Jennifer Zamparelli hosts the ‘Just Between Us’ podcast.
In this episode, Jennifer sits down with journalist Kate Brayden, who experienced two very different experiences of infidelity almost a decade apart. The first, in her early 20s, spiralled into toxicity and self-blame; years later, counselling helped her name what happened and begin to reclaim her self-worth. The second revealed something else entirely: incompatibility, insecurity, and a moment of self-sabotage that forced a hard reset.
Kate shares what it’s like to live through both stories – the denial, the detective work, the sudden clarity, and how she moved from heartbreak to healing. They discuss the culture of silence around cheating, why shame keeps us stuck, and how to build a support system that helps you leave, stay, or simply pause and breathe. From boundaries to “writing your own rules,” from monogamy to non-monogamy, and from apology to genuine accountability, this is an honest look at what repair can (and can’t) look like.
There’s also practical wisdom: listen to your gut; watch how someone handles their phone, their moods, and the truth; notice when alcohol and insecurity are driving decisions; and remember that remorse and respect matter. And if you’re afraid to find out who you are on your own, that might be the sign it’s time to try.
A note for listeners: at points, this conversation references domestic abuse. It’s handled with care and ultimately turns toward hope, but please take care while listening.
Just Between Us is an Irish Independent podcast hosted by Jennifer Zamparelli. New episodes every Thursday, wherever you get your podcasts.