LOND\u00ddN \u2013 Aj oby\u010dajn\u00e1 h\u00e1dka m\u00f4\u017ee zanecha\u0165 hlbok\u00e9 jazvy. Pod\u013ea vz\u0165ahovej odborn\u00ed\u010dky existuj\u00fa vety, ktor\u00e9 partnera zra\u0148uj\u00fa nato\u013eko, \u017ee m\u00f4\u017eu postupne vies\u0165 a\u017e k rozvodu. Dobrou spr\u00e1vou je, \u017ee ka\u017ed\u00fa z nich mo\u017eno nahradi\u0165 ove\u013ea kon\u0161trukt\u00edvnej\u0161\u00edm sp\u00f4sobom komunik\u00e1cie.<\/p>\n
H\u00e1dky patria do ka\u017ed\u00e9ho vz\u0165ahu. To, \u010do po\u010das nich partneri povedia, v\u0161ak m\u00f4\u017ee ma\u0165 ove\u013ea v\u00e4\u010d\u0161ie n\u00e1sledky, ne\u017e si uvedomuj\u00fa. Niektor\u00e9 v\u00fdroky toti\u017e ne\u00fato\u010dia na konkr\u00e9tny probl\u00e9m, ale priamo na osobnos\u0165 druh\u00e9ho \u010dloveka. Pr\u00e1ve to m\u00f4\u017ee postupne naru\u0161i\u0165 d\u00f4veru aj samotn\u00e9 z\u00e1klady vz\u0165ahu.<\/p>\n
Ako upozornila britsk\u00e1 vz\u0165ahov\u00e1 odborn\u00ed\u010dka Tracey Cox pre Daily Mail, v\u00fdskumy ukazuj\u00fa, \u017ee poh\u0155danie partnerom, neust\u00e1le poni\u017eovanie \u010di \u00fatoky na jeho charakter patria medzi najsilnej\u0161ie prediktory rozvodu. Zostavila preto zoznam desiatich viet, ktor\u00fdm by sa p\u00e1ry mali vyh\u00fdba\u0165.<\/p>\n
\u201eZa v\u0161etko m\u00f4\u017ee\u0161 ty\u201c<\/p>\n
Pren\u00e1\u0161anie celej viny na partnera pod\u013ea odborn\u00ed\u010dky vedie len k tomu, \u017ee sa za\u010dne br\u00e1ni\u0165 namiesto toho, aby po\u010d\u00faval. Ove\u013ea lep\u0161ie je prizna\u0165 si spolo\u010dn\u00fd podiel na probl\u00e9me a hovori\u0165 o tom, ako situ\u00e1ciu zvl\u00e1dnu\u0165 spolo\u010dne.<\/p>\n
\u201eNie\u010do s tebou nie je v poriadku\u201c<\/p>\n
Jednou z najhor\u0161\u00edch ch\u00fdb je \u00fato\u010di\u0165 na charakter \u010dloveka namiesto jeho spr\u00e1vania. Kritizova\u0165 mo\u017eno konkr\u00e9tny \u010din, nie to, ak\u00fd partner je. Namiesto ur\u00e1\u017eok je vhodnej\u0161ie poveda\u0165, \u017ee v\u00e1s jeho spr\u00e1vanie zranilo.<\/p>\n
Pozor na slov\u00e1 \u201ev\u017edy\u201c a \u201enikdy\u201c<\/p>\n
Vety za\u010d\u00ednaj\u00face slovami \u201eTy v\u017edy…\u201c alebo \u201eTy nikdy…\u201c b\u00fdvaj\u00fa pod\u013ea odborn\u00ed\u010dky ve\u013emi nepresn\u00e9. Partner sa n\u00e1sledne s\u00fastred\u00ed na dokazovanie, \u017ee to nie je pravda, a p\u00f4vodn\u00fd probl\u00e9m zostane bokom.<\/p>\n
\u00da\u010dinnej\u0161ie je hovori\u0165 o konkr\u00e9tnych situ\u00e1ci\u00e1ch alebo pokojne vysvetli\u0165, \u010do by ste si \u017eelali \u010dastej\u0161ie.<\/p>\n
Neporovn\u00e1vajte partnera s in\u00fdmi<\/p>\n
\u201ePre\u010do nem\u00f4\u017ee\u0161 by\u0165 ako…?\u201c patr\u00ed medzi v\u00fdroky, ktor\u00e9 vyvol\u00e1vaj\u00fa hnev namiesto motiv\u00e1cie.<\/p>\n
\u010ci u\u017e ide o b\u00fdval\u00e9ho partnera, man\u017eela kamar\u00e1tky alebo kolegu, porovn\u00e1vanie pod\u013ea odborn\u00ed\u010dky neprin\u00e1\u0161a ni\u010d dobr\u00e9. Ove\u013ea lep\u0161ie je poveda\u0165, \u010do v\u00e1m vo vz\u0165ahu ch\u00fdba, bez porovn\u00e1vania s niek\u00fdm in\u00fdm.<\/p>\n
Veta, ktor\u00e1 m\u00f4\u017ee zni\u010di\u0165 cel\u00fd vz\u0165ah<\/p>\n
Obzvl\u00e1\u0161\u0165 nebezpe\u010dn\u00fd je v\u00fdrok: \u201eAni neviem, pre\u010do som s tebou.\u201c<\/p>\n
Tak\u00e9to slov\u00e1 pod\u013ea Coxovej spochyb\u0148uj\u00fa samotn\u00fd zmysel vz\u0165ahu a partner si ich m\u00f4\u017ee pam\u00e4ta\u0165 e\u0161te dlho po tom, ako h\u00e1dka skon\u010d\u00ed.<\/p>\n
Ak s\u00fa em\u00f3cie pr\u00edli\u0161 siln\u00e9, odpor\u00fa\u010da rad\u0161ej rozhovor na chv\u00ed\u013eu preru\u0161i\u0165 a vr\u00e1ti\u0165 sa k nemu nesk\u00f4r.<\/p>\n
