{"id":62380,"date":"2025-09-13T21:30:28","date_gmt":"2025-09-13T21:30:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/62380\/"},"modified":"2025-09-13T21:30:28","modified_gmt":"2025-09-13T21:30:28","slug":"my-parents-found-it-really-hard-to-watch-they-never-knew-my-sister-suffered-like-this-the-irish-times","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/62380\/","title":{"rendered":"\u2018My parents found it really hard to watch. They never knew my sister suffered like this\u2019 \u2013 The Irish Times"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">When Eva Libertad set out to tell the story of a deaf woman navigating motherhood in a hearing world, she didn\u2019t have to look too far for inspiration. Deaf, the director\u2019s arresting new feature \u2013 winner of the audience award at this year\u2019s Berlin International Film Festival \u2013 draws from a childhood spent with her deaf sister, Miriam Garlo, who lost her hearing as a child.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">\u201cThere was a lot of tension growing up,\u201d says Libertad, who is Spanish. \u201cMy sister was born hearing but lost her hearing at the age of seven. My parents knew something wasn\u2019t right, so they took her for tests. But the doctors never said, \u2018Your daughter is deaf.\u2019 They just told my parents to put her in the front row at school and teach her to lip-read.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">The absence of early deaf-friendly guidance affected both Miriam and her family. Within the home, parents and siblings adapted. They learned to communicate face to face, to articulate carefully and to support Miriam in her learning and speech development. But the weight of navigating a hearing world without cultural supports fell largely on the deaf girl herself.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">Despite these obstacles, Miriam pursued education, graduating from school and university. Still, a part of her identity remained unclaimed until she encountered the deaf community as a young adult.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">\u201cThat was a turning point,\u201d Libertad says. \u201cShe started learning sign language, and I did too, to accompany her. Miriam always says that, before discovering the deaf world, life was black and white. Learning sign language made the world full of colour.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">\u201cIt sounds obvious to say, but when she came into contact with the deaf community she had a revelation: \u2018Oh, I\u2019m deaf.\u2019 That was a turning point. For me, too, it was a moment to re-examine our relationship and what deafness means, not just for her but for us as a family.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" data-chromatic=\"ignore\" alt=\"Eva Libertad. Photograph: Patricia J Garcinuno\/Getty\" class=\"c-image\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/TIQX7MZZLBH6FKJHSQZTG3M6BI.jpg\"   width=\"800\" height=\"533\"\/>Eva Libertad. Photograph: Patricia J Garcinuno\/Getty <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">This personal journey became the foundation for Sorda (Deaf in Spanish), a short film that Libertad directed with Nuria Mu\u00f1oz in 2021. The film, which stars her sister in the lead role, explores a deaf woman\u2019s anxieties about motherhood. It made quite a splash, screening at more than 150 festivals, winning 54 awards and earning a nomination at the Goya Awards, the \u201cSpanish Oscars\u201d.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">\u201cThe short came from reality,\u201d says Libertad. \u201cMiriam was thinking about becoming a mother, and she told me all her fears. She gave me two pages of fears: emotional, practical, existential. It left a huge impression on me. That became the heart of the short film\u2019s script.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">Libertad felt there was more to explore. She began developing a feature-length version, not as a direct continuation of her sister\u2019s life but as an expansion of the themes. Miriam, who ultimately decided not to pursue motherhood, has returned to play \u00c1ngela, a fictional character inspired by real-life interviews and research.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">\u201cIn my case, I found my creative place by focusing on the connection between the deaf and hearing worlds,\u201d she says. \u201cThe film is told through the lens of this couple, \u00c1ngela and H\u00e9ctor.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">The shared language, or lack of it, between \u00c1ngela and H\u00e9ctor, her hearing partner, becomes a tense battleground for intimacy and independence. The prospect of motherhood to a child who can hear is daunting for the deaf heroine.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">\u201cI wanted to explore how relationships function across communication barriers,\u201d says Libertad. \u201cIt\u2019s not just about language. It\u2019s about trust, identity and compromise. For \u00c1ngela, becoming a mother raises the terrifying question: what if my child isn\u2019t like me?\u201d<\/p>\n<blockquote cite=\"Libertad\" class=\"c-stack b-it-article-body__pullquote\" data-style-direction=\"vertical\" data-style-justification=\"start\" data-style-alignment=\"unset\" data-style-inline=\"false\" data-style-wrap=\"nowrap\">\n<p class=\"c-paragraph\">I wanted the film to be accessible for both deaf and hearing audiences. That meant no off-screen voiceovers, no unnecessary close-ups<\/p>\n<p>\u2014 \u00a0Libertad<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">Libertad spoke to a range of deaf mothers, collecting stories of pregnancy, childbirth and parenting. These testimonies were vital tools for shaping the film.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">\u201cAll of the women I interviewed described the birth itself as traumatic,\u201d she says. \u201cOf course, birth can be traumatic for any woman, but for deaf mothers it\u2019s compounded. In Spain there are no protocols in place: no guaranteed interpreters or communication support.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">In both the short and the feature, form follows function. Libertad\u2019s choices as director were designed to prioritise clear and authentic communication suitable for deaf audiences. The camera rarely cuts to traditional close-ups; instead, wide, fixed frames dominate, giving the viewer full access to the characters\u2019 bodies and hands as they sign.