{"id":482483,"date":"2026-05-13T11:31:12","date_gmt":"2026-05-13T11:31:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/482483\/"},"modified":"2026-05-13T11:31:12","modified_gmt":"2026-05-13T11:31:12","slug":"meet-the-sad-wives-of-ai","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/482483\/","title":{"rendered":"Meet the Sad Wives of AI"},"content":{"rendered":"

Though things keep changing, some analyses suggest that women are about 20 percent less likely than men<\/a> to use generative AI. \u201cIt\u2019s a function not of gender per se,\u201d Rodgers suggests, \u201cbut of the occupations that women hold.\u201d Women are disproportionately represented in jobs\u2014education, health care, social services\u2014that right now use AI less. The result could be a compounding disadvantage. Over time, it means less access to the boom\u2019s financial rewards, more responsibility for the domestic labor it generates.<\/p>\n

And what happens when it doesn\u2019t work out for the men? Many, if not most, won\u2019t make it in AI, a lucrative but volatile business. \u201cWith job loss comes some depression,\u201d Rodgers says. \u201cWithin the household, if one person is going through adverse mental health effects around job loss or uncertainty, the other naturally becomes the support person.\u201d The cruel irony, for some sad wives, is that the moment their husband does leave AI, whether by choice or by force, there\u2019s no relief. Now he\u2019s home. Spiraling. Now she\u2019s managing that too.<\/p>\n

It was nearing the end of my therapy session. I had been rambling for 50 minutes about the mental load, the changing hormones, whether my postpartum depression could really just be traced to the fact that it took longer than anticipated to fit back into my jeans. Then my therapist interrupted and asked what exactly my partner did for work again. \u201cOh,\u201d I said. \u201cWell, he\u2019s head of AI at his company.\u201d<\/p>\n

What she said next, I had to write down. Her client base, she allowed, is almost entirely women\u2014women whose husbands, more often than not, are in some way professionally adjacent to AI. And it\u2019s affecting their relationships. The pressure to keep up means zero boundaries at home. The very masculine energy of it all. And the constant fighting, which is about something bigger than them. He\u2019s off in another world, a world of prompts and benchmarks and epiphanies, while she\u2019s firmly in this one.<\/p>\n

The resentment builds quietly. Several of these sad wives, my therapist added, have turned down job opportunities in AI themselves. Not because they weren\u2019t qualified, but because it\u2019s hard to raise kids and disrupt civilization at the same time.<\/p>\n

Princess Diana famously said there were three people in her marriage. For the sad wives of AI, the third is a chatbot. I spoke to a few other family therapists, and they agreed with mine: The phenomenon is getting worse. \u201cIt\u2019s a lot of tech wives,\u201d one said, sighing. \u201cA lot of tech wives.\u201d<\/p>\n

A tiktok meme has been making the rounds recently: young women at their laptops<\/a> or doing their makeup, captioned something like, \u201cWorking so hard so my man can work on his AI startup that loses $30K a month.\u201d The comments section stands in solidarity: \u201cI\u2019m ded.\u201d \u201cYas queen.\u201d \u201cJust so he can have \u2018founder\u2019 in his bio.\u201d I tried to reach out to some of these women. None bit.<\/p>\n

I should also say I didn\u2019t bother speaking to any of the actual husbands for this story. I\u2019m sick of hearing from the men of AI. So many of us are. They have podcasts and Senate hearings and magazine profiles<\/a> and probably a group chat with the president. They\u2019ve been talked to\u2014and I can\u2019t stress this enough\u2014enough.<\/p>\n