{"id":314040,"date":"2026-01-31T23:04:07","date_gmt":"2026-01-31T23:04:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/314040\/"},"modified":"2026-01-31T23:04:07","modified_gmt":"2026-01-31T23:04:07","slug":"aussies-rule-before-first-dates-that-men-keep-failing-i-dont-go","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/314040\/","title":{"rendered":"Aussie’s rule before first dates that men keep failing: ‘I don’t go’"},"content":{"rendered":"

Imagine you’re about to go on a first date<\/a>. You’ve had a shower (hopefully), done your hair, put on a nice scent, picked out some lovely clothes and you’re getting ready to set off<\/a>.<\/p>\n

But there’s one simple aspect missing: a confirmation text<\/a>. While it might seem unnecessary to some, messaging your date to affirm everything is still on is the “bare minimum” to others.<\/p>\n

Christy Murray told Yahoo Lifestyle she recently went through this before she was about to meet up with someone.<\/p>\n

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“There was no message at any time during the day to confirm that he would be going, or even on the way, which I think is usually the standard,” she said.<\/p>\n

“Luckily, I lived around the corner and it took me five minutes to get there. He only told me he was there at approximately 6:55pm, and the date was meant to be at 7pm.<\/p>\n

“Do men not think it is risky to rock up to a date without confirming with the other party?”<\/p>\n

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She said it’s a small but important step to make someone feel at ease ahead of what could be a nerve-racking experience.<\/p>\n

The message only takes a few seconds to compose and can be as simple as ‘see you tonight at 7pm’.<\/p>\n

Christy added that this wasn’t a one-off and has happened multiple times by multiple blokes who just show up whenever and wherever it was initially agreed.<\/p>\n

Doing this tiny act can also help people who might not have every detail of their lives memorised.<\/p>\n

“I’ve heard of many times where people get stood up, or they literally just forget that they have a date planned,” the Sydneysider told Yahoo Lifestyle.<\/p>\n

“Let’s be real, life happens, something could have gotten in the way that meant you aren’t able to attend.<\/p>\n

“I think just for peace of mind it is nice to confirm the morning of. If I don’t hear from you, I am going to assume that it isn’t on and start to make back up plans.”<\/p>\n

Christy isn’t alone in this, and many Aussies said they have a very strict approach to this rule.<\/p>\n

“I didn\u2019t get ready when he didn\u2019t confirmed the date,” wrote one person. “He messaged me to say he was running late. I told him I was in the bath and not coming cause he didn\u2019t confirm.”<\/p>\n

“I don\u2019t go if there\u2019s no confirmation,” added another.<\/p>\n

“I stand them up if the don’t confirm the morning of,” said a third.<\/p>\n

How should dates be organised?<\/p>\n

It takes two to tango, and some people online suggested that you shouldn’t wait for a confirmation and do it yourself if it’s a pain point.<\/p>\n

But in terms of etiquette, Christy said it should be whomever organised the date who reaches out on the day of to confirm with the other party.<\/p>\n

Even if there has been consistent back and forth chat between the two parties, she believed it was still necessary.<\/p>\n

While Christy felt the morning of is the best time to send that message, she had a cut-off for around 2pm before she starts making back-up plans.<\/p>\n

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She added that while it might be a controversial take, she believed it should be the man who organises the first date.<\/p>\n

“I think he should pick the time, location and activity that we are doing,” she told Yahoo Lifestyle.<\/p>\n

“I am finding that men these days are feeling shy or unsure of what to plan for the first date and that is just a huge red flag to me.<\/p>\n

“The only direction I want to be giving is a general area, or cuisine for dinner.”<\/p>\n

She added that there is also after-date etiquette to follow.<\/p>\n

“I’d like for the guy to message me afterwards saying if he had a good time or not so I’m not left in the dark about how it went,” she said.<\/p>\n

“If I don’t receive a message the night of or next morning, I assume you don’t want to see me again and I won’t be reaching out.”<\/p>\n

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