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">\u201cI wanted the film to be accessible for both deaf and hearing audiences,\u201d says Libertad. \u201cThat meant no off-screen voiceovers, no unnecessary close-ups. When I explained this to my cinematographer, Miriam Fedele, she was shocked. She asked, \u2018How will we do this without traditional coverage?\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">They made it work. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">\u201cFor deaf people, the eyes are the ears,\u201d says Libertad. \u201cSo we kept the camera at eye level. And in the final part of the film we shift fully into \u00c1ngela\u2019s point of view. The actors begin interacting with the camera as if it were \u00c1ngela. We even lit the camera lens to guide their eye lines.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">Though grounded in the deaf experience, Deaf has found unexpected resonance among hearing women, particularly around themes of motherhood.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">\u201cWhat has surprised me most is how many hearing mothers have written to me saying they saw themselves in \u00c1ngela,\u201d says Libertad. \u201cThey understood her fear, her isolation, her uncertainty. That kind of identification goes beyond deafness.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">This is a landmark year for new deaf cinema. In May the stirring documentary Deaf President Now! \u2013 directed by the activist Nyle DiMarco alongside Davis Guggenheim \u2013 recounted the inspiring eight-day protest at Gallaudet University in 1988, at which students successfully demanded a deaf president. <\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph b-it-article-body__interstitial-link\">[\u00a0<a aria-label=\"Open related story\" class=\"c-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/culture\/film\/2025\/05\/15\/were-building-a-deaf-empire-making-things-rather-than-waiting-for-hollywood-to-greenlight-them\/\" rel=\"noreferrer nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">\u2018We\u2019re building a deaf empire, making things rather than waiting for Hollywood to greenlight them\u2019Opens in new window<\/a>\u00a0]<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">Upcoming titles include The Way We Talk, Adam Wong\u2019s depiction of three deaf friends considering cochlear implants and assimilation in a hearing-dominated Hong Kong, and Ted Evans\u2019s Retreat, the first thriller to feature an all-deaf cast and to be shot entirely using British Sign Language. Flash Before the Bang will tell the inspiring story of an all-deaf high-school track team.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">On television, Code of Silence, on ITV, featured Rose Ayling\u2011Ellis\u2019s lip-reading heroine, and the BBC\u2019s Reunion explored how the justice system fails the hard of hearing.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">\u201cI would love to see many more films about deafness,\u201d says Libertad. \u201cI\u2019d love to see deaf directors behind the camera, telling their stories of deaf people. My creative starting point was to focus on the connection between the deaf and hearing worlds.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall b-it-article-body__text--left\">\u201cOne of the problems with the under-representation of certain aspects of the world or certain types of people is that the films become a reference rather than standing on their own merit. People still think of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/culture\/film\/coda-an-irresistible-if-generic-drama-1.4643709\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer nofollow noopener\" title=\"https:\/\/www.irishtimes.com\/culture\/film\/coda-an-irresistible-if-generic-drama-1.4643709\">Coda<\/a> and Children of a Lesser God because that\u2019s the only reference they have for deaf films.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">Miriam Garlo, who reprises her role as \u00c1ngela in the feature, was deeply involved in the project. As Libertad wrote the script, she regularly sent her sister drafts, for feedback, not only as an actor but as a script adviser.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">\u201cThere were moments where I\u2019d ask Miriam, \u2018How would \u00c1ngela react here?\u2019 And she\u2019d guide me. She was incredibly supportive throughout the entire process.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">Watching the finished film together for the first time was emotional for both sisters \u2013 and, later, for their parents.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">\u201cWe watched it at home on my projector,\u201d says Libertad. \u201cIt hadn\u2019t gone through final postproduction yet, but I wanted them to see it.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">\u201cMy parents found it really hard to watch the first scene. They saw things they recognised, and things they had never realised before. They told me, \u2018We never knew Miriam suffered like this.\u2019<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">\u201cAnd that has been true for many viewers. I\u2019ve received messages from parents of deaf children saying the film helped them understand their own child better.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">Deaf may have started as a personal project, but it has grown into a larger conversation. For Libertad, that\u2019s exactly the point.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">\u201cThis film has helped me review and renew my relationship with my sister,\u201d she says. \u201cI hope it helps others do the same: to see, to understand, and to connect.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"c-paragraph paywall \">Deaf is on limited cinema release<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"When Eva Libertad set out to tell the story of a deaf woman navigating motherhood in a hearing&hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":62381,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[75],"tags":[7843,18,117,19,17,383],"class_list":{"0":"post-62380","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-entertainment","8":"tag-disability","9":"tag-eire","10":"tag-entertainment","11":"tag-ie","12":"tag-ireland","13":"tag-spain"},"share_on_mastodon":{"url":"","error":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/62380","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=62380"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/62380\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/62381"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=62380"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=62380"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/ie\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=62380"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}