{"id":39162,"date":"2025-11-03T18:24:08","date_gmt":"2025-11-03T18:24:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/lv\/39162\/"},"modified":"2025-11-03T18:24:08","modified_gmt":"2025-11-03T18:24:08","slug":"attiecibas-ir-apkaunojums-britu-vogue-raksts-satricina-internetu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/lv\/39162\/","title":{"rendered":"Attiec\u012bbas ir apkaunojums \u2013 britu “Vogue” raksts satricina internetu"},"content":{"rendered":"

No “TikTok<\/a>” l\u012bdz “Vogue<\/a>” \u2013 jaunais skaistuma ide\u0101ls vairs nav “m\u0113s”, bet “es”! Raksts par sievie\u0161u v\u0113lmi sl\u0113pt savus partnerus un izv\u0113l\u0113ties neatkar\u012bbu, kas s\u0101k\u0101s k\u0101 ironisks koment\u0101rs par soci\u0101lajiem t\u012bkliem, k\u013cuvis par kult\u016bras diskusiju: vai m\u012blest\u012bba ir novecojis aksesu\u0101rs? Vieni slav\u0113, citi lam\u0101, bet visi run\u0101. <\/p>\n

29. oktobr\u012b britu \u017eurn\u0101la “Vogue” raksts “Vai tagad ir apkaunojo\u0161i b\u016bt kop\u0101 ar puisi?” internet\u0101 izrais\u012bja kr\u0101\u0161\u0146as un kv\u0113las debates. Liel\u0101 m\u0113r\u0101 t\u0101 ir reakcija uz ideju, ka attiec\u012bbas vairs netiek uzskat\u012btas par veiksmes vai sasniegumu paz\u012bmi un t\u0101s vairs netiek uzl\u016bkotas k\u0101 “stil\u012bgas”. \u017durn\u0101listes \u0160ant\u0113 D\u017eozefas raksta<\/a> pamat\u0101 ir apgalvojums: m\u016bsdien\u0101s daudzas sievietes prioritiz\u0113 neatkar\u012bbu, nevis attiec\u012bbas.<\/p>\n

Vi\u0146a min soct\u012bklu saturu, kas p\u0113k\u0161\u0146i k\u013c\u016bst par “mana drauga” saturu \u2013 sievie\u0161u tie\u0161saistes identit\u0101te s\u0101k koncentr\u0113ties ap partnera dz\u012bvi (pret\u0113ji tam, k\u0101 tas redzams v\u012brie\u0161iem). It k\u0101 “atalgojums” b\u016btu sp\u0113ja atrast un notur\u0113t v\u012brieti, kas sievietei pie\u0161\u0137ir paaugstin\u0101tu soci\u0101lo statusu. Tom\u0113r vi\u0146a atz\u012bm\u0113, ka p\u0113d\u0113j\u0101 laik\u0101 ir v\u0113rojamas p\u0101rmai\u0146as taj\u0101, k\u0101 cilv\u0113ki demonstr\u0113 savas attiec\u012bbas. Tas notiek smalk\u0101k \u2013 nevis izr\u0101dot partneri, bet dodot tikai m\u0101jienus: roka uz st\u016bres, gl\u0101zes, pakausis. Da\u017ek\u0101rt pat tiek aizsegta partnera seja, it k\u0101 ar nodomu izdz\u0113st vi\u0146a eksistences faktu. Te D\u017eozefa vaic\u0101: vai tas ir kauns?<\/p>\n

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Rakstniece un akt\u012bviste Zoja Samudzi vi\u0146ai atbild, ka sievietes nev\u0113las, lai vi\u0146as uztver k\u0101 b\u016btnes, kas koncentr\u0113jas uz v\u012brieti, bet vienlaikus vi\u0146as v\u0113las ar\u012b to, ko sniedz partner\u012bba.<\/p>\n

Aptauj\u0101jot sievietes, atkl\u0101jas v\u0113l k\u0101ds aspekts \u2013 skaud\u012bba un greizsird\u012bba. Citas uztraucas par to, k\u0101 izskat\u012bsies vi\u0146u soct\u012bkli, ja attiec\u012bbas beigsies, bet tur paliks m\u012blas ieraksti. Ar\u012b sekot\u0101ji ir neapmierin\u0101ti, ja main\u0101s saturs.<\/p>\n

Piem\u0113ram, britu “Vogue” \u017eurn\u0101liste Stef\u0101nija Jeboa apstiprin\u0101ja, ka, r\u0101dot draugu soci\u0101lajos t\u012bklos, vi\u0146a zaud\u0113jusi simtiem sekot\u0101ju. Attiec\u012bbas tagad ir beigu\u0161\u0101s, ta\u010du Jeboa piebilst \u2013 dom\u0101jot par potenci\u0101lo n\u0101kotni ar v\u012brieti “da\u013ca no manis justos vain\u012bga, ja es past\u0101v\u012bgi public\u0113tu partneri, \u012bpa\u0161i, ja zin\u0101m, ka iepaz\u012bties ir gr\u016bti. Negrib\u0113tu liel\u012bties.”<\/p>\n