\u201eUpokoj sa\u201c situ\u00e1ciu len zhor\u0161\u00ed<\/p>\n
Mnoh\u00ed t\u00fato vetu pou\u017e\u00edvaj\u00fa s dobr\u00fdm \u00famyslom, no pod\u013ea odborn\u00ed\u010dky zvy\u010dajne vyvol\u00e1 presn\u00fd opak.<\/p>\n
Partner m\u00e1 toti\u017e pocit, \u017ee jeho em\u00f3cie nie s\u00fa pochopen\u00e9 ani re\u0161pektovan\u00e9. Lep\u0161ie je uzna\u0165, \u017ee je rozru\u0161en\u00fd, a sp\u00fdta\u0165 sa, \u010do ho tr\u00e1pi.<\/p>\n
Tich\u00e9 urazenie probl\u00e9m nevyrie\u0161i<\/p>\n
Ani stroh\u00e9 \u201eDobre, ako chce\u0161.\u201c alebo \u201eJe mi to jedno.\u201c pod\u013ea odborn\u00ed\u010dky ni\u010d nerie\u0161i.<\/p>\n
Tak\u00e9to v\u00fdroky komunik\u00e1ciu ukon\u010dia namiesto toho, aby pomohli n\u00e1js\u0165 rie\u0161enie. Ak \u010dlovek potrebuje \u010das, mal by to poveda\u0165 priamo a po upokojen\u00ed sa k rozhovoru vr\u00e1ti\u0165.<\/p>\n
\u00datok na charakter bol\u00ed najviac<\/p>\n
V\u00fdroky ako \u201eSi sebeck\u00fd\u201c patria medzi \u010fal\u0161ie osobn\u00e9 \u00fatoky, ktor\u00e9 partnera zvy\u010dajne prin\u00fatia uzavrie\u0165 sa do seba.<\/p>\n
Namiesto n\u00e1lepkovania je lep\u0161ie jasne pomenova\u0165 konkr\u00e9tnu vec, ktor\u00fa od partnera o\u010dak\u00e1vate.<\/p>\n
Nikdy ne\u0165ahajte do h\u00e1dky rodi\u010dov<\/p>\n
Pod\u013ea Tracey Cox je jednou z najzra\u0148uj\u00facej\u0161\u00edch viet aj porovnanie s rodi\u010dmi, napr\u00edklad \u201eSi presne ako tvoja mama\u201c alebo \u201eSi cel\u00fd otec.\u201c<\/p>\n
Tak\u00e9to slov\u00e1 m\u00f4\u017eu by\u0165 obzvl\u00e1\u0161\u0165 bolestiv\u00e9, ak sa v\u00e1m partner v minulosti zd\u00f4veril so svojimi rodinn\u00fdmi traumami. Pou\u017ei\u0165 ich po\u010das h\u00e1dky m\u00f4\u017ee naru\u0161i\u0165 d\u00f4veru, ktor\u00fa je ve\u013emi \u0165a\u017ek\u00e9 z\u00edska\u0165 sp\u00e4\u0165.<\/p>\n
Odborn\u00ed\u010dka zd\u00f4raz\u0148uje, \u017ee cie\u013eom h\u00e1dky by nemalo by\u0165 partnera zrani\u0165, ale vyrie\u0161i\u0165 probl\u00e9m. Pr\u00e1ve sp\u00f4sob, ak\u00fdm spolu partneri komunikuj\u00fa aj v n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00fdch chv\u00ed\u013each, pod\u013ea nej \u010dasto rozhoduje o tom, \u010di vz\u0165ah vydr\u017e\u00ed alebo sa postupne rozpadne.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"LOND\u00ddN \u2013 Aj oby\u010dajn\u00e1 h\u00e1dka m\u00f4\u017ee zanecha\u0165 hlbok\u00e9 jazvy. Pod\u013ea vz\u0165ahovej odborn\u00ed\u010dky existuj\u00fa vety, ktor\u00e9 partnera zra\u0148uj\u00fa nato\u013eko,…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":143333,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","_share_on_mastodon":"0"},"categories":[8],"tags":[33,12660,21573,9281,43,40,42,36,50,44044,3795,49,48],"class_list":["post-143332","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-svet","tag-news","tag-ohrozenie","tag-psychologicka","tag-rady","tag-sk","tag-slovak","tag-slovencina","tag-spravy","tag-svet","tag-vety","tag-vztah","tag-world","tag-world-news"],"share_on_mastodon":{"url":"https:\/\/pubeurope.com\/@sk\/117047517981151972","error":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/143332","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=143332"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/143332\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/143333"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=143332"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=143332"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=143332"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}