{"id":143829,"date":"2025-10-25T01:34:11","date_gmt":"2025-10-25T01:34:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/143829\/"},"modified":"2025-10-25T01:34:11","modified_gmt":"2025-10-25T01:34:11","slug":"we-were-taught-how-to-sexually-please-husbands-as-child-brides-aged-just-14","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/143829\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8216;We were taught how to sexually please husbands as child brides aged just 14&#8217;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>The Nhanga is a guarded hut where girls are taught how to sexually please their husbands &#8211; but now the tradition is being reclaimed by young girls in Zimbabwe<\/p>\n<p><strong class=\"Strong_strong__e2x35 __className_9a5957\">Emilia Randall<\/strong> GAU Writer<\/p>\n<p>15:10, 24 Oct 2025<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/0_Zimbabwe-Child-Marriages-25288075079216.jpg\" alt=\"Zimbabwe Child Marriages (25288075079216)\" loading=\"eager\"  \/>Now the girls bond by playing football together (Image: AP)<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\" publication=\"irishmirror\">A disturbing ritual once used to <a class=\"TextLink_text-link__dBSS0 TextLink_enabled__dJF3l\" href=\"https:\/\/www.irishmirror.ie\/news\/world-news\/i-forced-marry-man-twice-36096645\" target=\"_self\" aria-label=\"\" tabindex=\"0\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">groom child brides<\/a> for &#8220;marriage&#8221; is now being transformed by young <a class=\"TextLink_text-link__dBSS0 TextLink_enabled__dJF3l\" href=\"https:\/\/www.irishmirror.ie\/all-about\/women\" target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"womenLink opens in a new tab.\" tabindex=\"0\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">women<\/a> in Zimbabwe who are rejecting the custom that schooled children in sexually satisfying their adult spouses.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\" publication=\"irishmirror\">&#8220;Nhanga&#8221; &#8211; a local expression meaning &#8220;girls&#8217; bedroom&#8221; &#8211; was traditionally a female-only environment used to<a class=\"TextLink_text-link__dBSS0 TextLink_enabled__dJF3l\" href=\"https:\/\/www.irishmirror.ie\/news\/world-news\/i-married-12-mother-14-35732063\" target=\"_self\" aria-label=\"\" tabindex=\"0\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\"> instruct teenage girls in submission.<\/a> The guarded hut served for &#8220;secret, musical rites of passage render young girls eligible for lobolo, bride-price negotiation,&#8221; wrote Thomas F. Johnston, in The Secret Music of Nhanga Rites.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\" publication=\"irishmirror\">He added: &#8220;Through song, mime, and mild forms of physical mutilation, the old women overseers of the Nhanga teach initiates how to please the husband sexually, and rehearse them in the duties o f a junior wife: carry water long distances, clear village fireplaces o f ashes, gather firewood, tend the fields, pound maize in the mortar, and show humility to senior co-wives.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/0_Zimbabwe-Child-Marriages-25288075211249.jpg\" alt=\"Zimbabwe Child Marriages (25288075211249)\" loading=\"lazy\"  \/>Women and girls sit inside the tent with their mentor(Image: AP)<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\" publication=\"irishmirror\">In Shamva, this custom is being revolutionised, reports <a class=\"TextLink_text-link__dBSS0 TextLink_enabled__dJF3l\" href=\"https:\/\/www.express.co.uk\/news\/world\/2125528\/child-brides-14-taught-please-husbands\" target=\"_self\" aria-label=\"\" tabindex=\"0\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">the Express<\/a>. Here, the Nhanga is &#8220;a safe space, every girl feels free,&#8221; 18-year-old Anita Razo, who joined the group at 14 and now mentors younger girls, told the Associated Press. Within the shelter, guided by a mentor, the girls candidly discuss sexuality, child marriage, teen pregnancy, gender bias, education, economic empowerment, and the law.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\" publication=\"irishmirror\">The objective is to strengthen girls against child marriage in the nation where one in three girls marries before 18, according to the United Nations Children&#8217;s Fund, calling it &#8220;a national emergency demanding urgent action&#8221;. &#8220;Zimbabwe and other African nations have banned child marriage, but destitution, sluggish law enforcement and cultural and religious traditions make it difficult to eliminate it entirely.