I live in Verden (Aller), specifically in the village of Langwedel. I don’t really have any friends here, and I want to change that. The area is extremely quiet, almost strangely so. Most of the people living nearby are older, but they’re very friendly.
Back home, I used to work in the maritime and entertainment industry so music and parties were a big part of my life. Here, I enjoy the calm sometimes, but I still feel lonely. I go to Easyfitness and attend Zumba classes, but I haven’t really found a way to connect with people. I’ve tried apps like Meet5 and InterNations, but nothing really worked. I’m new to Germany and 30 years old. Does anyone have advice on how I can meet people and get rid of this loneliness?



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11 comments

  1. It’s difficult. My advice would be: try to befriend internationals and wait for them to introduce you to their occasional German friend. From then on, just pray the German will bring you into their circle

  2. Sport Clubs.
    Pubs.
    QuizNights.
    BoardGames.
    Doppelkopf, Poker
    Hiking groups
    Tutor someone in your native language

  3. I had a pretty rough go of it when I first moved too, but a few things that helped were, participating in hobbies that included others which resulted in German and international friends, meeting people at my local pub that would want to hang out, and the hardest part, learn German if you can’t speak it already, even just being at a learners level but enough to try and strike up conversations helped me big time.

    I know the loneliness you’re feeling, but hang in there, it gets better.

  6. That’s quite a small town. Is it possible for you to move to a bigger city? You would have more opportunities to find friends there. 

  7. Ideally, you should meet them at primary school and keep them for the rest of your life. Otherwise, it’ll be like playing five-dimensional chess.

  8. best way is to join a verein you find actually exciting

  9. you can’t. Unless you went to kindergarten with germans. Even Verein friends are just acquaintances

  10. I’ve been living in Germany for a year and have zero friend. I don’t even live in the village. I used to live in Netherlands before and had a lot of friends there.

  11. Stop hanging out on the side of the road.

    Lol, just kidding. I am too struggling here…. even in the city! Munich is big but I recently moved here.

    I think the magic Vereine is supposed to be the ticket out of loneliness. I will let post back as I am supposed to meet this tennis club here, and I can let you know.

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