{"id":239004,"date":"2025-12-18T10:00:16","date_gmt":"2025-12-18T10:00:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/239004\/"},"modified":"2025-12-18T10:00:16","modified_gmt":"2025-12-18T10:00:16","slug":"just-between-us-i-couldnt-even-google-it-bobby-mcquaid-on-erectile-dysfunction-and-shame","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/239004\/","title":{"rendered":"Just Between Us: \u2018I couldn\u2019t even Google it\u2019 \u2013 Bobby McQuaid on erectile dysfunction and shame"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Just Between Us\" src=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/d75e5d0f-61b9-4b93-a94f-d59809ac604d.jpg\" loading=\"eager\" width=\"100%\" data-testid=\"article-image\"  \/><\/p>\n<p class=\"indo-ebe0ecc6_root indo-ebe0ecc6_caption1 indo-300db776_none indo-91174671_secondary indo-66f0fec7_regular indo-1d70522a_marginbottom0 indo-1d70522a_marginleft0 indo-1d70522a_marginright0 indo-1d70522a_margintop3 indo-b48c4984_left\" style=\"color:var(--color-grey-60)\">Just Between Us<\/p>\n<p class=\"indo-ebe0ecc6_root indo-ebe0ecc6_paragraph indo-300db776_none indo-91174671_primary indo-1d70522a_marginbottom0 indo-1d70522a_margintop0 indo-b48c4984_inherit\" style=\"color:var(--color-primary-80)\">Erectile dysfunction affects far more men than most people realise but it\u2019s still one of the hardest things to say out loud. In this episode, Jennifer talks to Bobby McQuaid, a new dad who spent years believing there was \u201csomething wrong\u201d with him, avoiding conversations, and even avoiding a Google search out of fear and shame.<\/p>\n<p class=\"indo-ebe0ecc6_root indo-ebe0ecc6_paragraph indo-300db776_none indo-91174671_primary indo-1d70522a_marginbottom5 indo-1d70522a_margintop0 indo-b48c4984_inherit\" style=\"color:var(--color-primary-80)\">Bobby takes Jennifer back to being 19, in his first serious relationship, when sex felt inevitable until it wasn\u2019t. He describes the confusion of not understanding what was happening, the pain, the panic, and how Ireland\u2019s patchy sex education and constant media messaging left him thinking it should be instant, easy, and effortless. Instead, he spiralled into silence, avoidance, and the kind of secrecy that only grows heavier with time.<\/p>\n<p class=\"indo-ebe0ecc6_root indo-ebe0ecc6_paragraph indo-300db776_none indo-91174671_primary indo-1d70522a_marginbottom5 indo-1d70522a_margintop0 indo-b48c4984_inherit\" style=\"color:var(--color-primary-80)\">He shares how it impacted intimacy and relationships, the guilt that kept him quiet, and the moment everything shifted when he met his now wife, Fiona. For the first time, he told someone and discovered it wasn\u2019t a personal failing, but a medical issue that could be treated. From getting a diagnosis and surgery, to the reality of performance anxiety and needing Viagra, Bobby is honest about the messy, non-linear path of rebuilding confidence and finding a new definition of sex that isn\u2019t just about penetration.<\/p>\n<p class=\"indo-ebe0ecc6_root indo-ebe0ecc6_paragraph indo-300db776_none indo-91174671_primary indo-1d70522a_marginbottom5 indo-1d70522a_margintop0 indo-b48c4984_inherit\" style=\"color:var(--color-primary-80)\">Just Between Us is an Irish Independent podcast hosted by Jennifer Zamparelli. New episodes every Thursday, wherever you get your podcasts.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Just Between Us Erectile dysfunction affects far more men than most people realise but it\u2019s still one of&hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":239005,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[73],"tags":[79,18,19,17,95395],"class_list":{"0":"post-239004","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-business","8":"tag-business","9":"tag-eire","10":"tag-ie","11":"tag-ireland","12":"tag-just-between-us-with-jennifer-zamparelli"},"share_on_mastodon":{"url":"https:\/\/pubeurope.com\/@ie\/115739992395380630","error":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/239004","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=239004"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/239004\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/239005"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=239004"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=239004"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=239004"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}