{"id":118799,"date":"2025-10-13T07:15:08","date_gmt":"2025-10-13T07:15:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/118799\/"},"modified":"2025-10-13T07:15:08","modified_gmt":"2025-10-13T07:15:08","slug":"how-utterly-depressing-that-this-is-where-we-are-the-irish-times","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/118799\/","title":{"rendered":"How utterly depressing that this is where we are \u2013 The Irish Times"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">In some ways it feels like the summer never happened.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall b-it-article-body__text--left\">We\u2019re back at <a href=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/ireland\/education\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer nofollow noopener\" title=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/ireland\/education\/\">school<\/a> a few weeks now. A tracksuit top, one raincoat, one calculator, a pair of runners, several lunch box lids, all the green crayons and an entire schoolbag have been lost over the course of those treacherous first few weeks in the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/tags\/primary-level\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer nofollow noopener\" title=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/tags\/primary-level\/\">primary<\/a>&#8211; and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/tags\/second-level\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer nofollow noopener\" title=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/tags\/second-level\/\">secondary<\/a>-school-year trenches.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall b-it-article-body__text--left\">It\u2019s all achingly familiar. A bit like the whoops of delight across the WhatsApp subgroups when training or matches are cancelled. Yes, all the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/tags\/parenting\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer nofollow noopener\" title=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/tags\/parenting\/\">parents<\/a> say, \u201cthanks coaches. See you next week,\u201d but in the subgroups the truth comes out.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall b-it-article-body__text--left\">If you\u2019re wondering what a Whatsapp subgroup is, it\u2019s a little group formed with members of the original group, where parents who drink margaritas and celebrate not having to stand in the freezing cold and rain on some sideline or other with limited nearby parking say what they really think about stuff.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall b-it-article-body__text--left\">If you\u2019re not in one, don\u2019t worry; you\u2019re probably just some of the stuff they\u2019re talking about. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">But anyway, back to the sidelines.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall b-it-article-body__text--left\">Back to school means back to the sidelines for many of us; trekking around the county or country, in most weathers, to cheer on your child in their chosen sport. Until, recently, it didn\u2019t. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall b-it-article-body__text--left\">Recently, the Dublin and District Schoolboys\u2019\/Girls\u2019 League announced a silent sidelines campaign to run once a month until the end of the year. Silent sidelines is much like it sounds. All the spectators standing on the sideline must support their child, and team, silently. There should be no shouting, no instruction, no calling out to players and no loud vocal observations. The purpose? \u201cTo try and stem the continued bad behaviour from those on the sidelines. It is having a detrimental effect on the players looking to play and enjoy their football.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph b-it-article-body__interstitial-link\">[\u00a0<a aria-label=\"Open related story\" class=\"c-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/health\/your-family\/2023\/10\/02\/increasing-use-of-negative-derogatory-and-thuggish-language-by-spectators-is-appalling\/\" rel=\"noreferrer nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Children\u2019s sport: \u2018Increasing use of negative, derogatory and thuggish language by spectators is appalling\u2019Opens in new window<\/a>\u00a0]<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall b-it-article-body__text--left\">Just let that sink in. The behaviour of adults on the sidelines is having a detrimental effect on the children trying to play a game. Have we now reached peak madness, where a phrase once reserved for schoolchildren is perhaps more appropriate for the adults who watch them from the sidelines: if you have nothing nice to say, then don\u2019t say anything at all?<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall b-it-article-body__text--left\">\u201cGiven the escalation of behavioural and respect issues, particularly from the sidelines from both coaches\/parents etc we are holding a \u2018silent for all\u2019 weekend\u201d, the DDSL continued in its advice to clubs about the last weekend in September. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall b-it-article-body__text--left\">\u201cDon\u2019t let inappropriate comments, shouting, aggression, physical violence, and laughing at others whilst supporting or coaching a match become the norm!\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">How utterly depressing that this is where we are. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">I wasn\u2019t sure at first what to think. Is it not, surely, completely unnatural to stand silently watching your children play? Have I ever managed to watch Ireland or Liverpool quietly? Are these two very, very different things? Yes. But it\u2019s also worth noting I have never felt an urge to shout abuse at a player from the stands \u2013 or the couch. So, I don\u2019t think it\u2019s me they\u2019re getting at.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall b-it-article-body__text--left\">\u201cIt\u2019s a balance, for sure. We have silent sidelines for soccer, but sometimes a wee cheer is needed,\u201d one mum offered. It\u2019s a \u201cgreat idea, but will it work? My sons coaches love fighting with opposition coaches and supporters,\u201d another parent typed.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">I lamented having to stay quiet at the match. It doesn\u2019t come naturally.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph b-it-article-body__interstitial-link\">[\u00a0<a aria-label=\"Open related story\" class=\"c-link\" href=\"http:\/\/irishtimes.com\/sport\/2025\/03\/13\/dave-hannigan-a-toxic-generation-of-parents-is-spoiling-sport-for-us-children\/\" rel=\"noreferrer nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">A toxic generation of parents is spoiling sport for US childrenOpens in new window<\/a>\u00a0]<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">But is it really a step too far? Your view is likely to be tarnished by what you\u2019ve witnessed and what you\u2019ve heard. And as a veteran sideline-stander, I\u2019ve seen and heard a lot. From aggressive swearing and threatening abuse hurled at children on the opposing team, to proud comments from adults about encouraging tackles deliberately intended to hurt, to coaches who really haven\u2019t grasped what children\u2019s sport is and who shouldn\u2019t be let within a mile of kids. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">Everyone wants to win. So much so that children are just fodder for aggressive competitiveness from too many delusional adults. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall b-it-article-body__text--left\">Chez Hogan, we got to witness the silent spectacle from both angles \u2013 spectator and coach. \u201cIt worked really well\u201d, himself, who is a coach, admitted. \u201cThe kids really found a way to encourage each other into their positions and play, and they were happy out,\u201d he said. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall b-it-article-body__text--left\">\u201cLet the players play and think and learn for themselves\u201d, the DDSL had guided. I wondered at first if the was madness. Children just playing without constant direction or roaring from aggressive parents and coaches. Like we did on the local green in the 1980s and 90s? Having the best craic and loving life? Maybe there\u2019s something in it.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">And sure, look, when the parents and coaches learn to behave, perhaps they can get some of their privileges back.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"In some ways it feels like the summer never happened. 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