{"id":198105,"date":"2026-06-08T09:00:15","date_gmt":"2026-06-08T09:00:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ee\/198105\/"},"modified":"2026-06-08T09:00:15","modified_gmt":"2026-06-08T09:00:15","slug":"sandra-sillamaa-uks-asi-millega-lahutades-maadlesin-olid-ootused-et-olen-kellegagi-elu-lopuni-koos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ee\/198105\/","title":{"rendered":"Sandra Sillamaa: \u00fcks asi, millega lahutades maadlesin, olid ootused, et olen kellegagi elu l\u00f5puni koos"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Eba\u00f5iglust pole Sandra v\u00e4ikesest peale kannatanud. \u201eMa ei saa sellega \u00fcldse hakkama ja selle suhtes ma olen v\u00e4ga kirglik, ema \u00fctles ka \u00fckskord, et sa ei saa teiste elusid elada,\u201c \u00fctles ta ja mainis, et tema jaoks on siiamaani \u00f5ppimise koht, et mitte v\u00f5tta kanda teiste muresid. \u201eMa ei saa neid lahendada, ma saan olla toeks ja aidata, kui k\u00fcsitakse abi, aga ma tahan v\u00e4ga lahendada teiste asju.\u201c<\/p>\n<p>\u201eHuvitav asi, mis sellel kevadel v\u00e4lja tuli, kui k\u00e4isin ps\u00fchholoogia juures, et minus on kurbuse foon ja ma pole kindel, et tahan sellest \u00fcldse lahti saada,\u201c s\u00f5nas ta ja lisas, et tema maailmapilti m\u00f5jutas v\u00e4ga palju see, kui ta kuulis 7-8-aastasena kultuurikoolis pilli \u00f5ppides rahvamuusikute kurbi s\u00f5jalaule. \u201eNeid lugusid on nii palju ja see oli minu jaoks nii ilus.\u201c<\/p>\n<p>Lahkuminekute kohta \u00fctles Sandra seda, et inimesed ei saa kunagi kokku kellegagi selle m\u00f5ttega, et varsti l\u00e4hme lahku. \u201eSa eeldad ikkagi, et j\u00e4\u00e4d kokku, aga kurb asi on see, kui inimesed ei k\u00fcsi endalt, et kas see on ka asi, mida praegu tahan, naistel tuleb see murdepunkt paar aastat enne ja p\u00e4rast neljak\u00fcmneseks saamist, kus sa hakkad k\u00fcsima, et kas need asjad, mida tahtsin kahek\u00fcmne aastaselt, on samad, mida ma tahan praegu,\u201c selgitas ta ja lisas, et eelk\u00f5ige pead endale selgeks tegema, miks sa midagi teed.<\/p>\n<p>Ta j\u00e4tkas: \u201e\u00dcks asi, millega lahutades maadlesin, olid ootused ja eeldused, mis sa olid seadnud endale, m\u00f5tlesid, et oled kellegagi elu l\u00f5puni koos ja n\u00fc\u00fcd sa hakkad enda identiteeti muutma,\u201c r\u00f5hutas ta ja lisas, et inimesed arenevad oma eluteel ja paarisuhtes v\u00e4ga palju. \u201eEmaks saamine muudab ka v\u00e4ga palju, kui sa oled enda sees kasvatanud inimese, muudab m\u00f5nd inimest v\u00e4hem ja m\u00f5nd rohkem.\u201c<\/p>\n<p>Kuidas see lugu Sind end tundma pani? 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