{"id":36913,"date":"2025-09-01T17:18:08","date_gmt":"2025-09-01T17:18:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/36913\/"},"modified":"2025-09-01T17:18:08","modified_gmt":"2025-09-01T17:18:08","slug":"janhvi-kapoor-on-loss-empathy-and-mourning-on-her-own-terms","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/36913\/","title":{"rendered":"Janhvi Kapoor on loss, empathy and mourning on her own terms"},"content":{"rendered":"

When Janhvi Kapoor lost her mother, the legendary Sridevi, she also lost the privacy to grieve. \u201cImagine losing your mother and it\u2019s entertainment for half the nation,\u201d she recalls in her Vogue Wedding Book<\/a> cover story.<\/p>\n

Every reaction was scrutinised. If she smiled, she was \u201ctoo okay.\u201d If she was quiet, she was \u201ctoo cold.\u201d She adds, \u201cMy sister and I have never let them see the cracks, and because of this, people have felt they can throw mud at us, that we are not really human. That took empathy and sympathy completely out of the question.\u201d<\/p>\n

Psychologists explain that grief isn\u2019t linear. The process often cycles through denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance; there\u2019s no set timeline. \u201cHuman beings are unique individuals, and our experiences vary dramatically. Putting a strict timeline for each phase is impossible, hence it is advisable to encourage people around to evaluate whether the person mourning is stuck in one of the phases or not,\u201d notes<\/a> Dr Nicole Nasr, a counselling psychologist and visiting lecturer at City, University of London. In other words, grief is individual, and so is healing.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s unfathomable that it could become a meme,\u201d Kapoor adds. \u201cThe loss is one thing but the damage that came after really made me cynical about human nature.\u201d<\/p>\n

Her words resonate beyond fame. For anyone who has endured loss, the truth is simple: grief does not look one way. Some people retreat, others carry on. None of these makes the pain less real.<\/p>\n

For Kapoor, the hardest but clearest lesson has been that mourning is not for public consumption. And perhaps the most radical act is to grieve on your own terms\u2014imperfectly, privately, and without the need for anyone else\u2019s approval.<\/p>\n

Photographed by Farhan Hussain
Styled by Devanshi Tuli
Hair: Yianni Tsapatori\/TAP The Artists Project
Makeup: Savleen Manchanda\/Eficiente Artist Management<\/p>\n

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