need to have it all figured out but you do need to start (Photo: Olha Danylenko/ Getty)
Financially prepare
Solicitors’ fees, agent fees, and capital gains tax are all big things to consider when it comes to finances and being ready to sell.
Like the surfers, Rotterdam is riding a wave. The Dutch master of reinvention is at it again, forging a fresh identity as the old port deindustrialises. The city has form. Obliterated in the Second World War, it rose from the rubble to become the daring, decidedly un-Dutch modernist metropolis of today. Its skyline earned it the nickname “Manhattan on the Maas”, while its port grew to be one of the world’s largest.
But with most maritime businesses having moved to the new out-of-town port, the city is reinventing itself again, finding new uses for the old docks. There are competing visions of what Rotterdam 3.0 should look like, but most agree on this: it must bring people closer to the water.
Writer Gavin Haines post-surf. Rotterdam has become a ‘daring, decidedly un-Dutch modernist metropolis’
“Rotterdam was built with its back to the river [Maas] and we want to turn it around,” says Vera Bauman, senior programme manager for the municipality. “We’re starting to see that transformation.”
Nowhere is it more evident than at Rijnhaven, an old harbour just south of the Maas. I walk there via the harp-shaped Erasmusbrug, as water taxis dart beneath me and a cruise ship docks.
Rotterdam receives a fraction of the tourists that Amsterdam does (about 1.8 million compared with 9.5 million, with 12 times fewer Britons making the trip). You feel it on the streets, which are quieter, and it’s cheaper, too, with the cost of living estimated to be 14 per cent lower. That said, Rijnhaven is buzzing. Eking out the last rays of the day, swimmers jump into the harbour from a pontoon, while earthmovers sculpt a work-in-progress beach nearby.
“This is the first place in Rotterdam where people can get in the water,” says Albert van Eer, a landscape architect. “This was an important harbour, it’s where the port of Rotterdam properly began. Now it’s getting new importance.”
A floating hotel on Rijnhaven (Photo: Andre Muller/Getty)
Rijnhaven’s abandoned old buildings are also being reimagined. In February, a former coffee warehouse completed its transformation into the Nederlands Fotomuseum. Then there’s Fenix, an art museum about migration.
“It’s not for us to tell people how to feel about migration,” says the museum’s PR manager, Esmee Köhler. “We just want to enrich the view that people have about it.”
Symbolism is everywhere in Fenix. The building itself, an old warehouse, belonged to the Holland America line, which in the 19th and 20th centuries shipped millions of European émigrés to the US, Einstein among them.
The surrounding Katendrecht neighbourhood was home to continental Europe’s oldest Chinatown – and red-light district. Its plush new apartments and restaurants are symbolic of Rotterdam’s redevelopment, which has sparked cries of gentrification.
Rotterdam is known as ‘Manhattan on the Maas’ (Photo: horstgerlach/Getty)
Keen to keep Rotterdam gritty is artist Joep van Lieshout, who once established an anarchistic free state in the old port. I meet him in Nieuw-Mathenesse, an area dominated by empty factories.
AVL-Ville, he tells me, had its own currency, constitution and weapons, including a Mercedes car retrofitted with a cannon – “because if you don’t have armaments nobody takes you seriously”. Part commune, part art experiment, it sprung up on an abandoned quay in 2001. It was no larger than a few football pitches and had a population of around two dozen. It had a farm, a clinic and “public transport” – a tractor and horse-drawn cart.
“We had a lot of problems with the king and prime minister,” Van Lieshout adds. “They don’t like you building a state within a state.” After nine months, police pulled the plug on AVL-Ville. “They confiscated our weapons, which were just artworks; they couldn’t be used,” he says. The Mercedes is now in storage at Museum Boijmans Van Beuningen.
But the micro-state’s renegade spirit lives on. Van Lieshout bought up some old factories which now host Brutus, a raw, 6,000 square metre exhibition space for maverick artists.
Next door to Brutus works another visionary, Dirk van Peijpe. His architecture firm De Urbanisten plans to transform a disused railway line into a park reminiscent of New York’s High Line. It’s designed so hedgehogs and other wildlife can navigate it.
Van Peijpe’s flagship project, though, is the transformation of a dirty old harbour into a sandy, tree-filled tidal park. It’s a blueprint for a more biodiverse Rotterdam, with plans for an urban wetland. “This contact with the water is impossible in most parts of the city,” he says. “We need more of this – we need to invite nature into our cities.”
Peijpe scoffs at RiF010 – “a concrete bowl full of water, very commercial” – and thinks Rijnhaven could be more generous to nature. But that’s Rotterdam, a city shaped by competing visions, messy and eccentric, and – like the river running through it – forever in flux.
Getting there
Eurostar operates direct trains from London King’s Cross to Rotterdam.
Staying there
Hotel New York has river views and a bygone charm, with doubles from £130.
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