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Some parents will really make you question your existence!<\/p>\n
This guy shares how his alcoholic dad made things horrible for the family.<\/p>\n
Check out the full story.<\/a><\/p>\n I (26) had to have brain surgery at 18. I have a condition called Chiari type one malformation and it had worsened to the point of needing surgery.<\/p>\n I\u2019ve had health problems my whole life and this was the latest but definitely the scariest due to all the risks.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n This is where it all gets worse!<\/p>\n For some back story my father was incredibly abusive to my self my brother and our mom. He was a violent alcoholic my whole life.<\/p>\n My mom petitioned for divorce after I caught him cheating on her (I was 12 at that time). I was never the same after that.<\/p>\n Post divorce he was incredibly cynical and tried many times to sue my mom for custody of me (my brother and I share a mom but have different dads) post divorce I tried to continue our relationship.<\/p>\n I made it clear that if he did three things 1. stop drinking alcohol entirely 2. go to AA for support and 3. go to therapy with me so we could learn to communicate and work through our grievances, that we could start fresh and try to build a new relationship together.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n That\u2019s sounds so bad!<\/p>\n He declined and said that \u2018he didn\u2019t need to stop drinking and that it wasn\u2019t an addiction he just likes drinking\u2019. I stuck to my boundary and we stopped communicating.<\/p>\n The years went by and my mom was a great single mom but it was hard with everything on her plate alone.<\/p>\n He paid his child support but we never spoke again despite the constant lawsuits in an attempt to stop paying child support he told the court that my mom wasn\u2019t allowing me to see him when in reality she encouraged me constantly to try to communicate but I wasn\u2019t interested.<\/p>\n A few months before the surgery I started a go fund me because the surgery would be outrageously expensive and I wasn\u2019t working due to all the symptoms getting worse that most days I wasn\u2019t even eating or getting up out of bed.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n He was having a very rough patch\u2026<\/p>\n I posted the gofundme to my Facebook page and I didn\u2019t know but it was public. My father sees it and calls me and ask\u2019s me why I\u2019m posting about some brain surgery and tells me to stop lying and hangs up.<\/p>\n Following the phone call I text him all the details so he could see for himself the day of the surgery. He never showed, called or texted.<\/p>\n Some time goes by, I have the surgery that went from an 8 hour to a 12 hour long neurosurgery and shaving down of my first few cervical vertebrae.<\/p>\n I couldn\u2019t walk or feed my self because my nervous system was wrecked. Because of this I went to physical, occupational and speech therapies to recover.<\/p>\n I was 18 at the time and I\u2019m 26 now doing much better and walking and caring for my self thank god! It\u2019s a lot of back story I\u2019m sorry for that but I hope it paints a picture of why I did what I did at the end of this post.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n He knows he might slightly be at fault\u2026<\/p>\n Here\u2019s where I may be the AH. My father reaches out and tells me that he has changed and he\u2019s sober and he wants to go to therapy. I give him the benefit of the doubt and we start going and meeting on the weekend for lunch or coffee.<\/p>\n At our 10th session or so he asks me why I didn\u2019t tell him about the surgery * eye roll * because I didn\u2019t even get a word in before he hung up after accusing me of lying.<\/p>\n He goes on to tell me how he shouldn\u2019t have found out on facebook and see my wounds\/scars (updates for the gofundme that he didn\u2019t even contribute to) and how traumatizing that was for him and how I should have told him.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n That\u2019s INSANE!<\/p>\n I went off and I let him have it.<\/p>\n I think all the rage flooded in, it was like word vomit, and I couldn\u2019t stop.<\/p>\n I told him that if maybe he put his only daughter\u2019s health and life first before the bottle maybe he would be more involved and maybe if he didn\u2019t make my mom\u2019s life a living hell in court maybe she or our family would have reached out but after the abuse, the lies, the addiction, the straight up abandonment and the accusations that it wasn\u2019t my responsibility to make him aware or cater to his feelings because I could\u2019ve lost my life, instead of partying and having fun I was drawing up a will and power of attorney incase I ended up in a coma which was a very likely possibility if something went wrong.<\/p>\n We haven\u2019t spoken since and I don\u2019t know if what I said was wrong so I\u2019m here to see what you all think. I think I was justified but maybe I\u2019m wrong. Again apologies for the long back story.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n YIKES! That sounds like a lot of drama!<\/p>\n Never Miss a Story<\/p>\n Sign up to get our BEST stories of the week straight to your inbox.<\/p>\n Why can\u2019t people learn from their mistakes?<\/p>\n Let\u2019s find out what folks on Reddit think about this one.<\/p>\n This user has an important question for this guy\u2026<\/p>\n Exactly! This user doesn\u2019t get why the dad is acting the way he is.<\/p>\n This user shares their experience of this surgery.<\/p>\n If you enjoyed this story, check out this post<\/a> about a mom who wants her daughter to help pay for her own cell phone, but her daughter says she can\u2019t force her to get a job.<\/p>\n This user shares how it is okay to be hurt in such situations.<\/p>\n This user knows this guy is not at fault!<\/p>\n Somebody needs to let go of certain things\u2026<\/p>\n Enjoyed this story? 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