Ar\u012b satura rad\u012bt\u0101ja Sofija Milnere ir pieredz\u0113jusi “atrakst\u012b\u0161anos” attiec\u012bbu satura d\u0113\u013c. Vi\u0146a uzsver, ka, iesp\u0113jams, saturs k\u013c\u016bst maz\u0101k aizraujo\u0161s, kad esi attiec\u012bb\u0101s: “B\u016bt vienai noz\u012bm\u0113 absol\u016btu br\u012bv\u012bbu teikt un dar\u012bt, ko v\u0113lies. Tas nav vis\u0101m, bet esmu iev\u0113rojusi, ka attiec\u012bbu laik\u0101 tie\u0161saist\u0113 k\u013c\u016bstam neitr\u0101l\u0101kas \u2013 ar\u012b es pati.”<\/p>\n

Raksta nosl\u0113gum\u0101 D\u017eozefa secina, ka scen\u0101rijs main\u0101s. Partnerattiec\u012bbas vairs nepastiprina sievietes b\u016bt\u012bbu un nav uzskat\u0101mas par sasniegumu; dr\u012bz\u0101k par lepnu rotu ir k\u013cuvis statuss “viena”.<\/p>\n

Protams, nav kauns iem\u012bl\u0113ties. Un nav j\u0101kaunas par to, ka m\u0113\u0123in\u0101jumi nav izdevu\u0161ies vai visp\u0101r nav veikti. Attiec\u012bbu statuss ir trausla koncepcija, un tas viss notiek laik\u0101, kad vesels sievie\u0161u vilnis romantiz\u0113 vientul\u012bbas dz\u012bvi.<\/p>\n

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Ja agr\u0101k heteroseksu\u0101lai sievietei liel\u0101kais bieds, nagla z\u0101rk\u0101 bija “k\u013c\u016bt par sievieti ar ka\u0137iem”, tad tagad tas ir v\u0113lams un pat iek\u0101rojams statuss.<\/p>\n

Internets saka: “Paldies!”<\/p>\n

@abbybaffoe<\/a> <\/p>\n

Period vogue \ud83e\udd0f\ud83c\udffc<\/p>\n

\u266c original sound – toxic vibe<\/a> <\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Soct\u012bklu lietot\u0101jas uzgavil\u0113 \u2013 k\u0101ds beidzot v\u0101rdos noformul\u0113jis to, ko vi\u0146as dom\u0101, turkl\u0101t to apstiprin\u0101jis viens no presti\u017e\u0101kajiem izdevumiem. “Shameless Media” p\u0101rst\u0101ve R\u016bbija Hola public\u0113ja video, kur\u0101 dejo pie Teilores Sviftas dziesmas “The Fate of Ophelia”, ar parakstu: “Ac\u012bmredzot tagad ir \u0161iki b\u016bt vienai.” Cita lietot\u0101ja Lidija ievietoja video, kur\u0101 pateicas: “Paldies, britu “Vogue”, ka meitenes, kas visu m\u016b\u017eu biju\u0161as vienas, tagad j\u016btas sp\u0113c\u012bgas. Peln\u012bta uzvara mums.” Sabiedrisko attiec\u012bbu speci\u0101liste Lul\u016b Deividsone public\u0113ja “Mamma Mia” filmas stila video ar “The Winner Takes It All”: “K\u0101 ir justies vienai p\u0113c tam, kad britu “Vogue” ir deklar\u0113jis, ka ir apkaunojo\u0161i b\u016bt attiec\u012bb\u0101s ar v\u012brieti? Es vienm\u0113r esmu soli priek\u0161\u0101 tendenc\u0113m.” Un v\u0113l neskait\u0101mas citas sievietes atviegloti nop\u016b\u0161as, ka \u0161is ir lielisks laiks b\u016bt bez attiec\u012bb\u0101m \u2013 br\u012bv\u0101m, nevis vientu\u013c\u0101m.<\/p>\n

@live.laugh.lyds<\/a> a well deserved win for us \ud83e\udd29\ud83e\udd29\ud83e\udd29 keep slaying gals \ud83e\udef6\ud83e\udef6\ud83e\udef6 #britishvogue<\/a> #voguemagazine<\/a> #singlelifebelike<\/a> \u266c Father Figure – George Michael<\/a> <\/p><\/blockquote>\n