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\" publication=\"irishmirror\">Samantha Chidodo was coerced into an abusive marriage at 17 to a man almost 10 years her senior, but now she is 26 and studying her final year of law. &#8220;All I wanted was to play and think of my future. Suddenly I had to be a mother and wife,&#8221; she revealed at a camp that combined tent sessions with a &#8220;girls and goals&#8221; football tournament,<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\" publication=\"irishmirror\">&#8220;I didn&#8217;t even know what to do. I would be dead asleep, oblivious that I needed to breastfeed. A woman next door would take the crying baby, feed him and return him to the sleeping teenage mother,&#8221; she explained.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\" publication=\"irishmirror\">After two years, she departed, but was shunned by her neighbours. With the backing of Rozaria Memorial Trust, she returned to school and became one of the modern Nhanga trailblazers.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/0_Zimbabwe-Child-Marriages-25288075040300.jpg\" alt=\"Zimbabwe Child Marriages (25288075040300)\" loading=\"lazy\"  \/>Anita Razo, a 18-year-old girl in Shamva, Zimbabwe(Image: AP)<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\" publication=\"irishmirror\">&#8220;Initially, we were only about 20 girls. Almost 90% of us did well, some went to college, others started projects. The community began to see our power, and encouraged their children to join,&#8221; she said. &#8220;Nhanga is now seen as cool. &#8220;<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\" publication=\"irishmirror\">Now more than 200 girls in her village take part with many schools across Zimbabwe adopting the model. Xmas Savanhu, a local village headman, said leaders now enforce rules against early marriage and offenders reported to police and forced to pay a cow as a fine held in trust by the chief for the girl&#8217;s education. He said: &#8220;This ensures she can return to school without financial worries.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\" publication=\"irishmirror\">Enet Tini, a teacher and mentor for girls whose school has adopted this model, said that despite their efforts and government policy, cultural attitudes persist. &#8220;The gap that we have lies with the adults. They view pregnancy or child marriage as indiscipline so they think the girls should be punished,&#8221; she added. Nyaradzai Gumbonzvanda, deputy executive director at U.N. Women and founder of the Rozaria Memorial Trust, labelled child marriage as &#8220;essentially rape and sexual exploitation&#8221; and a global issue, but &#8220;much higher in Africa.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\" publication=\"irishmirror\">&#8220;Laws are important &#8230; but it is critically essential to reach to the girls themselves, to do the shift in the social norms in our communities,&#8221; said Gumbonzvanda, who established Rozaria Memorial Trust in 2007 in memory of her late mother, who was married at 13.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\" publication=\"irishmirror\">Razo, the young mentor, concurs that the long-term solution should involve the young girls, stating &#8220;If we can pressure each other into behaving badly, then we can also influence each other to act positively. &#8220;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"The Nhanga is a guarded hut where girls are taught how to sexually please their husbands &#8211; but&hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":143830,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[41],"tags":[9,10,68754,3915,13,14,6,11,12,15,16,2955,5,2645,84989,7,8,65,66,67],"class_list":{"0":"post-143829","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-world","8":"tag-breaking-news","9":"tag-breakingnews","10":"tag-child-abuse","11":"tag-childhood","12":"tag-featured-news","13":"tag-featurednews","14":"tag-headlines","15":"tag-latest-news","16":"tag-latestnews","17":"tag-main-news","18":"tag-mainnews","19":"tag-marriage","20":"tag-news","21":"tag-pregnancy","22":"tag-teenage-pregnancy","23":"tag-top-stories","24":"tag-topstories","25":"tag-world","26":"tag-world-news","27":"tag-worldnews"},"share_on_mastodon":{"url":"https:\/\/pubeurope.com\/@ie\/115432238110375624","error":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/143829","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=143829"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/143829\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/143830"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=143829"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=143829"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=143829"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}