{"id":109667,"date":"2025-05-17T18:24:08","date_gmt":"2025-05-17T18:24:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/109667\/"},"modified":"2025-05-17T18:24:08","modified_gmt":"2025-05-17T18:24:08","slug":"what-we-inherit-from-our-parents","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/109667\/","title":{"rendered":"What We Inherit From Our Parents"},"content":{"rendered":"

This is an edition of The Wonder Reader, a newsletter in which our editors recommend a set of stories to spark your curiosity and fill you with delight. Sign up here<\/a> to get it every Saturday morning.<\/p>\n

Many of us spend our teenage years working tirelessly to avoid becoming our parents. But sooner or later, we discover that we didn\u2019t stray quite as far as we thought. A few years ago, my colleague Faith Hill spoke with 17 parents who had the same disconcerting experience: They all noticed themselves doing something, big or small, that mimicked what their own parents used to do. \u201cSome were genuinely happy to take after them,\u201d Faith writes. \u201cBut most felt at least a little uneasy at the realization: Even people who had relatively happy childhoods, after all, can recall some parental shortcomings. Of course they don\u2019t want to replicate them.\u201d<\/p>\n

The legacy of one\u2019s parents can feel like a prophecy, Faith notes. But we\u2019re not all doomed to repeat our parents\u2019 mistakes, or destined to inherit their successes. Today\u2019s reading list is a guide to taking useful lessons without losing your own way.<\/p>\n

On Becoming Your Parents <\/strong><\/p>\n

How to Take Charge of Your Family Inheritance<\/p>\n

By Arthur C. Brooks<\/p>\n

You may be fine with becoming more like your parents or hate the idea. Either way, it\u2019s something you can control.<\/p>\n

Read the article.<\/a><\/p>\n

The Parenting Prophecy<\/p>\n

By Faith Hill<\/p>\n

The way someone was raised often shows up in the way they raise their own kids\u2014for better or worse.<\/p>\n

Read the article.<\/a><\/p>\n

Quaker Parents Were Ahead of Their Time<\/p>\n

By Gail Cornwall<\/p>\n

The nearly 375-year-old religion\u2019s principles line up surprisingly well with modern parenting research.<\/p>\n

Read the article.<\/a><\/p>\n

Still Curious?<\/b><\/p>\n

Other Diversions<\/b><\/p>\n

P.S.<\/b><\/p>\n

I recently asked readers to share a photo of something that sparks their sense of awe in the world. Elizabeth, from the Outer Banks of North Carolina, shared this photo of \u201cthe darkening day, the calm, the color, the scale of the ocean compared to the scale of me\u2014of all of us.\u201d<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll continue to feature your responses in the coming weeks. If you\u2019d like to share, reply to this email with a photo and a short description so we can share your wonder with fellow readers in a future edition of this newsletter or on our website. Send us the original, unedited photos from your phone or camera as JPGs\u2014no cropping or shrinking is needed.<\/p>\n

Please include your name (initials are okay), age, and location. By doing so, you agree that The Atlantic has permission to publish your photo and publicly attribute the response to you, including your first name and last initial, age, and\/or location that you share with your submission.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Isabel<\/p>\n

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