D\u017eozefas raksts rezon\u0113jis tik pla\u0161i, jo \u2013 k\u0101 vi\u0146a skaidro gan rakst\u0101, gan p\u0113c tam “TikTok” video \u2013 ne tikai vientu\u013ci cilv\u0113ki uzskata, ka attiec\u012bb\u0101s b\u016bt ir “nefor\u0161i”. Ar\u012b sievietes, kur\u0101m ir attiec\u012bbas, tam piekr\u012bt, t\u0101p\u0113c savus partnerus sl\u0113pj.<\/p>\n

Tas sasaucas ar Mirandas Hobsas teikto seri\u0101l\u0101 “Sekss un lielpils\u0113ta”: “K\u0101 tas n\u0101kas, ka \u010detr\u0101m gudr\u0101m sieviet\u0113m nav nek\u0101 cita, par ko run\u0101t, k\u0101 vien par v\u012brie\u0161iem? Tas ir k\u0101 sept\u012btaj\u0101 klas\u0113, tikai ar bankas kontu. K\u0101 ar mums pa\u0161\u0101m? Ko m\u0113s dom\u0101jam, j\u016btam, zin\u0101m? K\u0101p\u0113c sarun\u0101m vienm\u0113r j\u0101b\u016bt par vi\u0146iem?”<\/p>\n

@chantayyjayy<\/a> <\/p>\n

So many thoughts! This is my 2AM summary please go and read \u2764\ufe0f<\/p>\n

\u266c original sound – Chant\u00e9 Joseph<\/a> <\/p><\/blockquote>\n

D\u017eozefa “TikTok” min “Telling The Bees” rakstu “Boyfriend Land<\/a>“, kur\u0101 skaidrots, k\u0101 tik daudzas soci\u0101l\u0101s mijiedarb\u012bbas koncentr\u0113jas ap fr\u0101zi “mans v\u012brietis, mans v\u012brietis, mans v\u012brietis”, kam\u0113r pa\u0161i v\u012brie\u0161i par sav\u0101m draudzen\u0113m vai siev\u0101m run\u0101 daudz ret\u0101k.<\/p>\n

@tellthebeees<\/a> Replying to @nina #britishvogue<\/a> #discourse<\/a> #boyfriend<\/a> #tellthebeees<\/a> Essays by @baskinsuns on most platforms and Chant\u00e9 Joseph (will link in comments!) #substack<\/a> \u266c original sound – Tell The Bees<\/a> <\/p><\/blockquote>\n

P\u0113c D\u017eozefas publik\u0101cijas “Tell The Bees” turpina \u0161o domu, sakot, ka tam ir sava lo\u0123ika: ja sabiedr\u012bba tik ilgi skalojusi smadzenes ar uzskatu, ka v\u012brie\u0161a esam\u012bba ir augst\u0101kais sasniegums, nav p\u0101rsteigums, ka tik daudzas sievietes un daudzi dz\u012bves aspekti orient\u0113jas ap \u0161o t\u0113mu.<\/p>\n

Ar\u012b izdevums TMZ v\u0113rs\u0101s pie \u017eurn\u0101listes. Vi\u0146a apstiprin\u0101ja, ka sievietes rakstu slav\u0113, bet v\u012brie\u0161i \u2013 maigi sakot \u2013 nav saj\u016bsm\u0101. D\u017eozefa st\u0101sta, ka sa\u0146\u0113musi lamuv\u0101rdu pilnas v\u0113stules un draudus, ka \u0161is raksts b\u016bs iemesls, k\u0101p\u0113c vi\u0146a “palik\u0161ot viena l\u012bdz m\u016b\u017ea galam”. Tom\u0113r vi\u0146a apstiprina: tie\u0161i to vi\u0146a ar\u012b grib\u0113jusi pan\u0101kt \u2013 lai v\u012brie\u0161i uz\u0146emtos liel\u0101ku atbild\u012bbu sav\u0101s attiec\u012bb\u0101s.<\/p>\n

Apkaunojums nav v\u012brietis, bet atkar\u012bba no vi\u0146a<\/p>\n

Port\u0101la “News.com.au<\/a>” attiec\u012bbu eksperte Sera Bozza skaidro, ka attiec\u012bbas ar v\u012brieti nav apkaunojo\u0161as \u2013 apkaunojums rodas tad, kad attiec\u012bbas k\u013c\u016bst par identit\u0101tes da\u013cu un atkar\u012bbu. “Es dom\u0101ju, ka [rakst\u0101] maz\u0101k ir runa par sieviet\u0113m, kas noliedz v\u012brie\u0161us, un vair\u0101k par sieviet\u0113m, kas noraida atkar\u012bbu. Gadu desmitiem b\u016bt “k\u0101da draudzenei” tika uzskat\u012bts par person\u012bbu,” vi\u0146a saka. “Tagad m\u0113s ejam pret\u0113j\u0101 virzien\u0101 \u2013 veidojam tie\u0161saistes identit\u0101tes, kas saka: es izv\u0113los sevi. Tas ir progress, bet tas var ietekm\u0113t ar\u012b sniegumu.”<\/p>\n

Bozza uzsver, ka notikusi p\u0101reja uz vientul\u012bbas svin\u0113\u0161anu, ta\u010du past\u0101v b\u016btiska at\u0161\u0137ir\u012bba starp “esmu viena, jo att\u012bstos” un “esmu viena, jo v\u012brie\u0161i ir briesm\u012bgi”. Tikai pirmais ir sp\u0113cino\u0161s. “\u012astais lepnums nav b\u016bt vienai vai attiec\u012bb\u0101s, bet gan justies dro\u0161i jebkur\u0101 no \u0161iem st\u0101vok\u013ciem,” vi\u0146a piebilst.<\/p>\n

Run\u0101jot par soct\u012bkliem, Bozza izvirza interesantu domu: ja sievietei atseko t\u0101d\u0113\u013c, ka vi\u0146a r\u0101da savu partneri, tas nenoz\u012bm\u0113, ka saturs ir garlaic\u012bgs. Internets m\u012bl kop\u012bgus ienaidniekus, un p\u0113d\u0113j\u0101 laik\u0101 \u0161is “ienaidnieks” bie\u017ei ir p\u0101r\u0101k laim\u012bga sieviete. “V\u012brie\u0161i vairs nav mod\u0113” izklaus\u0101s p\u0113c joka, bet tas ietver to, ka sieviete, kura atrod labu v\u012brieti, kaut k\u0101d\u0101 veid\u0101 ir nodevusi p\u0101r\u0113j\u0101s. Tas esot k\u0101 krabis spain\u012b \u2013 ja viens cen\u0161as izr\u0101pties, p\u0101r\u0113jie velk atpaka\u013c. Teatr\u0101li p\u0101ru ieraksti var b\u016bt kaitino\u0161i, ta\u010du cilv\u0113ku sod\u012b\u0161ana par vesel\u012bg\u0101m attiec\u012bb\u0101m ir pa\u0161sabot\u0101\u017ea.<\/p>\n

“M\u0113s izliekamies, ka m\u012blest\u012bba ir “cringe”, bet paties\u012bb\u0101 “cringe” ir t\u0113lot, ka to nev\u0113lamies. Ja, redzot iem\u012bl\u0113ju\u0161os sievieti, rodas v\u0113lme v\u012bpsn\u0101t, iemesls nav vi\u0146a \u2013 iemesls ir diskomforts par to, kam pati esi p\u0101rst\u0101jusi tic\u0113t,” port\u0101l\u0101 “News.com.au<\/a>” skaidro Bozza.<\/p>\n

\u0160is raksts ir k\u013cuvis tik vir\u0101li popul\u0101rs t\u0101p\u0113c, ka atbilde uz jaut\u0101jumu “Vai tagad ir kauns b\u016bt attiec\u012bb\u0101s?” nav vienk\u0101r\u0161i atbild\u0101ms ar “j\u0101” vai “n\u0113”. Jaut\u0101jums sev\u012b iek\u013cauj daudz vair\u0101k. Attiec\u012bbu speci\u0101liste atg\u0101dina, ka kopum\u0101 ir svar\u012bgi veidot dz\u012bvi, kas nav piln\u012bb\u0101 saist\u012bta ar partneri \u2013 katram vajadz\u012bga sava identit\u0101te, rut\u012bna un draugi.<\/p>\n

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Vesel\u012bgas attiec\u012bbas atg\u0101dina divus ap\u013cus, kas p\u0101rkl\u0101jas, nevis divas pus\u012btes, kas mekl\u0113 viena otru, lai k\u013c\u016btu par vienu veselu.<\/p>\n

“Neatkar\u012bba neapdraud saikni; t\u0101 to aizsarg\u0101. Cilv\u0113kiem, kuri saglab\u0101 pa\u0161apzi\u0146u, parasti ir sp\u0113c\u012bg\u0101kas un ilgtsp\u0113j\u012bg\u0101kas attiec\u012bbas.”<\/p>\n

Seko “Delfi” ar\u012b Instagram<\/a> un YouTube<\/a> profil\u0101 \u2013 pievienojies, lai uzzin\u0101tu svar\u012bg\u0101ko un interesant\u0101ko pirmais!<\/p>\n

Publik\u0101cijas saturs vai t\u0101s jebk\u0101da apjoma da\u013ca ir aizsarg\u0101ts autorties\u012bbu objekts Autorties\u012bbu likuma izpratn\u0113, un t\u0101 izmanto\u0161ana bez izdev\u0113ja at\u013caujas ir aizliegta. Vair\u0101k lasi \u0161eit<\/a>